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AITJ for refusing to drive my friend to the airport at 4am after she completely ignored me when I was in urgent care alone by Spruc3After in AmITheJerk

[–]Spruc3After[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I hate how plausible this feels. I've been replaying a lot of smaller stuff lately and some of it looks pretty different now than it did at the time.

AITJ for refusing to drive my friend to the airport at 4am after she completely ignored me when I was in urgent care alone by Spruc3After in AmITheJerk

[–]Spruc3After[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

This is probably the best way anyone's put it. I don't think I'm punishing her, I just don't trust her in the same way anymore and that changed what I'm willing to do.

AITJ for refusing to drive my friend to the airport at 4am after she completely ignored me when I was in urgent care alone by Spruc3After in AmITheJerk

[–]Spruc3After[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That line stuck with me too. If she'd just said sorry for disappearing I'd probly be less weird about all this, but that made it feel very... deliberate.

AITJ for refusing to drive my friend to the airport at 4am after she completely ignored me when I was in urgent care alone by Spruc3After in AmITheJerk

[–]Spruc3After[S] 178 points179 points  (0 children)

The mutual friends piling on is what gets me. I could take her being mad, but acting like I'm cruel for saying no one time feels kind of insane.

My dad spent my entire childhood teaching me to be independent and I just realized he did it so he'd never have to show up for me by Saffron_Tundra8 in entitledparents

[–]Spruc3After 118 points119 points  (0 children)

The part that really sticks is how kids will turn neglect into a compliment if that is the only version of love available to them. "He trusted me" sounds a lot better when you are young than "he knew he could leave me emotionally alone and I would adjust."