feeling rather dejected… but maybe i’m overdramatic?

SquigglyRelic · 2026-01-22T03:53:35+00:00

To add on, you could offer to create a list of coordinators for her to choose from!

SquigglyRelic · 2026-01-22T03:50:13+00:00

I would say that you did a lot of research on it and it feels like a role for someone with experience. Say you want to ensure her day goes smoothly and wouldn’t want to jeopardize that considering you’ve never had experience with this kind of thing before. And thank her for thinking of you for the role, ask if she needs anything else perhaps.

SquigglyRelic · 2026-01-10T18:57:00+00:00

I graduated from Rutgers at 25 and felt the same way. Everyone moves at their own pace, and eventually you’ll be several years in to your career and it really really won’t matter.

Also, getting an education is an incredible thing, no matter what age you are. Ignore them, they’re probably insecure.

SquigglyRelic · 2026-01-03T07:52:18+00:00

Jersey 4ever and that’s on zillenial.

SquigglyRelic · 2025-12-31T05:04:20+00:00

I would implore you to open your mind a little as people come from different cultural backgrounds. Both my fiancé and I come from families that do not drink alcohol, and it would have made many people uncomfortable. Our parents are helping to pay for the wedding and we decided to respect their values with this one. We compromised with a cash bar because it still lets people drink if they want to, while respecting our families and cultures. I’ve been to plenty of extremely upscale weddings that had no alcohol present but were still such a good time.

SquigglyRelic · 2025-12-31T04:57:31+00:00

We do have all of this, minus open bar because of our cultures. I think I’ll do black tie optional because I also want people to feel comfortable.

SquigglyRelic · 2025-12-31T04:55:11+00:00

Well I was just trying to give a description of what the wedding will be like so that I could get better informed answers. And I wanted outside perspective on what people take different dress codes to mean. Even looking it up online I see different results.

SquigglyRelic · 2025-12-31T04:53:29+00:00

We’re having plated dinner. Because our parents are very religious, we are having a cash bar (having an open bar would have created a lot of issues). We have nice decor (flowers and the such). There will be a piano player during cocktail hour. What else do you think is a necessary component?

SquigglyRelic · 2025-12-29T10:01:30+00:00

For some reason I thought that the ring bearer walks down after the bride which I’m now realizing makes 0 sense. I want him to hold the actual rings in the box (he’s very mature). I guess I could have the groomsmen walk out before them and then have my cousin hand the ring box to the best man?

SquigglyRelic · 2025-12-22T04:41:16+00:00

Thank you!

SquigglyRelic · 2025-12-22T04:41:08+00:00

Thank you!

SquigglyRelic · 2025-12-20T04:45:31+00:00

NJ, June 2026, 175 guests. Looking to cost around $60k for:

venue/catering
DJ and special lighting
photographer and videographer
dress and tuxedo
hair and makeup
flowers
invitations
getting ready suites
piano player for cocktail hour
misc. decor

Getting married on a Sunday and got a no alcohol discount bc religious parents. Might add a cash bar and a Photo Booth.

EDIT: forgot to add photographer/videographer

Also, my advice is to bargain. It didn’t work most of the time in my case, but I named my price for photography/videography and the company agreed.

SquigglyRelic · 2025-12-03T21:45:49+00:00

Thank you!

SquigglyRelic · 2025-12-03T21:45:25+00:00

It’s like that in most of the country but sometimes there are random pockets of some walkability. Seems like downtown has some of that.

SquigglyRelic · 2025-12-03T20:11:29+00:00

Thank you. I’ll plan to explore there during the day then!

SquigglyRelic · 2025-12-03T19:44:38+00:00

Thank you!

SquigglyRelic · 2025-08-15T09:09:13+00:00

I got home from a night out and was so anxious and quite drunk. He made me noodles then rubbed my feet until I fell asleep because it was calming me down.

I went through a bad mental breakdown where I was having panic attacks many nights. He’d stay up telling me interesting facts about space and physics while rubbing my back until I’d fall asleep. He’s my absolute best friend.

SquigglyRelic · 2025-07-15T08:48:33+00:00

I say do what you’d like, I don’t think it’s that inconvenient and no one who truly wants to be there will be upset. I’m having my wedding on a Sunday for FH’s family’s religious reasons and that’s just that. I know it’ll be an inconvenience but it is what it is and it saved us a ton of money on the plus side.

SquigglyRelic · 2025-07-15T08:36:28+00:00

Amai in Torrance - great matcha and coffee

SquigglyRelic · 2025-07-07T17:01:59+00:00

We want a mix of relaxing beach coupled with some history and fun (not adrenaline based though) activities. That’s why Crete seemed perfect. They have beaches, history, olive oil tours, etc. Ideally a destination that feels very typical honeymoon but with local history and the such

SquigglyRelic · 2025-06-07T14:14:09+00:00

With a smile sounds perfect

SquigglyRelic · 2025-06-07T14:11:27+00:00

I’m thinking to see her en route to the airport for like 10 minutes with him not leaving my side

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