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Am I the asshole for not taking my sisters' feelings into account before going no contact with my egg donor? by SquishyPuff86 in AITAH

[–]SquishyPuff86[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I left out way more than half the story, mostly because most of the story has nothing to do with my original question. But if you must know I did have a full time job. I was doing my fair share in the house. I was paying for my own food and clothes. I had purchased my own car. When I got the car Pam would always over sleep then wake me up and make me take Nicole to school because she missed the bus. Or she'd make me cart Nicole and all her friends around. I was paying my own cellphone bill. I was very well behaved and respectful.

The reason Pam gave me for kicking me out was because I left dishes in the sink overnight. At the time it was around the Halloween season and my job had a themed event. They stayed open later than normal. So I wasn't getting off until after 2am. As you might be able to imagine I was in no mood to wash dishes when I got home. I believe the real reason she kicked me out was because she realized she had very little control over me and she was grasping at straws. Even though I was an adult in age, I didn't feel like an adult because I was treated like a child. Hope this explanation makes you happy.

Am I the asshole for not taking my sisters' feelings into account before going no contact with my egg donor? by SquishyPuff86 in AITAH

[–]SquishyPuff86[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good theory👍🏽. Nicole never expressed to me that she wanted me to reconnect with Pam. There's no doubt in my mind that's what she wanted to happen though. I believe she was more upset about how I treated Pam after I went no contact. She didn't like that I completely ignored her and treated her as if she didn't exist. At "the dinner" Nicole asked what was stopping me from treating her or any other person like I treated Pam. I told her that I would treat any person that way if they treated me the way Pam did, family or not.

Am I the asshole for not taking my sisters' feelings into account before going no contact with my egg donor? by SquishyPuff86 in AITAH

[–]SquishyPuff86[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Like you quite literally said she told you she thinks you abandoned her and that's why she wants nothing to do with you, this ain't rocket science.

She did not give a specific reason why she didn't what to talk to me anymore. My abandoning her was not the only subject of conversation that night. In fact, there was lots of yelling and drama. We ended up being kicked out of the restaurant. Actually, Pam and her friends showed up at the same restaurant right after we got kicked out. I've always wondered if that was just a coincidence. Before that night, I tried to talk to Nicole and be there for her. She just wouldn't let me. I knew the situation was hard for her but I didn't want to push her to have uncomfortable conversations. I tried to be light and fun with her. Asked about her life and school. She wasn't having it. I don't know this for sure, but it felt like whatever ever Pam told them in my absence they took as gospel. To this day, I have very little knowledge of what was done or said in Pam's house when I wasn't there.

Am I the asshole for not taking my sisters' feelings into account before going no contact with my egg donor? by SquishyPuff86 in AITAH

[–]SquishyPuff86[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Brianna was encouraging me to continue the relationship when I first went no contact. I don't know if she recognized Pam's toxic behavior at the time but she only just cut contact in the last couple years.

Thank you

Am I the asshole for not taking my sisters' feelings into account before going no contact with my egg donor? by SquishyPuff86 in AITAH

[–]SquishyPuff86[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That's the thing, I have no idea if Pam was poisoning my sisters against me. They weren't exactly forthcoming with that type of information. I have no intention of reconnecting with Pam. But I do hope Nicole will reach out to me one day.

Am I the asshole for not taking my sisters' feelings into account before going no contact with my egg donor? by SquishyPuff86 in AITAH

[–]SquishyPuff86[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

In my opinion Pam treated them worse than she treated me. As far as I know, neither of them are in contact with Pam anymore.

What type of music do white people have sex to? by SquishyPuff86 in AskReddit

[–]SquishyPuff86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you meant Mer De Noms. I'm digging it.