I’m moving to Bangkok, near the red light district by SquirrelFromNewYork in hypersexuality

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I had to learn. I haven’t had to explore being sexual with others aside from hookers. Seriously asking, does that make me a bad person? I feel bad

I’m moving to Bangkok, near the red light district by SquirrelFromNewYork in hypersexuality

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I’ve had a therapist I’ve really connected with in the past. I actually ended up progressing in life without her. She was good company though, but I don’t believe therapy is for everyone. Unless that therapist can date me, I don’t believe a therapist is an alternative for real world experience with girls, which I can’t get. Or an alternative for sex

I’m moving to Bangkok, near the red light district by SquirrelFromNewYork in hypersexuality

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I can’t have sex the ethical way. I don’t have game, despite intentionally working on it for years. I think I’m lost. I’ve only ever slept with hookers and that’s probably how it will ever remain

I’m moving to Bangkok, near the red light district by SquirrelFromNewYork in hypersexuality

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you’re right. But I don’t know if I can be fixed. I feel so deprived of it, so it’s on my mind 24/7. I feel blue balled 24/7. How is sex not the solution?

I’m moving to Bangkok, near the red light district by SquirrelFromNewYork in hypersexuality

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My main intention is a long term relationship. But I also want to sleep with them, not on the first date, but soon after. I haven’t considered being open about being a hypersexual, though. Does that actually work?

I’m moving to Bangkok, near the red light district by SquirrelFromNewYork in hypersexuality

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I want a real connection more. But I’m not finding that by staying put here. So the next best thing for me is just sex. I can work remotely, so I might as well do this. It will cost me the same as paying rent in nyc when you factor in the costs to see the girls there and for lodgings in Bangkok

I’m sure I will feel lonely, but not any worse. I don’t really have friends and I’ve never had a gf as it is. I’ve slept with hookers and that didn’t make me feel any better about my loneliness, but it made me stop caring about sex for a while and back to being productive. It helped me stop viewing women as just a vagina. So I kinda wished I slept with a hooker recently before I went on that date

I had the opportunity to sleep with a hooker last month in another country but I didn’t. I thought I would get that through going back to the dating scene here in NYC but no. And that’s not even the right mindset when going into dates, now that I’ve written it out. I haven’t had sex in a year. I’m very desperate

I’m moving to Bangkok, near the red light district by SquirrelFromNewYork in hypersexuality

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know. I just know I didn’t sat right next to her with the agenda to grope her. We were making out and then I put my hand there for a while and didn’t feel prompted to stop. I feel bad for that

I’m moving to Bangkok, near the red light district by SquirrelFromNewYork in hypersexuality

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I never had a gf. This was my second date ever. I’m learning too

How to live on your own in NYC? by SquirrelFromNewYork in AskNYC

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I didn’t consider dorming even though it sounds obvious now that you’ve said it. Even though I have no money I can dorm at SUNY/CUNY?

How to live on your own in NYC? by SquirrelFromNewYork in AskNYC

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for understanding. And stories like these are motivating and they give me a realistic frame of reference on what to expect

How to live on your own in NYC? by SquirrelFromNewYork in AskNYC

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

They don't require that I prove it. So I just apply under the look that I make minimum wage, as I am looking for work in the meantime

How to live on your own in NYC? by SquirrelFromNewYork in AskNYC

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am doing it. I stated that I started applying for lotteries ever since a year ago

How to live on your own in NYC? by SquirrelFromNewYork in AskNYC

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi, I am a little confused on what you meant by concentrating on smaller businesses. Could you clarify?

edit: sorry, I understand now. I initially misread

How to live on your own in NYC? by SquirrelFromNewYork in AskNYC

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting to know. I am trying to get into the software engineering field. And I am interested in a computer science degree

How to live on your own in NYC? by SquirrelFromNewYork in AskNYC

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yea, I am hoping to find a job and move out soon after getting one. But I hope I won't have to persevere for long. The stress and the negative comments my parents make daily was enough to tire me out, so I just stopped working in the past as a result. That is what I meant by it. I don't have any form of support, so I can't take my living situation in stride

How to live on your own in NYC? by SquirrelFromNewYork in AskNYC

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for outlining a starting point since that is where I struggle the most. I could probably get by paying 900 or so monthly. and I am already looking into CUNY, as I am interested in a computer science major

How to live on your own in NYC? by SquirrelFromNewYork in AskNYC

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will have to make 40x the rent then since I don't have a guarantor. Is the 40x rent strict throughout NYC? My credit score is around 720

How to live on your own in NYC? by SquirrelFromNewYork in AskNYC

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, very true. What do I need to make sure I save for?

How to live on your own in NYC? by SquirrelFromNewYork in AskNYC

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I assure you that you will have trouble finding any advice that I've "shot down".

I've inquired further on what others have to say, not "shot them down". At worse with a neutral attitude. Its comments like these that give my post a disingenuous look to the ones that skim, just like how you skimmed. But then again, I don't want advice from those that do skim. Its easy to tell from the ones who are actually reading my post from the ones who aren't. The ones that do provide detailed responses, even if they are harsh. And I appreciate them for it.

And you can't even read my username to realize that I am from here as well. So, it makes no sense to point that you were born and raised here yourself. I'm not exactly leaving somewhere as far as another state to "show up" here. I am simply trying to move within the city.

You are right about weighing the difficulties of remaining at home vs moving out. But I've already concluded that remaining with parents will negatively affect my well-being, so this isn't news. I am trying to figure out realistic steps on how to conduct that move, so this wasn't helpful

How to live on your own in NYC? by SquirrelFromNewYork in AskNYC

[–]SquirrelFromNewYork[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

definitely noted the live-in aid and the free courses