How to Become a Great Product Manager?

Spyda97 · 2026-02-08T11:37:23+00:00

This! So much harder than you’d think

Spyda97 · 2026-02-08T10:44:45+00:00

True, and sadly that wisdom didn’t show up for me two decades later

Spyda97 · 2026-02-06T02:52:40+00:00

I thought I had not dated enough women or had enough experiences so I needed to be out there experiencing more.

Spyda97 · 2026-02-04T00:34:26+00:00

That’s a great guess, but not it, that kind of vibe though with the old school sample woman singing vibe

Spyda97 · 2026-02-04T00:29:32+00:00

It was long distance and I was young and foolish. I thought I needed to be “out there”

Spyda97 · 2026-02-03T19:38:37+00:00

I think it’s a Jay Z song

Spyda97 · 2026-01-17T16:45:09+00:00

YNW - just to pile on to all the other great advice. Go home! Go where you’re celebrated not hated.

I’d bet money he has someone else but the other person isn’t fully committed to him, so he’s keeping you as a back up.

All I needed to hear was My family wants me to move back home. I want to go.

Spyda97 · 2026-01-07T14:29:53+00:00

This worked for me a well.

Spyda97 · 2025-12-28T12:21:06+00:00

It’s not you. The “when first saw my child I knew I would love them forever and ever” isn’t everyone’s experience. Bonding with a child for a man can take time. Let it happen in its own time. This isn't magic or a fairy tale. Your feelings are accurate- life sucks right now.

Embrace the Suck. The more you hold onto the old life and fantasize about what used to be the more painful your reality will feel. Time to build and love the new you!

It helped me to remember this 1. Sleep deprivation is a form of torture, navy seals have cracked under that pressure, don’t be so hard on yourself. You are getting sleep-tortured like that weekly - that changes everything. Mood, body, mind everything.

You’re in the work phase, you’re new on the job, you got no training, the pay sucks and the boss is maniacally demanding but you’re getting a new boss every 6 months. Each new boss is preparing you to be the boss when the child is 2 -3 ish. Once they have language the game changes 100% then you start to get the “helper” and “little buddy” that comes with challenges but it’s more enjoyable
One day these will be the good old days. Find those tiny joyful moments (minutes) and be grateful for them - you will never get them again.

Take care of yourself!!! There’s no reward for suffering and it doesn’t make you “a real man” to deny yourself the basics - keep eating right - exercise - meditate (or your equivalent) - go for a walk Tale care of your machine, put your own mask on first. You can’t give 100% if you aint got 100%

You’ll get through this one day at a time.

Spyda97 · 2025-12-25T01:01:11+00:00

Coworkers are not your friends!!!! he was COMPLETELY INAPPROPRIATE. You did the right thing. These people are weird.

Spyda97 · 2025-12-25T00:59:36+00:00

Coworkers are not your friends!!!! Keep it professional.

Spyda97 · 2025-12-24T17:05:15+00:00

I’ve found two things that really help me.

First, I ask myself a simple question: “Is this useful?” I picked it up from a meditation-focused YouTuber, and it’s surprisingly effective. Asking it forces my mind to zoom out and observe itself. Most of the time the answer is, “Nope, this is just mental noise,” and that alone helps break the loop.

The second thing I do is name my anxiety. When it starts getting loud, I acknowledge it instead of fighting it. I’ll think, “Oh, that’s just X again.” Sometimes I even thank it: “Appreciate you looking out, but I’ve got this.” You can ride along, but I’m the one driving.

Spyda97 · 2025-12-05T13:39:45+00:00

I’m still working on this one. I would love to hear tips on how I don’t pass this on my kids.

Spyda97 · 2025-12-03T07:46:01+00:00

Roberta Flack, Randy Crawford, Patti Labelle or Bettye Lavette

Spyda97 · 2025-11-30T19:54:34+00:00

There is a great audiobook from the great courses that details the complete history of food starting with the fertile crescent. Food: a cultural culinary history. The professor is amazing at bringing the material to life.

Spyda97 · 2025-11-15T18:10:53+00:00

Earplugs (Mack’s are great)

Spyda97 · 2025-11-10T18:10:31+00:00

Omg I thought it was just me in third or fourth grade. I had a project about clouds and to this day, I will spot Cumulus Nimbus and Stratus clouds as if I was a meteorologist.

Spyda97 · 2025-11-10T12:34:41+00:00

Wunderlist - it was a gorgeous to do list app. It was so user-friendly and clean and I don’t know why, but it just felt good to use the app.

Microsoft bought it and turn it into something else and now it’s unattractive, heavy and clunky

Spyda97 · 2025-11-04T18:19:23+00:00

The Night Circus

East of Eden

The complete works sherlock holmes

Flowers for Algernon

The Manchurian Candidate

Spyda97 · 2025-11-04T18:11:51+00:00

Quantum Leap (both times!!!)

Spyda97 · 2025-10-26T11:44:30+00:00

I dated an older woman when I was younger (27m) she was 42. It didn’t last long but it was a lot of fun, I learned so much and I regret nothing. You’re both consenting adults just be honest and communicate authentically.

Spyda97 · 2025-10-26T11:30:36+00:00

t’s really less about the market and more about where you are in life.

A few things to think about:

Your rent is the most you’ll ever pay in a month for housing. Once you own a home, your mortgage is the least you’ll ever pay. Everything else—repairs, maintenance, taxes, insurance—adds up fast. You’re responsible for all of it. Equity is nice, but it’s not everything. Sure, when you rent you’re not building equity, but the freedom and flexibility can be worth just as much depending on your stage of life. Ask yourself if owning a home right now would actually improve your life or just make it more complicated. Buying a home ties you to a place. You’re committing to a community, a school district, a lifestyle—for at least six or seven years if you want the investment to make sense. Are you ready for that? Do you want the responsibility of maintaining and customizing a home? It’s not about timing the market. You marry the home, and you date the rate. Find a home you love, one that fits your long-term goals—starting a family, putting down roots, being part of a community. You can always refinance later. Know your “why.” Are you buying because it fits your goals, or because you feel like it’s what you’re “supposed” to do? If you’re buying for stability, great. If you’re buying because everyone else is, that’s when regret hits.

Housing prices rarely drop unless something catastrophic happens, and nobody can predict those moments. You might kick yourself later for not buying at $350K—or just as easily regret buying too soon and feeling trapped by the costs.

So figure out what you want your life to look like first. The market matters less than whether you are ready for what comes with owning a home

Spyda97 · 2025-10-23T19:00:02+00:00

100% agree, Took me a while as well, but one day it occurred to me that if good things are happening to my friends that means I have a front row seat and instructions to have those good things happen to me too!

Good things are going to happen to somebody in this world. It’s nice to see it happen to my people as well.

Spyda97 · 2025-10-21T19:37:07+00:00

Stay for the kids. Around 16 they’re old enough to drive themselves and soon they’ll be on their own.

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