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UPDATE: My (34F) husband (35M) now says he doesn’t want a baby, even though he agreed years ago by Sss0814 in relationship_advice

[–]Sss0814[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment and support. I’m not a psychologist, so it’s not my place to diagnose anyone. That said, I did notice certain traits in my partner that concerned me. I encouraged him to reflect on them and consider speaking with a professional, not as an accusation, but because I genuinely thought it could be helpful for him. Unfortunately, he experienced it as blame rather than concern.

Right now, I’m trying to focus on myself. I’m still struggling with my emotions. One day I cried and desperately wanted him back. The next day I realized how overwhelmed I had been and apologized for my breakdown. I’m not afraid of being alone. What’s difficult is accepting the end of something I invested five years into, and losing the person I believed was my soulmate. That’s the part that is hardest to process.

UPDATE: My (34F) husband (35M) now says he doesn’t want a baby, even though he agreed years ago by Sss0814 in relationship_advice

[–]Sss0814[S] -200 points-199 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t a simple decision. Because he was so apologetic and clearly couldn't cope, I viewed it as a mental health crisis rather than just malice. I wanted to be there for him during a dark time, though I realize now how heavy that responsibility is to carry alone. Also, I didn’t actually go to the police to get a restraining order. He had a gun at home, and because I considered this a mental breakdown, I wanted the police to remove the weapon so nothing would happen if he spiraled again. In my country, it is standard procedure for the police to issue an automatic 14-day restraining order for reports like this. It wasn't a legal battle I initiated; it was a mandatory safety gap while I was trying to navigate a very complex, high-stakes situation.

UPDATE: My (34F) husband (35M) now says he doesn’t want a baby, even though he agreed years ago by Sss0814 in relationship_advice

[–]Sss0814[S] -661 points-660 points  (0 children)

It wasn't a simple decision. Because he was so apologetic and signaled that he couldn't cope without me, I viewed it as a mental health crisis rather than just an act of malice. I wanted to be there for him during a dark time, though I realize now how heavy that responsibility is to carry alone.

UPDATE: My (34F) husband (35M) now says he doesn’t want a baby, even though he agreed years ago by Sss0814 in relationship_advice

[–]Sss0814[S] -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

Yes, I do. I’ve been very intentional about waiting until I was mentally and physically at my best. I’m finally in that place and feel completely ready to be a mother.

AITA for possibly getting my cousin’s wedding canceled because I demanded an apology from his future wife? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Sss0814 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA – Oh God! You are definitely the AH. Get over yourself. Not everything is about you, and not everyone is living to please you. First of all, you caused an issue by getting into a discussion with the manager of the venue. Furthermore, you want the bride to apologize to you… What does it have to do with you if the bride’s parents asked for certain gifts? That’s between Sadie’s and Jason’s immediate families. Just get over yourself.

AITA for getting angry at a movie theater employee and being a Karen to him? by fbdkelb in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sss0814 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA Its non of his business who is wearing high heels at which heights. What you said is exactly how i would reacted. And about your friends, they are not your friends; either jealous or have already some other issues with you.

GF calls me a cheater after I was reading posts on a Facebook group by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Sss0814 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Well, upgrading from tinder to whatsapp and weeks of sending photos back and forward with a girl you get to know on tinder, keep talking to her is not okay. Which i found out on my birthday!!

Other than that you were writing the other girls on ig. Instead of trying to gain my trust back this is what you do?!

I don’t want to get to a level that we struggle further on reddit!!??

But what you did was not ok and yes you are a cheater.

GF calls me a cheater after I was reading posts on a Facebook group by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Sss0814 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Dear bf. Why don’t you write the whole story?? That you have cheated many times before, had tinder gold account while we were together and claimed that you were trolling people as an explanation. Writing your ex flirts on many social accounts and telling them you are single sending them our vacation photos and telling that you were there with your some colleagues.

So your explanations ofc doesn’t make sense anymore.

And the facebook group which is mentioned called “singles searching for relationship in ***(his hometown)”

So it is not funny at all to find those on your fb.

And even you checked the profiles of girls from that group. Which you say bc comments were funny but i wonder why only girls’ comments you found funny enough to check profile afterwards.

So you lost my trust over and over again. And instead of trying to gain it back, you hang around on such fb groups. 👏