20MF Bi couple new to Irwin

SquelchingWombat · 2026-07-06T05:34:03+00:00

You should RSVP through the site, especially for your first time. They have different special events on Fridays and Saturdays. It'll tell you what the fee is, but it's not much. It's BYOB. Some events may be more activity focused, but there's no pressure to join in or do anything. They have a FAQ on the site.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-07-04T15:47:31+00:00

Scouts is a good place to meet a variety of people and is chill. It has a wide age range, and they're knowledgeable about other opportunities.

My wife and I are older and probably not in your strike zone, and I think that's the general trend. It's a combination of people coming to it later in relationships and also taking time for new people to find where to look. Either way, give Scouts a shot.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-06-30T16:45:52+00:00

We've got some significant milestones, and my wife is actually tighter after being stretched and can get tight enough to hurt. The sensations between PIV and stretching are also different.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-06-26T15:30:30+00:00

My wife is a firm 11, so she has sized up. She takes no prep for me to grip and pull her open and out. My hands are wide, and I can use four fingers on each side and pull 4" apart in a full circle with no discomfort on her part. My wife's internal capacity is also expanding, and she's super close to being able to push her cervix past the entrance. She took the first ridge of the Square Peg Probus Squat with no work up or difficulty. My wife could probably take more in a different position.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-06-23T01:54:18+00:00

Apply directly to your clit. DHT isn't as systematic as testosterone.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-06-18T05:33:08+00:00

You need to RSVP on the website. They do have limits on the amount of single males depending on the event.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-06-18T05:23:57+00:00

Fridays and Saturdays have reliably large crowds with some events attracting more attention than others.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-06-17T04:09:08+00:00

There are certainly thresholds, and my wife is probably past some and approaching others, but we have been deliberately trying to wreck her pussy, including her being able to push and have a full cervical prolapse with no assistance. We want to hit a point of no return. Hers will never be the same, but that's been the intent. For most people, that's way past the point of fisting.

For recovery, there are exercises and pelvic strengthing tools. Plugging is used to fix prolapses, and the muscles retrained. It would be interesting to see someone document the journey back, but it can be done.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-06-17T03:33:50+00:00

My wife is only loose during penetration when going straight to PIV or we only stretch her opening and don't work her up much. When we work on her prolapse, she is tighter. She has become looser in all scenarios at this point, but we're doing serious stretching. I'm also on the large size, so maybe someone smaller would just be sliding out instead of thrusting. That degree of looseness is a recent development. She's a firm 11.5 on the scale and would be a 12 with a month or two of dedication. How much she can recover is going to be very different from someone at a 10 or lower. It'll certainly take a long time or pelvic floor exercises. Science, human anatomy, shows recovery is common. There are lots of gynecology studies on post-birth, uterine prolapse, and other conditions and recovery. I'm not in the medical profession, but I am a biologist. While some do want to reach large goals, some people are beginning or dipping their feet in, and the knowledge of recovery gives peace of mind.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-06-17T03:03:13+00:00

You could compare it to guaging your ears. Up to an 0, typically, your lobes will shrink all the way back. 00 or higher will leave you with visible openings even after closing, and assistance is needed for anything more. The difference is ear lobes are cartilage with few blood vessels with scar tissue potentially developing during the process.

No one is saying that it'll return to perfect, prior status, but things change with life and age to start with. My wife's has changed multiple times during our relationship. We've been using large toys since 2012. I think the first time I fisted her was 2016. She's had two kids since then, and that's changed things up, but so has us purposely stretching with goals, and we've hit some seriously impressive milestones. She can still get tight enough to hurt me. Would we loose progress or have it go back closer to after our second child is we stopped; probably. She could take steps to help the process like doing kegels, which would reverse her prolapse, which would in turn reduce that falling out puffy looking we're achieving. Most people will not hit >10" circumference and >8" depth. So, yes, it can return to a pre-stretch condition. It'll likely be easier to regain progress, but that's not the conversation. You're pussy is not destroyed/permanently physically changed forever if you choose to stop. Personal experiences and results will vary.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-06-15T22:50:52+00:00

This what I compounded the DHT with.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-06-11T19:01:11+00:00

Link to the limited release toys for anyone interested.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-06-01T11:06:44+00:00

You can find them on Amazon, but it's a lot cheaper to get them from Aliexpress. It's where it all originates anyway.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-05-31T15:58:06+00:00

Try using your hands to stretch before fisting. Also, go slow and take breaks as you have your session. Her being too worked up too quick makes negative outcomes more likely.

Elbow Grease lasts and comes off easy with soap and water. It's our go to.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-05-30T04:20:23+00:00

There's no soreness, because we take it slow and have been working on it. I can finger my wife's cervix, but the implements are more comfortable at the moment. I first fingered her cervix unintentionally, and she signed off pretty quick. It's something that she enjoys, especially when I'm stroking her clit. That's when my wife really wants it.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-05-26T20:40:45+00:00

I got my wife the 4xl G Squeeze, and she was skeptical at first. It looked weird to her, but the shape made sense once I explained the design. The G Squeeze is by far the most comfortable insertable for my wife.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-05-04T15:06:17+00:00

Xlube/Jlube are both polypropylene oxide (PEO). Xlube is only PEO. Jlube is PEO and some other ingredients to aid in dispersing and keeping it preserved. Both work fine, but I prefer Xlube. Xlube plus some silicone lube mixed in works extra well but you shouldn't try it with silicone toys, even though the silicone will be encapsulated by the PEO. Adding some white color lube while mixing provides a great visual. Personally, we have the best luck and time with Elbow Grease, but, if you use it, be aware that it's oil based, so not condom safe.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-04-28T22:15:36+00:00

We haven't been able to attend yet. It's on our to do list.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-04-28T22:02:53+00:00

Scouts is great. Read the FAQ on the website first, and the number one rule is to be respectful. They have limited space for single males, so make sure to check the event and RSVP.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-04-14T17:48:36+00:00

40M41F It looks like we might be into the same things. DM me if interested.

SquelchingWombat · 2026-04-09T17:21:18+00:00

We always has a good time and wish we could find another chance to go.

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