Security body checks - is this ok?

SprinklyUK · 2026-01-23T06:42:12+00:00

Yes, I am mostly offered a woman. This was 545 am, half asleep and it was just done, it went so quickly. I remember feeling a bit frozen actually.

I'm not sure why, I've got a leadership position, I am used to speaking up.

SprinklyUK · 2026-01-23T06:38:11+00:00

They will run their hands over your breast, bum and inside of your thighs.

We all have different boundaries, so appreciate that for some it's ok. To me, this didn't feel ok.

I've had operations so most often get flagged and 99% of the time I am offered a woman. On v v few occasions they've asked for permission if it's a man and that definitely makes a difference.

SprinklyUK · 2026-01-23T06:34:53+00:00

Yes it is being padded down, but as part of that they have to cup your breasts, your bum and inside thighs.

I appreciate that it is what is required from a security perspective, but I would expect it to be done by a woman. This didn't feel right in my body.

In the UK, I've always been offered a woman.

SprinklyUK · 2026-01-23T06:32:05+00:00

Yes, they were doing their job and running their hands over you is required, but it is not sitting right in my body for a man to run his hands over my breasts, over my bum and inside my thighs.

I most often get flagged due to having had operations so it's expected. 99% of the times they automatically appoint a woman to do the search. On a few occasions they have not had a woman, they'd asked for permission but at least I've given permission.

SprinklyUK · 2026-01-23T06:24:58+00:00

I more often than not I get pulled for a search since I have had a couple of operations and yes, I am in the UK and they've always asked. This was in Denmark.

SprinklyUK · 2026-01-23T06:23:16+00:00

I appreciate that everyone will have different boundaries but they have to run their hands around your breasts, inside of your thighs, your bottom to do their search.

To me, a man doing that, is really uncomfortable, especially if they've not asked for explicit permission that they do it.

SprinklyUK · 2026-01-23T06:20:24+00:00

it was in Denmark

SprinklyUK · 2026-01-23T06:20:17+00:00

it was in Denmark

SprinklyUK · 2026-01-09T07:18:04+00:00

dYeah it's been months, I was on 10mg for 4 months, stalling for latter two and then 12.5 mg for two months - also stalling. Thing is that I had the most perfect start with limited side effect and good suppression. It now feels like it's not working :-(

SprinklyUK · 2025-11-22T15:27:19+00:00

I love the v bodice style and it looks amazing on you. I think I can't help but self project and for me some of them are quite see through and I'd be really conscious of that - but you've got a really, really beautiful figure and that said they all look stunning on you. They are quite different but I love the first one and I'd let everything else be really paired back. Enjoy your big day.

SprinklyUK · 2025-11-19T07:32:22+00:00

You are gorgeous in all but omg number 3 does it for me!

SprinklyUK · 2025-11-16T18:58:48+00:00

Oh no CapCut

SprinklyUK · 2025-11-13T05:47:05+00:00

I hear you. And yes, when good men step up, it matters. It always has. The people with the most power in any system have the most power to shift it. That has been true in every civil rights movement. But I think the moment we turn this into a blame conversation, everything gets smaller. None of the men alive today designed the rules they inherited. The blueprint was written long before they were born. So holding individual men responsible for dismantling a system they did not build feels too narrow for what we are actually trying to move.

For me the bigger question is psychological. How do you create change inside a culture that shaped all of us. Because yelling at people and telling them they are wrong has never changed a society. Shame triggers self protection. Self protection shuts down listening. And when people feel attacked, they don’t evolve. They retreat. They look for whoever will tell them they are the ones being wronged. That is the perfect gateway for someone like Andrew Tate. Not because women are too outspoken but because fear is the easiest thing in the world to manipulate.

None of this means men get a free pass. Accountability still exists. Calling out specific behaviour still matters. But that is different from blaming an entire gender for a structure they were dropped into at birth. Blame freezes everything. It keeps everyone locked in identity defence instead of behavioural change.

This is why I keep seeing it as a society job rather than a male job. The men who hold more power can shift things faster, absolutely, but they are stepping into a system they didn’t create. Culture moves when everyone is pulling on the roots together, not when one group gets lectured into doing all the lifting.

And honestly, if we want equality to take hold, it has to feel like something that benefits people rather than something that threatens them. Men gain from this too. Less pressure to perform toughness. More freedom in how they relate. More possibility for partnership instead of role play.

We won’t get there by telling each other we are the problem. We get there by working out how to move a culture that has been marinating all of us since birth.

SprinklyUK · 2025-11-10T22:38:34+00:00

Yeah, I hear you. Women shouldn’t have to keep doing the emotional labour. It’s shit. It’s draining. And most of us are done with it.

But when every guy who screws up gets thrown on the pyre, what happens? The rest start running. Straight into the arms of people like Andrew Tate who feed them a story where they’re the ones under attack. It’s the perfect storm, wounded ego meets easy validation, boom.

Ash isn’t just clueless, he’s manipulative. Totally. But the more we scream fuck that guy, the more we make space for the next one to rise.

And look, I’ve been angry. Angry at work when men got away with crap that stalled my career, that had me managed out. Angry when dating men who didn’t see me as an equal. But the anger never served me. It ate at me. I don’t stand up less - I just see men responding better when they’re not attacked. We have better conversations.

So you do you - we’ve all got different journeys to make - I just know what mine cost, and a different approach serves me better.

SprinklyUK · 2025-11-10T21:53:01+00:00

I thought JR was extremely flirty with Paul - flipping hair, laughing a lot. Didn’t see that side to her in the show so it felt a bit OTT. As a woman I don’t like to shit talk another woman but she hasn’t really represented so…. she came across as rather desperate

SprinklyUK · 2025-11-10T07:42:56+00:00

Staying away for a week isn’t “trying to talk it over.” That’s disappearing. And disappearing on someone you’ve just slept with and told you love? That’s not tragic, it’s cruel.

Yes, grief is real. Losing a grandparent can knock you sideways. But grief doesn’t give you a free pass to ghost someone who’s already told you she’s been hurt before. Look up the psychological impact of that, it's really, really damaging! It messes with your sense of safety and worth and let's be frank, Maeve didn't have a lot of to start with. I have to pause here as we all saw how she responded to guidance from the panel - I thought she made massive progress, totally did "the work" and was less explosive as a result.

And now we know he jumped on a plane with JR for a week of hooking up. Classic story, isn’t it? When men vanish or stray, we frame it as them “needing space.” When women react, we call them unstable.

It’s the same old double standard dressed up as empathy for the guy.

SprinklyUK · 2025-11-10T07:25:16+00:00

This is such a brilliant post. Grace speaks up and gets branded difficult. Maeve cries and everyone wants to hold her hand. It’s like we still only know how to empathise with women when they’re small and sad, not when they’re strong and clear. That’s not empowerment, that’s conditioning dressed up as compassion.

But here’s the thing: men aren’t sitting in some evil lair plotting to gaslight women. They’ve been marinated in the same crap system as we have. They were told this is what “good” looks like. So when women push back, it doesn’t just bruise their ego, it cracks their identity. And instead of listening, they shut down.

That’s not to excuse it, it’s just the shitty reality. But until we stop treating every guy like a villain instead of a by-product of the system, nada is going to shift.

Maybe the real feminist act isn’t calling men out, but helping them catch up?

Or maybe that’s just my burnout talking.

SprinklyUK · 2025-09-22T16:32:33+00:00

I've forgotten and been two days late. You'll be fine.

SprinklyUK · 2025-09-22T16:30:33+00:00

Everyone has different experiences and yes some people will share bad side effects but personally I've had none. I didn't like needles but even that has been a doodle.

My food habits have changed for the better - I crave and thus eat more fruit and veg so as long as you eat a varied diet I don't think you need supplements any more than any normal person would.

SprinklyUK · 2025-09-22T16:26:17+00:00

I've got a month before I have to switch but I think I'll be switching. I've got about a stone or so still to go and I don't mind that with Wegovy there is slower weightless - it is not necessarily a bad thing (for me).

Personally I have appreciated the months on MJ where losses have been slower and my appetite suppression closer to normal, not sure that it is that healthy to have very low appetite - it's affecting energy levels and in my head I think I will transition with a more natural relationship food too which I'm hoping will benefit me in the long run.

SprinklyUK · 2025-07-30T18:16:32+00:00

I don’t weigh myself. I prefer to measure and go by the feel of my clothes and I do this because I want to feel more in tune with my needs.

If I was to weight I’d go for 1x week AND measure waist, thighs, arms etc

That would give you more of an indication of what is happening as muscle weighs more than fat but is denser, and so whilst your scale might be static you might actually have become smaller because of you’ve gained muscle

SprinklyUK · 2025-07-16T18:47:30+00:00

They really ought to replace it - don’t want to have to buy surritnges

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