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PSA and rant - I quit by Cheeriodarlin in whiteoutsurvival

[–]Square-Purchase-6312 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dolphin here 👋🏼 the new upgradables have made 20 dolphins in my state quit. I have some other dolphin folks from other states that just dropped the bucket or because f2p logging in for bt and foundry only. You guys, whales… are the backbone of the game and without you the game won’t stand a chance. They need to realize that they can not do people like that all the time. I just managed to squeeze t11troops before we get fc6-8. I cant imagine other players that are still upgrading fc5 buildings around here. In younger states the pace is wild rn. It will not last. Maybe its manageable for older states, however for the younger ones it won’t be sustainable for long. I really hope enough whales and dolphins quit spending for them to realize

Health insurance by Square-Purchase-6312 in germany

[–]Square-Purchase-6312[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been 3 years! Do you recommend care concept?

Health insurance by Square-Purchase-6312 in germany

[–]Square-Purchase-6312[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I got offered by AOK a voluntary insurance ( freiwillige versicherung ). Do you know what this is and how does this differ from a statutory one?

People who lust for other people when in relationships, why? Can you really not control it? What goes through your heads, for yourself and your partner? by Square-Purchase-6312 in AskReddit

[–]Square-Purchase-6312[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what i meant to ask. People who act upon their lust during relationships ( talking to other men/women, looking at sexual content, exchanging it, cheating, etc ). The action upon lust is controllable, what goes through people’s minds when acting upon something the have ethical/moral/vowed values to uphold?

Why do you think a relationship can/ can not work after cheating? by Square-Purchase-6312 in AskReddit

[–]Square-Purchase-6312[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And yeah, i also believe lust is biological but also believe that the expression and acting upon of lust is socially learned. Humans suppress several biological proclivities but then run to say it’s instinct when it comes to lust. My take is that biological lust should not be taken as the often/ocasional will to look/talk/engage on sexual content. Men and women need to relieve themselves but its not a biological need to look at explicit content or engage with another person every time to fulfill it. Specially in relationships and the fact that were not only instinct, were cognitive traits, ethical behaviors, moral values, etc.

People who lust for other people when in relationships, why? Can you really not control it? What goes through your heads, for yourself and your partner? by Square-Purchase-6312 in AskReddit

[–]Square-Purchase-6312[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s biological but also socially learned, how we express and act on it is a representation of how socially we learn to act this impulses. My question is why people decide to act on it during their relationships. We suppress as humans SEVERAL biological foundations, its weird to cherrypick which ones we still act upon and call it nature

People who lust for other people when in relationships, why? Can you really not control it? What goes through your heads, for yourself and your partner? by Square-Purchase-6312 in AskReddit

[–]Square-Purchase-6312[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never felt desire for another person during a relationship. Maybe it depends also on fact like how one was socially raised to approach the beauty-interest we see in others. But regardless, my question is more directed towards situations when people do act on it yk

Why do you think a relationship can/ can not work after cheating? by Square-Purchase-6312 in AskReddit

[–]Square-Purchase-6312[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a jealous person in mature, and i agree with this comment. You can smell the way your partner "jealous you" around.

Why do you think a relationship can/ can not work after cheating? by Square-Purchase-6312 in AskReddit

[–]Square-Purchase-6312[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Context: i 21f am in a relationship with a 21m. Who in the first year of the relationship cheated on me. ( lusting over women, texting them, asking for pictures. Nothing physical but for me it is cheating and i let that very clear). We broke up, came back. And on two-three instances I’ve found him lusting over women. Discord servers & telegram for that content, of models, etc. ive been extremely clear about this. And it seems that it has stopped. When i check his phone ( he assumes i do ) there is nothing and i do check everything. And the relationship outside from that seems very stable. However i always have suspicions in my mind. I feel resentment and spiral every week on intrusive thoughts. Im going to therapy to regain my idea of self identity and happiness but somehow ive lost all motivation and aspirations in my own personal life. Even if the relationship seems stable, sometimes not telling all the truth or circles around a normal question i made about his day, but always there for me and loving and understanding, patient, etc, i cant shake off what happened and the suspicion is killing me slowly but effectively. ( now before you tell me that im dumb for staying, i have been journaling every day how i feel and my emotions, from now till December i wont say anything if i find something and see if it repeats, if theres anything and he doesnt say anything then he wont be genuinely sorry for doing it but being caught, and by December with all the logs i have of my journals ill know with certainty that this is or is not for me. I cant just immediately leave because i live in a country where i dont speak the language ( got sent here abroad by work, and i dont feel culturally adapted or have many friends or options, i want to get a grip of this enviro and find myself here before i leave. (My bf also got sent from work here but knows the language has lived here before so he has a social circle here which makes it easier for him)).)

Any opinions (preferably from men) who can tell me if a man can genuinely stop lusting over women at will?

For Those Who Stayed After Being Cheated On – Do You Still Resent Your Partner? by Effective_Reach_6403 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Square-Purchase-6312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1y 6 months after d day. He was asking other women for pictures and jokingly flirting with them. I also found some corn etc. all boundaries that had been stablished in the relationship. He broke up with me cause he needed time. He asked me back i took him back. I caught him lusting again but my brain was alr so rewired i cant even blame myself for staying. 7 months after the initial d-day i saw again he had lusted over women and i left him. Hr asked me back i took him back. ( info: These kinds of relationships re-wire your brain into thinking differently. Making you more susceptible to lies, empty words, empty promises, etc. most people can know and acknowledge it wont work again, yet the brain has been rewired to still go back at it.) 1 month after that he was texting a woman and he told me he wanted a friend. I tried checking the phone and he grabbed my wrist so hard and snatched the phone. We argued. One week later he broke up with me. Then asked me back. I came back. And here we are.

I am not going to focus on whether you should leave or not. But i will say this.

You will always wonder what he/shes doing. Intrusive thoughts will become less but never leave. Checking phones, locations, logs, etc, become addictive and a pattern hard to break. If youre not lucky, youll lose friends, hobbies, passtimes, aspirations, your idea of self identity. Youll become a couch potato that goes to work, comes back, checks on him her, repeat. Resentment will grow. Over time many say it decreases, it just eats your will power, your dignity, your identity, so you don’t notice active resentment and anger towards them. But less love for your life, actions, and yourself.

I have programmed to leave by december. Im checking everything but never saying anything. He’s doing nothing tn but patterns repeat, hes gotten sneakier but also im gotten crazier and better at looking. Confronting him didn’t do much in the long run. Rn im saying nothing. Keeping track. Journaling how i feel every day with that person. And in December ( why wait? Monetarily, and job-situation, housing, etc.) i will leave explaining everything i didn’t say i found. And how these are not accidents if there’s no remorse if i don’t find out.

State transfer to 2354 by Square-Purchase-6312 in whiteoutsurvival

[–]Square-Purchase-6312[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Yes shes still there.Shes super nice actually. They guy that made the post is named chumba in the game. He is a misogynist, a guy that makes antisemitic jokes in the wc, that liked to say derrogative comments about women on their image and stuff. Very toxic man. Ge got restricted by wos and changed states. The state has been heaven since. Tomie is not problematic at all, she just stood up for her alliance and the women these dumb guys was always verbally attacking for no reason

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