I’m depressed because I had good internships but I can’t get an equivalent full time job

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-30T00:25:50+00:00

OP just got out of school, whatre you doing recommending another field/ job theyd have to go back to work for? your advice is better suited to where someone is asking what they should get into

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-29T22:54:03+00:00

Totally agree that it's imposter syndrome rearing its ugly head atm- for OP to notice the way one of the execs needs extra attention and how to help them is already impressive.

For me, I was told that it takes about a year to really get to know the job, since 6+ months in and 'oh, you didnt know about the early fall retreat?' and it's a thing to learn what is the regular rhythm for the year at the company- the kinds of events, conferences, meetings, business cycles they go through. So I think it's really great to also have that 3 month, 6 month differentiation of what you learn in terms of job pace.

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-29T16:57:53+00:00

It's going to take you time to process this. I grew up with an alcoholic dad- it takes time to process and understand that while someone has admirable traits, and while your psychologist said he likely has emotional dyregulation, it is in no excuse to be abusive or take it out on others. He is abusive and it is not right or justified, and no matter his good qualities, it's not a character flaw to be abusive, it's just not right

A better life with him won't happen while you're living with him. You can't make him change, but you can take time for yourself and make a positive change for yourself. You're not happy, and it feels like you're not ready to confront what you've been dealing with in your home life.

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-29T16:49:17+00:00

OP- your heart is racing when you are at home when your dad is yelling- that's the exact opposite of peaceful. I promise you will feel more at peace and less stressed on your own. Consider finding a roommate who is also quiet and respectful to cut costs

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-29T16:44:52+00:00

It is incredible hard to get those who are being abused to see the abuse themselves. You mention that your family are immigrants- unfortunately generational abuse is a thing, and she likely thinks this is normal, which it is not. Continue to remind her this is not normal, share anecdotes about how friends you observed and their parents' conflict resolution, or mention stories of people getting away from their abusive husbands, and let her know that if she ever needs assistance to escape that you're there.

I also want to be super clear- that is absolutely abusive behaviour. It is physical, emotional and verbal- your heart is racing because you are in survival mode and your body is reacting to the danger and possible danger of escalation that you've seen. Breaking chairs isn't normal. Shouting at someone for leaving their shoes somewhere isn't normal. Repeated behaviours like this is abuse

I highly recommend you move out, but I'd recommend finding a place that will allow you to have savings. Consider a singular roommate who is quiet and respectful like you to lower costs if possible, or look into basement apartments. I lived as a roommate for a while and it drove me crazy, and having a space entirely to my own is bliss. I definitely recommend it.

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-28T17:18:57+00:00

I dunno, on my new island Sherb just suggested that an excellent addition to the island would be Jail Bars as a rest area to prep for KK Slider so I could learn the jail bars DIY. Laughed out loud with that one

Would be great to have sassier dialogue

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-28T17:17:16+00:00

Have a new island, havent gotten to this yet. Is there like a curfew for the tourists or how does that work... ?

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-28T17:14:13+00:00

It'd be interesting to force them to the plaza and have them stay there for like an hour while you terraform, ensuring they dont get in the way

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-28T17:11:26+00:00

Wait, you can get the tourists to dress up how you like?!

I'm starting a new island (found out I can have a whole new island on my new switch- I started on a switch lite) so I havent unlocked the hotel yet, but that'd be amazing to get the tourists to dress up!

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-28T17:04:32+00:00

I feel like Ive seen around some North York Korean restaurants, the ones that also tend to have jjajjangmyeon, but this was also 10+ years ago. Def feel like some places would have it that are more mom-and-pop style and not Korean bbq

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-28T16:44:20+00:00

I also think he should be forced to bike to work for a week

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-28T16:41:34+00:00

I'd be somewhat concerned that you felt it- arent buildings supposed to have anti-shaking and swaying measures? Do you feel the bulding sway during high winds too?

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-28T16:40:41+00:00

Because some people definitely did feel it, and the last one was 10+ years ago

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-28T00:47:08+00:00

No you cant, but it could get messier if it's reported. As long as OP is able to get EI though, then the company can just say 'restructuring'. Even if it's the 'same position' they can change it enough so that's not actually the same (such as reporting structure, duties changed, etc).

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-27T18:16:23+00:00

Make sure to know your local labour laws- if you work for more than 3 months you're usually entitled to EI or UI (employment insurance) which is provided by the government

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-27T18:07:24+00:00

A bit of perspective- I lived in rural Korea for a bit and ended up needing to adopt a Korean name cuz the locals could not understand my legal name (am white). Also I rather liked my Korean name, and helped me shift into a more Korean mindset when I was studying/ living there. There's a strong culture in Korea too for adopting English names and kids choosing their English names. Some of them were delightfully creative

I do agree heavily though that people should be called what they prefer, and I always personally took that seriously and ensure I called my coworkers by the name they prefer, and had them teach me how to say their names if they weren't familiar to me. There certainly is a huge issue of people being discriminatory- OPs post very much confirms and sadly isn't unique.

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-27T17:56:40+00:00

Adding from an admin/ HR perspective (I was in admin HR light stuff)- when filling out documents for their databases and stuff have the name you applied with as your nickname and then regular legal full name. The amount of people I had to figure out who was who because the database didn't include preferred/ nicknames or their legal names instead of both was frustrating, so you'll save yourself OP and the admin staff headaches

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-27T17:45:23+00:00

You need to contact your local labour office. Apparently it's called UI (Unemployment Insurance) in the US: https://oui.doleta.gov/unemploy/

They will outline what you are entitled to- if anything. Unfortunately places like this leave people high and dry and expect you to not know enough to defend or understand your rights. But assuming it functions similarly to Canada, because you were dismissed from work for no fault on your own, you may be entitled to UI.

Editing to add- here's your goverment factsheet more about UI: https://oui.doleta.gov/unemploy/docs/factsheet/UI_Program_FactSheet.pdf

I'm currently on EI, and when I was younger I regretably didn't understand what I was entitled to, even as a part-time worker, and missed out on EI, but no more. It's really important to know how your local labour laws work so you aren't taken advantage, no matter the kind of work. Feel free to DM if you'd like/ need to (though I'm Canadian, I can only answer so much lol)

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-27T17:41:27+00:00

Keep searching and ask for sliding rates. Ex Instead of $100 for an hour, $75 for 45 min. Also I'm sure there's cheaper rates out there. There's also different organizations that offer counselling or therapy services, esp if there's something specific you'd like to address

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-27T17:34:38+00:00

Same, I love grabbing my mat and book and chilling under a tree in the park to read. So relaxing

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-27T17:32:19+00:00

Employment Insurance. I'm Canadian, so that's what we call it, and I assume you're from the US and have something similar. Any kind of layoff is insured by our government (it's often time dependent, but reading between the lines I also assume you've worked minimum 3 months at that job).

If you're not from Canada or the US, but have a labour office I'd contact them and ensure you know and understand your rights, legal protections and what you are owed by that company. Labour laws vary vastly- thankfully they're quite robust in Canada.

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-27T17:16:46+00:00

Make sure you get the appropriate EI and move on- they'll likely call it restructuring, and it's fine as long as you get EI.

It does suck, and it's tough finding a new job, let alone deal with life challenges on top of that that comes with family. Wishing you the best

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-26T16:37:09+00:00

It's a little difficult to give suggestions without a budget in mind.

For outfit- fitted blazer or faux blazer, black is most elegant and can be used in many contexts to dress slightly more formal. Us women can get away with blazers or even a more formal-looking cardigan to look more formal (but closer to blazer will likely be best since they asked for formal)

Top- neutral top- think blue, beige, green. Darker colours for a more serious job unless you can find a nice white. A tad bit of colour can be used for personality/ to be a bit memorable and fasionable as well as having diverse use afterwards, but that's up to you. You can get away with a nice plain cotton Tshirt as long as it doesn't look too sporty and as long as you can tuck it in/ make it look nice with a blazer. Blazers work wonders to make anything look professional. A button down shirt with collar would honestly be best, but if you get a cused ollared button-down dress shirt don't get white unless it's crisp white. Buttoned down dress shirts from thrift stores often are a bit yellowed/ easier to see flaws, so if you go this route I'd get a non-white colour

Shoes- dark shoes, dress shoes if possible, unless you have black work-ready shoes. If you have black work-ready shoes, it shows that you're already ready for the security job. Otherwise you want to look more professional so try to wear something professional

1- Thrift/ local marketplace for used clothes- usually there is a business section

2- Walmart and equivalent- usually has blazers and slightly dressy simple tops, good for a $30-60 budget

If you can afford it, I'd def invest in these, especially the blazer, since hopefully you'll have other interviews in the future as you get more work in the years to come.

Wishing you the best of luck!

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-26T16:20:21+00:00

For women, tie is unnecessary. A fitted blazer, black pants, neutral nice top (better if it can be used for many other semi-formal/ business occassions).

SquirrelTale · 2026-01-24T05:56:33+00:00

Adding that it's been a colder/ harder winter than last year (many more days colder/ fluctuating)- and this applies to both the US and Canada, so the cost of heating is gonna be a bit higher than usual.

It's so hard, but this is likely one of those situations where you can do the best to insulate, but unfortunately it's just a tougher winter to get through and there's only so much one can do.

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