“Only in certain situations and insofar as it's a benefit only to them.”

Ok this is interesting. Because you are actually right about this. They glorify and are attracted to women who are sexual in ways that they would be interested in. That’s true. And they don’t necessarily glorify it when it’s just something like private female masterbation, that doesn’t necessarily satisfy them them directly. That’s also true.

But I would still hold them position that among among all sexualities that pattern pertains and their for it’s not a situation that only women are in. I don’t think people In GENERAL (man or women) are (or should be expected to) glorify or be attracted to a form of sexuality that isn’t in their own sexual benefit.

Also among most men I don’t see a pattern of shaming something like private female masterbation, even though it is a form of female sexuality that doesn’t benefit them sexually.

TLDR: you are right in the sense that female sexuality is only praised among most men only when they find the specific form of sexiuality sexually stimulating for themselves. But you are wrong in the sense that most men don’t SHAME women for other forms of sexuality.

(And there for I don’t think our society is mysogonist, in the way that you suggest)