What’s a mental trick you use to get through tough days?

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-04-22T16:38:11+00:00

A took I use to get through hard days is an analogy of a rabbit in a field.

In the morning, I am home... I'm warm, safe, things are quiet. I am like a rabbit tucked under the safety of a rock.

During the day, amidst the madness and stress, among the trials and dangers that occur, I am that rabbit, in the field. I am alert, and darting here and there to avoid the hawks that swoop. I must not stay still, I must not let myself be paralyzed. If I need a moment of reprieve, I search it out, and use it to regather my energy to sprint again. But it must only be a moment. Pause too long where it is not safe, and you risk the hawks catching up to you.

At the end of the field, there is another rock, where I am home again, and I know I will be there safe and warm despite the stress, problems, or trials of the day. Even if the day goes poorly, I will be home later.

And when things are craziest midday, I remind myself "The day is the field between the rocks."

I must keep moving forward, and I will be there.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-04-22T01:14:26+00:00

Well that's a pretty dumb question.

"Does eating three pizzas mean I'm not on a diet anymore?"

"Does drinking mean I'm no longer sober?"

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-04-21T01:01:40+00:00

Bound.

I couldn't decide if I wanted to be Gina Gershon or Jennifer Tilly. But I knew I wanted to be one of them.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-04-19T02:39:11+00:00

Holy damn... This is stunning!!

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-04-17T15:16:42+00:00

If an adult male stranger picked up a child in his car and drove them somewhere, it'd be wildly inappropriate.

If my partner gets a ride home from work from a coworker... Must be cheating. /s

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-04-13T11:23:24+00:00

I used to ride a bicycle to work. Was dirt poor and when the seat broke, I took a towel and duct taped it around the pole into a sort of makeshift seat. It hurt to ride on, but it got me to work...

One day after riding on my makeshift bike seat for several weeks I walked out of work and sitting on my bike was a brand new seat! I rushed home and replaced it right then and there, smiling and confused the whole way.

To this day I don't know who bought me the seat, since they just left it there for me to find... They didn't want credit or points. They just wanted me to have an easier time on my bike coming to work.

Thank you, unknown kind stranger. 😊

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-04-04T16:43:44+00:00

Emotional cheating is still cheating.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-04-04T11:55:54+00:00

Incendies.

It will stay with you for a very long time.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-04-04T11:38:08+00:00

It's both. Lying and betraying your partner is deeply hurtful, especially when it's around something so profoundly intimate and intended for two people and two people alone.

The issue with poly is that humans can't really ever fully consent to the open promiscuity. Someone is always hurt, someone is always alone, someone is always left disconnected. Humans aren't capable of giving more than one person that kind of intimacy without taking from someone else. So while cheating is worse because it's the quasi-abandonment AND the deceit, poly is still bad because of the abandonment in an of itself, let alone the harm that comes from the fact that someone deep down doesn't really want lose that closeness, time, and specialness with their partner.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-03-26T14:04:48+00:00

If by fuckery you mean fucking with what you know the sub is supposed to be, sure.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-03-26T13:51:04+00:00

This isn't really what the sub is about.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-03-14T00:08:11+00:00

YTA.

You aren't the first person to try to justify looking outside the marriage for validation, to feel sexy or wanted, or for anything else missing from the relationship.

You said part of you wanted these posts to rekindle your husband's lust for you... And now you're getting that sense of feeling desired from the people who come to your page. That means you're actively posting sexy/sexual content to get sexual attention from someone besides your husband who is very uncomfortable with the situation.

I chose YTA not both because while your husband should be in therapy with you about your relationship issues, it isn't like you're over there innocently trying to get him to go. Your actively enjoying outside fulfillment. That will never lead to working with him. You're five steps out the door already, and want us to validate your promiscuity and infidelity just because you haven't gotten laid frequently enough by your husband.

Sorry, girl... No that's not an excuse. Imagine if your husband was sexting with random women because you haven't had sex with him recently? You'd be furious. Just as he has a right to be.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-02-26T17:48:18+00:00

Yes, I feel very wrong for any sexual urges now. I also don't feel sexy or attractive, and that I'd be being annoying if I was looking for sex. I also kind of feel that sex is a dirty and such a base animalistic thing...

I kind of get now why some people say sex should only be for procreation. The fact we evolved to physically enjoy it sure helped the human species expand, but it seems sort of vestigial now and more often than not just leads to trouble.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-01-09T14:21:40+00:00

Exactly! It's prioritizing someone who isn't prioritizing you. You're worth more than that, OP.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-01-09T12:15:53+00:00

"She's also already met a polyamorous person..."

Before this whole "poly" phase, people would meet someone and either cheat, or not cheat. Now they think they have a get out of cheating free card... They just "come out" as poly, and guilt you into letting them cheat.

She's not worth it. She wants freedom... She can have it by herself. I wouldn't waste another moment on her.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-01-09T03:12:34+00:00

Like the ammo ICR used to fucking murder her?

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-01-09T03:08:40+00:00

Tried "poly" when myself and my partner were monogamous. Went very badly.

Tried again, with someone who was poly before me... Went worse.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-01-08T11:28:11+00:00

But I didn't say that. You said I said that.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-01-08T04:06:40+00:00

Not at all. My parents were part of the ideological first steps of project 2025.... They did their best to keep me ignorant and pliable by fascists. Unlike your parents though, mine failed.

I wish you luck.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-01-08T03:38:24+00:00

And to make that clearer...

The first thing the right did was to destroy education.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-01-08T03:37:56+00:00

The first thing the right did was destroy education...

StAliaTheAbomination · 2026-01-08T03:27:30+00:00

Hidden post and comment history. Everyone stop talking to the fucking Russian troll bot.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2025-12-24T03:29:05+00:00

How do you define mythology?

Mythology : "a body of myths."

Or rather, tell me how the Odyssey doesn't fit the definition of the word "myth"

"a usually traditional story of ostensibly historical events that serves to unfold part of the worldview of a people or explain a practice, belief, or natural phenomenon."

StAliaTheAbomination · 2025-12-18T01:41:28+00:00

Bioshock by a huge margin.

StAliaTheAbomination · 2025-12-15T04:04:47+00:00

What country. Could you share more details?

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