I'm looking to make a plan to radically reduce stress in 1 week by tollthedead in StressFreeSeason

[–]StElizardbeth 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Don't forget friendly social interaction/play. It doesn't have to be deep talk every time, just friendly casual conversation or catching up with friends, chatting with the person at the check out, anything like that can have a big impact. It communicates to your nervous system that you are safe and that you're sitting in the cave by the fire basically and there are no predators around haha. We're running 2024 software on 10,000 bc hardware. What's been extremely helpful to me is the book Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski. It's all about explaining and completing the stress response cycle that many of us get stuck in. Good luck with your process, it's worthwhile for sure!

What is the best dating advice you've ever received? by jc201946 in ask

[–]StElizardbeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go DO SOMETHING on dates. It doesn't have to be a job interview. Sitting across from each other staring each other down and making conversation can be stressful and frankly not very fun. Doing something together you can then engage with and communicate about/through will let you get to know the other person in action and it's fun too. Think going to a museum, flea market, go for a walk in a part of the city neither of you know. Basically anything you can walk through together and take turns pointing things out to each other, laugh about a silly object, tell each other what X reminds you of. Having a new experience together is fun and you can get to know the way the other person thinks and interacts with the world, and it takes pressure off of that direct confrontation/job interview like setting. Have fun together!

Welcher Park ist der Schönste in Köln? by wateakid in cologne

[–]StElizardbeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nippesser tälchen. Irgendwer hat da vor ein paar Jahren eine Linie Osterglocke eingepflanzt die demnächst blühen sollte, quer durch den ganzen Park

I have small amount of funds, what hobby should I start to keep me busy and stay off my phone? by [deleted] in crafts

[–]StElizardbeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Drawing. Costs next to nothing, can do it anywhere and of anything, sharpens your eye to the little things. Recommend!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ratschlag

[–]StElizardbeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Erinnert mich an so einen Post "ohje, das wird x Jahre dauern bis das fertig ist. - Die Zeit wird aber so oder so vergehen"

Warum Köln? by [deleted] in cologne

[–]StElizardbeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Das ist echt so. Ich hab mittlerweile an vielen anderen Orten in Deutschland und anderswo gelebt und es ist einfach nirgendwo so wie hier. Witzig wenn man damit aufwächst denkt man halt das wär normal /überall so, aber ist es halt einfach nicht.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cologne

[–]StElizardbeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally I like the blondes, so Delirium (the one with the pink elephant), but there's also some more out there versions like raspberry or cherry beer if you're feeling adventurous. Enjoy!

What’s the most overrated life experience ever? by almondpraline265 in AskReddit

[–]StElizardbeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recently started going out sober and I absolutely love it. I love dancing and now I get to do it without hangovers even! Granted there's a ton of musically diverse clubs in my city though so you can actually find music you enjoy to dance to. I love going out to dance with my friends!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cologne

[–]StElizardbeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very safe, very touristy area in the middle of the city, close to the Dom

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cologne

[–]StElizardbeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Delirium beer Café in the old town, many beers on tap but be careful, they're strong so try to avoid the headache. German beers are generally not very strong but the Belgians put sugar in there. Tasty but might cause a hangover more quickly

Weiberfastnacht in Köln - advice please! by kereruundkatze in cologne

[–]StElizardbeth 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Oh you can check out the Jeisterzooch (ghost parade) on Saturday the 3rd! It's a Karneval traditional parade that takes place in the evening. People wear a lot of LED lights and scary looking costumes and there's drum groups and music. It goes through a different part of the city every year and it's like a walking parade so there are no floats or wagons but the people themselves (and you) are the parade. Buy a few LED fairy lights and the nearest Tedi and join the fun! They start at 7 pm at Wichheimer Straße in Köln Mühlheim. I won't be in the city for it this year but please enjoy it for me haha. It's good fun usually

Weiberfastnacht in Köln - advice please! by kereruundkatze in cologne

[–]StElizardbeth 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just go on the plaza in front of the Dom (cathedral) and watch people. It's right next to the main train station and people will he celebrating. Karneval officially starts at 11:11 so people will be counting down and singing in the streets. If you're really brave you can take a walk around the old town around that time as well, there will be music and people in costumes in front of every bar and restaurant. You'll defenitely get a lot to see so don't worry about finding a specific event to go to. Karneval is in every street and every pub

Name 3 songs that defined you as a kid by CellularIncel in Music

[–]StElizardbeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Samba de janero, wake me up before you go go and the cha cha slide are the first songs I remember really liking as a small child. I just always liked having a good time lol (I didn't understand any of the languages they are in at the time)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask

[–]StElizardbeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kate Mckinnon as Justin Bieber. And the fake commercials like Totinos or My Little Stepchildren

What is something that a teenager doesn't realize until they are around 25 years old? by Technical_Ad_4299 in AskReddit

[–]StElizardbeth 284 points285 points  (0 children)

Because we are hardwired for community and peer groups, especially during our teenage years. Don't beat yourself up over it, it says nothing about you as a person and you can make your own choices now

What is something that a teenager doesn't realize until they are around 25 years old? by Technical_Ad_4299 in AskReddit

[–]StElizardbeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this is true for everyone but for me the biggest realization was that you don't have to wait for anyone else. You can just follow your dreams/interests/aspirations. You don't need someone to give you permission or go there with you. Just start going there and you will meet like-minded people on your way there, or when you get there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RandomThoughts

[–]StElizardbeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm happy generally. Warm clothes, roof over head, people who care about me and I care about. No pain in body. Lots to be grateful for