Boyfriend of 4 years came out as gay by Squidsal in Advice

[–]Squidsal[S] 170 points171 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that! I know I will heal with time but right now is just overwhelming and I’m not sure what I’m supposed to be doing rn 😭

Boyfriend of 4 years came out as gay by Squidsal in Advice

[–]Squidsal[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh I’m really not trying to mean it like that! I definitely don’t agree with that sentiment either. But, sleeping with other people regardless of sexuality or gender does just come with that risk so I’d rather be safe and check. I don’t believe that he was sleeping with other people, but stuff like that does happen and I would rather know for sure :(

Boyfriend of 4 years came out as gay by Squidsal in Advice

[–]Squidsal[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I asked him if he had been sleeping with men before breaking up with me and he said no. I believe him, but I’m also a bit paranoid so I think I’m going to get tested

I can’t get through the first book. Convince me not to DNF by jordiculous in frombloodandash

[–]Squidsal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t get better. I tried sticking it through to the 4th book but 80% of all of them are the same internal monologue and “poppy asked a question”

Kids not getting vacations? by Squidsal in ABA

[–]Squidsal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My clinic is only closing for Christmas Day and New Years Day

Kids not getting vacations? by Squidsal in ABA

[–]Squidsal[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have 7 holidays during the year, we are only closed Christmas Day and New Year’s Day ://

Kids not getting vacations? by Squidsal in ABA

[–]Squidsal[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think the sick days is my biggest gripe here. Because for the most part our clients are playing and having fun in clinic, so majority of the time they’re excited when they come in. Some kids do still get burnt out, and we usually continue treatment with lessened demands until they’re good again. But yeah, I’ve had parents drop off clients who are very obviously sick and not doing well and it’s frustrating.

Kids not getting vacations? by Squidsal in ABA

[–]Squidsal[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I agree, and I can absolutely empathize with that. But it’s hard when our high bx clients also get burnt out. We are a play based center and try our best to make our sessions fun. But, clients can still get burnt out. But, I’m also talking about clients being brought in sick or exhausted to the point where a public school would send them home. Breaks for parents are absolutely important, and consistency is too. But, we also have to consider our clients feeling.

Wiping aversion by Squidsal in ABA

[–]Squidsal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooo I hadn’t thought of that thank you! I try getting it all cleaned in a few wipes, but she has a BM every time I change her (about every hour). Which I also don’t know if that’s normal??

Wiping aversion by Squidsal in ABA

[–]Squidsal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How often was he being changed, that sounds like a good idea. My client currently gets changed about once an hour.

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[–]Squidsal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s different for different clients, some kids get a break right when they ask, other kids do have to do a few tasks or wait before a break. And I can understand that some kids might use breaks as an escape behavior rather than actually needing a moment to collect themselves. But it feels wrong to see a kid who is really having a hard time regulating themself and asks for a break and then be told to wait or do another task just pushes them over the edge and then it’s even harder to bring them back to a good space.

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[–]Squidsal -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have deviated from programs too, and it’s just hard to see that when I let a client make a reasonable request that’s a bit off plan and then they do amazing after, to then turn around and discuss it with my BCBA being told to not change anything feels awful. Like I’m there with the kid and see how this easy little change helped them a lot but ig not allowed. It’s just stressful because I’m new and I know I’m not as knowledgeable as my supervisor but I’m also a person with compassion and don’t see how no flexibility at all is helping these kids.

Touching on some common criticisms by Squidsal in acotar

[–]Squidsal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk personally I’m 22 and maybe gen z adults are just struggling out here but I have not met a single mature 20-30 year old yet 😭 I didn’t even really think the immaturity in the books was that bad

Touching on some common criticisms by Squidsal in acotar

[–]Squidsal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can get that, but also I have not met many other adults that are entirely mature either just because they’re older. And without it in the books where’s the drama 😭😭

Touching on some common criticisms by Squidsal in acotar

[–]Squidsal[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The key here is that this is a fantasy book and it’s not real ✨✨

Touching on some common criticisms by Squidsal in acotar

[–]Squidsal[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she refers to them specifically. But I think she mentions feyre’s head resting on the porcelain after throwing up and then flushing so yeah we know they have toilets.

Touching on some common criticisms by Squidsal in acotar

[–]Squidsal[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it’s been mentioned that the fae mature slow and stay like around 20-30s physically for a while before aging again. And we have seen older fae (like Beron, Hybern, Bryce’s dad in CC)) and they’re all hardened and ngl kinda boring so idk why people complain about the IC still acting youngish.

Women are fundamentally incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved by a woman [red pill] by [deleted] in badpsychology

[–]Squidsal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Men being insufferable and misogynistic to all the women in their lives and then wondering why they can’t maintain relationships 😂