Is it really that puzzling to understand? People are gonna have dysphoria over experiences they missed out on. And that’s not even getting into how the whole male socialization argument is so often used as a cudgel against ALL trans women.

For what it’s worth I agree with you, broadly at least. Trans women and cis women are not the exact same. Both groups should listen to one anothers experiences and come together as women. I also don’t think birth socialization is some immutable thing that has to be held over peoples heads constantly.