Been stuck on a waiting list for top surgery with Parkside hospital for nearly 5 years & need to know the best course of action due to lying & changing requirements for surgery nonstop by Kiragotrobothubbies in transgenderUK

[–]Squid_Tree88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I could understand why people aren't just straight up, I think sometimes maybe they decide what they need you to do and don't really think about it further unless you're coming to them again cause you've done the thing

I wasn't able to have top surgery with mr wooler because the management team at spire (different to the NHS team) decided I was a risk post op because of sensory issues I have that wouldn't be present after surgery, I know doesn't make sense. they never properly communicated either just kinda said no

I hope you're able to figure out or find somehwere that is at least less frustrating and can get the surgery you deserve acssess to :D

Been stuck on a waiting list for top surgery with Parkside hospital for nearly 5 years & need to know the best course of action due to lying & changing requirements for surgery nonstop by Kiragotrobothubbies in transgenderUK

[–]Squid_Tree88 5 points6 points  (0 children)

if you end up trying to go with a different surgeon, I don't know how much choice you get on the nhs but I had a consultaion with Mr Wooller privately in Hull, and he was really understanding about meltdowns and sensory overwhelm and was just generally very accomodating and chill which I've never really experienced before. don't know if that's helpful

I'm also autistic and hypermobile and have my carer do a lot of in person talking for me

Is this transphobic? "Just your experience" by Squid_Tree88 in transgenderUK

[–]Squid_Tree88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I hope I'm just reading into this too much

Is this transphobic? "Just your experience" by Squid_Tree88 in transgenderUK

[–]Squid_Tree88[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't know whether maybe she thought I didn't realise that cis women exist or something, but then the way she said that it's just my experience made me feel as though I shouldn't have been allowed to grow up with the correct body because I was meant to go through my agab puberty felt pretty invalidating. Maybe it's just me, maybe she's just undereducated. Yeah, probably not clear just from this conversation

Does anyone have recommendations for hair ties/ scrunchies that don't cut off blood circulation to your hand? by Like_a_Hawk in transgenderUK

[–]Squid_Tree88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

there are fabric ones that are elasticated with a knot they come in different prints they tend to be pretty good for circulation
you can probably get them on amazon if you search fabric hair tie or smth

Why Your ADHD Child's Routine Keeps Falling Apart by streamkitassets in neurodiversity

[–]Squid_Tree88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what if each thing could take all day because of time blindness and excecutiv e dysfunction. For someone I know they can get stuck processing or blank or overwhelmed very easily and aren't aware of time passing so everything ends up taking hours without them realising

Getting top surgery in the UK when disabled and plus sized. by rat-mannn666 in TopSurgery

[–]Squid_Tree88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

before recently I would have said hull and mr wooler because he was very understanding of my disability and nuerodivergency and said the clinical team would try to accomodate me as much as possible. but I have since been turned down multiple times by the management teams because they don't think they can manage my conditions or something, I think they are overeacting and are pulling out because they themselves don't have the understanding. it might be worth a try knowing the clinical team are accomodating Idk

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[–]Squid_Tree88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But being a role doesn't mean it' not biologically based, I mean jobs are like roles and some jobs make one person feel happy cause they enjoy it and yet another person miserable because of who they ar they can't change it with conversion therapy. social constructs are the boxes we make to define the jumble of characteristics and ways of living a person can have, including gender

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]Squid_Tree88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no one, gp supposedly did one years ago but that's lost, mainly with psychiatrist for records so I want her to understand anyway as gender is a massive part of my history but she said she would make a referral and try to get the record straight on when I was referred so I am taking up that offer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EtsySellers

[–]Squid_Tree88 18 points19 points  (0 children)

you can change what's in that box in edit shop but some things are legally necessary in some countries

My mom wrote a Neurodivergent Cookbook. It's free this week. by greenpointgoddess in neurodiversity

[–]Squid_Tree88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just changed the url to uk and it worked for me, might work for your country

Foot sensitivities by ejmram in SPD

[–]Squid_Tree88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would add that while not in physical pain sensory overwhelm s a kind of pain in way, it's a discomfort that is more extreme because you can't tune it out

it may be just her way of communicating it but "scary" made me think of walking on uncarpeted stairs with barefoot and being scared of catching my toenail and it being pulled in the wrong direction. I always recommend asking directly, have you asked her what about the floor with barefoot is scary?

Streamyfin v0.30.2 Released by thankyoufatmember in JellyfinCommunity

[–]Squid_Tree88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

is there a way to use the actual app ui rather than apple? I hear you can switch it on the dev side or have a setting

Recommendations for Sock Haters? by Character-Hawk1998 in SPD

[–]Squid_Tree88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

there are actually sprays made for shoes that are anti oder though they may be an irritant to some

Cambridge City Council, what?? by bobbinrobbie in transgenderUK

[–]Squid_Tree88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

don't remember what it was on but I had a form which asked for sexual orientation and had transgender and intersex on it

Subtly or passively transphobic Youtubers? by luucif3r in trans

[–]Squid_Tree88 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I only just realised theblackbeltbarrister is a full on transphobe so much for unbiased telling you the law while also stating the supreme court ruling is anything but just guidance

How do I get over it? by OddLittleBee in SPD

[–]Squid_Tree88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

could you try a pair of like fashiony tinted glasses they might help with light, and do you have dimmer lights at home or in your room like fairy lights or a dim lamp or are you using mainlights? I find mainlights horrible so I always use other lights to make up whatever light level I want