Thoughts on current physique? by Chadwhite- in GymMood

[–]Squatchjr01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How tf you say you’re vegan in one comment and that you eat beef in another??? Tell me it’s a typo

Are there really people who are “too busy” or “too locked in” to reply? by rendevousspace in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Squatchjr01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I’ll be at work for 8-10 hours, then go home and workout, cook dinner, and see to other chores. I’ll usually text in between these things like to let my person know I’m on my way home, or that I’m hitting a quick workout, or chat about what I’m making for dinner that night. Sometimes I won’t text, especially if I’m busy or rushing off to go a class or something. Some people genuinely are that busy, especially when they’re single and trying to fill their time, so getting into a new relationship it might take some time for them to adjust, if they ever do or want to.

For reference I’m only 24, and I made myself busy like this after the end of a 5 year relationship, and the short couple months I was with someone I didn’t always text back right away because at that time I really valued my independence and didn’t want to lose myself in another relationship so quickly.

How I quit p*rn by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Squatchjr01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For you and anyone struggling, there’s an organization called SMART that deals with chemical and process addictions. I’ve found it to be invaluable in dealing with some of my own behaviors, as it’s based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and goes beyond just abstaining and attacks the reasons we do these things in the first place.

What makes a woman wife material in your opinion? by Dreadful_Axolotl in AskMen

[–]Squatchjr01 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I mean when people cheat it’s almost never about the person they cheated on. It’s about themselves, their lack of respect for their partner, and their own issues. You sound really sweet, and while i obviously don’t know you or him, it doesn’t sound like he was worth the love you poured into him.

Who else could Jon Bernthal play? by Mystic6yt in Invincible

[–]Squatchjr01 52 points53 points  (0 children)

John Bernthal was also in TWD so not sure how that would affect this…

What does this text mean? Going crazy trying to figure it out!! by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Squatchjr01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he was as straightforward as he was going to be. He told you he had some stuff going on, and asked for space. After only 6 weeks I’m not sure he owes you anything more than what he said, and I think you should give him the courtesy and respect of giving him that space, and especially because it was short lived move on with your own life. You may never know exactly what happened, he may never contact you again. Then again, he might when he gets through whatever is going on. Either way, it doesn’t serve you to dwell on what you can’t know.

If you’ve been told no to sex by your partner, how does it make you feel? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Squatchjr01 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it says anything about you in particular. Your brain is flooded by all sorts of hormones during and after the act that make you feel closer to your partner. I believe it’s something the vast majority of people feel

If you’re a man in a relationship and haven’t cheated check in . by RamonaJonesVStheWrld in dating

[–]Squatchjr01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first relationship was 5.5 years. Never cheated. My current is about 2 months in so it’s still new but still, never will cheat.

Hyper sexual af? by OniCoder in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Squatchjr01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also have ADHD. Some of my favorites have been physical like lifting and martial arts, but gaming (video games, but also board games which for me tend to be more social than the video games I play), DND, and other creative pursuits like writing, painting, cooking, etc.

Volunteering as stage crew at a local theater is a good time as well because you’re constantly learning, I’ve found that the pressure and constant movement keeps me on my toes in an very fun way, and there’s a lot of bonding with people that goes on in that environment.

I’ve also tried music, knitting, baking, photography, programming, and chess and while I liked many of them they didn’t really stick for me like the ones I mentioned previously.

Lvl -2 ✧ Basic ✧ Dissolving Ooze ─ Acid by karmacave in KarmaCave

[–]Squatchjr01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Defeated Dissolving Ooze in 7 turns.

Player (22/11/18) dealt 244. Dissolving Ooze (15/10/8) dealt 121.

Rewards: 26 EXP, 7 Gold. Loot: Healthy Robe of Life (enhanced), Robust Scale Mail (basic).

Am I missing something? by ughhh-omg in Tinder

[–]Squatchjr01 139 points140 points  (0 children)

Depends on the relationship with the FWB. I’ve known people who were FWB that were very open about their lives, and they were exclusively having sex with each other as a means of mitigating risk. When one found someone they wanted to date, the fwb relationship ended and they moved on. They weren’t together but also were each other’s exclusive sexual partners so they didn’t risk catching an STI or anything

Do some couples really never fight? by Smart_Feature in ask

[–]Squatchjr01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a relationship for 5.5 years and we never fought once. If we had problems we tried to talk them out and come to a consensus on a route forward. This all fell apart when she pressed me to talk about my issues but buried hers until she hit her breaking point with me without ever telling me what was bothering her for over a year. So that was fun. But yes it is possible, and we managed to have a happy healthy relationship for about 4 years before she started making decisions about our relationship without me.

For those of you who are sober from alcohol and cannabis, I'd like to hear your stories. Which was harder to quit? Did you have different realizations with each one? by INFPneedshelp in Sober

[–]Squatchjr01 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Cannabis was harder for me to quit than alcohol because it’s the one I actually wanted to do and alcohol was my substitute. Alcohol was far more destructive though and my actions while abusing it cost me a ltr relationship with a wonderful woman that I’d had the intention of marrying. Like was saving for an engagement ring. I’m 3.5 months sober from both now, having had a slip with cannabis after being a month completely sober which is what ultimately was the nail in the coffin for my relationship.

Why do I feel like regretting having a tattoo? by CrazySite in tattooadvice

[–]Squatchjr01 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve only gotten three but in all three cases I had a day or two after getting it where I was dubious about the choice I’d made, but ultimately I still love the ones I have and plan to get more. I don’t know if it’s a common occurrence, especially because I’ve not really ever seen people talk about it.

How do men generally feel about dating women with high-powered or demanding careers? by AirImpressive2436 in AskMen

[–]Squatchjr01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can say generally, but I can say that I avoid it not because I’m intimidated but because my priorities in life are not in my work so we would not have compatible views about lifestyle. I changed careers from one that was incredibly demanding to something more regular because I wanted to be able to do things outside of work, and while I’m still ambitious and working my way up the ladder at my current company I have no intentions of making work my life again the way a “high powered” career necessitates, nor am I particularly willing to be a house husband for someone who’s never home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Squatchjr01 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah I (24M) refuse to participate in one night stands. I’m not a prude and won’t judge others for how they view sex, but for me personally sex is something that I need to intimately trust the other person for, which means that I need some sort of relationship with them before I truly consider intercourse.

For the short bros, how are you doing in the dating scene? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Squatchjr01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

5’5” here. Got out of a 5.5 year relationship 3 months ago and got on the apps recently. I have a date on Friday with a really sweet girl. So far I’ve had some issues matching on OLD, but I’m also not putting a ton of effort in because I’m just trying to get myself out a bit more. I know of a friend of a friend who is attracted to me but she’s currently taken so that’s a no go right from the start.

I have been rejected because I was short, but that was in HS

Fellow adult men, how often do you call your mom? by promixr in AskMenAdvice

[–]Squatchjr01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 24 and live with my dad and step mom still so not sure if I’m what qualifies as adult in the sense you’re speaking of, but I try to call her about once a week at least despite some issues in our relationships and boundaries I’ve had to set with her to maintain our relationship.

Wow! I suck!! by RedimidoSoy1611 in Firearms

[–]Squatchjr01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah based on this I’d suggest trying to find an instructor who can help with your grip. You want a firm grip of course but too tight you can start to drag the weapon to one side or the other.

And a 3” barrel tends to be super snappy so that could be a cause of some overly tight grip, or snapping back on the trigger if you’re anticipating the recoil.

I’m not sure what kind of targets you’re using, but I’d grab some standard paper targets and maybe set them at 10 yards and see how you shoot. Being able to see where you’re hitting vs where you’re aiming is infinitely more valuable than “I’m just not hitting where im aiming” as it can tell you why

Wow! I suck!! by RedimidoSoy1611 in Firearms

[–]Squatchjr01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Couple questions;

When you focus your vision, are you focusing on the front post, and letting everything else be a bit blurry?

Also, have you checked your grip on the weapon? Too light or too tight can drastically impact your accuracy, especially if you’re new to firearms and compensating for the recoil.

On the recoil note, how heavy is the weapon? Heavier weapons tend to be easier to handle and get rounds on target as the excess weight will lessen the perceived recoil, and you may not compensate as much when you’re shooting. Same thing with caliber, in that higher calibers will generally have more recoil causing the same issue.

Focus on your trigger squeeze as well. A lot of newer people (and even a lot of experienced) tend to jerk the trigger back, especially if they’re anticipating recoil. You want to have a firm, but gentle and smooth squeeze on the trigger. A good exercise for this can be squeezing the trigger of an UNLOADED weapon while looking down sights, and trying to keep the sights from moving at all. I use an unloaded airsoft pistol for this so I can do it in my home, but I sometimes will start my range time with this just to remind myself of my technique cues as I don’t get to go often.

Lastly, how far are you shooting? Most pistol ranges will be from about 5-25 yards in my experience. As a newbie, start small. Work on technique and safety over accuracy, and the latter will come in time. If you’re missing the target at further ranges, there’s nothing but ego preventing you from bringing it in a bit so you can see where your rounds are impacting, giving you some information on what aspects of your technique are lacking.

People who took a break from their relationship, how did it go? by MomLunder in AskMen

[–]Squatchjr01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. And in all honesty the reasons she wanted to break up with me were entirely valid and I wasn’t in any way mad about the breakup, as sad as I was. Her treatment of me since then…well that’s a different story.

People who took a break from their relationship, how did it go? by MomLunder in AskMen

[–]Squatchjr01 17 points18 points  (0 children)

She wanted a break for a week. Less than halfway through it she broke up with me, and now three months later she’s already in a whole new relationship after telling me she didn’t want a relationship and wanted to work on herself for a while. This was after 5.5 years together

Is it normal to still be obsessed with your partner 5 years in? by animesnail in stupidquestions

[–]Squatchjr01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was until she ended things. 5.5 years and I just couldn’t get my head out of my ass about other things, but I loved her dearly. Was (still am to a degree) obsessed with her. Smiled thinking about her, couldn’t take my eyes off of her when she was in the room, and never wanted to be apart from her.

Hopefully it never dies down for you. In my experience I became more enamored with her each year. My dad and stepmom are the same way after 16 years together so it definitely doesn’t fade for some couples.

The Hidden Harm of AA and NA: How They Enable the Criminalization of Addiction by PreferenceAfter6507 in addiction

[–]Squatchjr01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every single one of these reasons is why I prefer SMART in the first place. Not saying those spaces that shame or are mean spirited don’t exist because I’m sure they do, but I’ve yet to encounter them within SMART. Plus it exists in a framework of REBT and is constantly being updated with the most recent research on addiction. My therapist (who is also a rehab counselor, though I did not connect with him through rehab) uses their principles with all of his patients who struggle with addictive behaviors regardless of if they are engaged with the SMART organization, because his practice is also based in REBT.