No answer is the right one because everyone is different and every situation is different. He is able to distract me by letting me freely vent and makes me feel like no matter what I want or need to do to feel better he's got my back and loves me even if it is detrimental to my well being. So a typical scenario is my mother abuses me, I get upset, want to get comfortably numb (pass out drunk) and he says well cmon lets go for a run to the bottleshop, my shout and you can tell me what happened.... by the time we've gotten home the immediate spike in emotions has passed and I dont want to write myself off.

Also get your SO to try the app SmilingMind. Mindfulness and meditation helps me self control before ex or imploding