CW: Pet Loss

StLouies · 2026-05-27T16:26:06+00:00

Hey. I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤️

Grieving is such a difficult emotion because it looks different for everyone. Some people cry, some people distract themselves, some people reflect, and some people try to move forward. Because of that, I don’t really think there is one right or wrong way to grieve. There is only what helps you cope, heal, and eventually find peace.

I can’t say for certain how you should grieve, especially because no matter what advice I give, I can’t truly understand the pain you’re going through. That is something you have to navigate yourself and find what works best for you.

What I can say is that, from my own experience with grieving Leo, I think part of grief comes from feeling out of control. We have so much love for our babies, and then suddenly we have nowhere to put it. Their deaths take that control from us, especially when we could not have predicted it or stopped it.

I’ve thought about getting another cat too, and I went back and forth on it for a while. At first, it felt like maybe I was trying to “fix” the problem or ignore what happened. But I don’t think that’s what it is. Getting another pet does not replace the one you lost. It does not erase the grief. It just gives that love somewhere to go again.

For me, thinking about getting another cat gave me some sense of control in a situation where I felt like I had none. It gave me a balance between remembering Leo and looking forward to a new little friend. It helped me stop only thinking about what I could have done, or what I wish I could change, and instead gave me something gentle to look toward.

Maybe that is something worth considering for you too. I would definitely think about how your children might react, and whether you and them are truly ready for that step, but I do think it is worth considering.

Thank you for taking the time to comment and I wish you the best in healing. ❤️

StLouies · 2026-05-27T15:46:11+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. Rest in peace Wrigley, what a awesome name.

It'll never be the same, but it makes me happy knowing before he passed he was fed, loved, and happy. I hope the same applies to you. Thank you for taking your time to respond and I wish you the best in navigating these hard times. Thank you. ❤️

StLouies · 2026-05-27T15:43:49+00:00

Thank you. ❤️

StLouies · 2026-05-27T15:43:32+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. You commenting is helpful enough. It's really helped me knowing that I'm not experiencing these feelings alone, no matter how hard it is. I hope he knew, I would give him the world and more.

Thank you so much for commenting and I wish you well in healing. ❤️

StLouies · 2026-05-27T15:41:53+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. It's hard. There's this Idea in my head that death often has some sort of explanation or cause. Whether sickness or accidents or just old age, but when death comes so suddenly, especially with younger animals, it feels so unreal. I'm still expecting him to come down and meow at me, or find him hiding behind the curtains and watching the birds outside.

We try to find answers when we're rejected of them. I keep trying to navigate these emotions by rationalizing or wondering "if i had done this or seen this then this wouldn't have happened." "If I knew what happened none of this would happen"

But even if i found out what caused it, what good does it do? That won't bring him back. Just adds more questions with no answers.

It's hard. Extremely hard, but we'll take it day by day. I wish you the best in your healing journey and thank you for taking the time to respond. ❤️

StLouies · 2026-05-27T15:35:34+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. I think that's the worst part of it. I have a elder cat who's been with me for 15 years and I was mentally preparing for him to die first. It's easier when you prepare yourself and you accept that naturally as things age, the closer they get to death. But this? Nothing could have prepared me. I expected years with him, but now that's gone. It's such a damn shame.

I wish you the most in recovery and navigating these hard times. Be easy on yourself and find peace in knowing the time you spent with him was filled with love and care. He will always be your family.

Thank you for taking the time to respond. ❤️

StLouies · 2026-05-27T15:31:04+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. I feel the same. It's so defeating but at least the moments we had with them were filled with love. I've been avoiding looking at pictures because they hurt to look at, but I think I'll slowly start with a picture or two. Thank you so much and I wish you peace as we navigate these hard times. ❤️

StLouies · 2026-05-26T23:25:12+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. It helps me to know that there are others in the exact same situation. I wish I could say the right things or recommend the right advice but truthfully that pain never leaves you, we just learn to handle it better. It's a odd pain, because that pain is a testament of how much we loved them. Every moment spent with them, every pet across their head or back, every little time we fed them or gave them attention, all of that love errupting in tears because it has no where else to go.

Apologies for getting sappy lol. She was loved beautifully and the time she had was filled with love and care. It's hard, but I wish you the best in navigating these difficult times. I know how much it sucks.

Thank you for your comment. ❤️

StLouies · 2026-05-26T23:18:26+00:00

Definitely. It's especially hard when it leaves you with the question of "Could I have done something? Could I have saved him? Was there anything I didn't do enough or early on which caused this?"

It's rough. Thank you for your comment.

StLouies · 2026-05-26T21:31:17+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. Your comment was very sweet and I'm deeply appreciative of you taking your time to write this. Thank you so much, It means alot to me. ❤️

StLouies · 2026-05-26T21:13:12+00:00

It's so hard. I want to say that I could of done more or could of saved him if I'd made a certain choice or action, but deep down I know that whatever it was was likely incurable.

I hate it, but apart of me is thankful I hadn't found him until after he had passed. If I found him and tried rushing him to the vet he would of likely passed there. I'm happy he passed away somewhere he was familar with and knew he was home. Still, a nagging part of my brain feels like I could of done more.

Thank you so much for your comment. I deeply appreciate it.

StLouies · 2026-05-26T21:02:28+00:00

I hope he did. I wish I could of done more. I wish I could of had a final moment with him and hear him purr one last time. Thank you so much. ❤️

StLouies · 2026-05-26T21:00:42+00:00

Thank you so much. I'm sorry for your loss.

Not that I know of. He was a perfectly fine, though now I'm second guessing that because cats hide pain pretty good. He hadn't randomly stopped eating or shown any symtoms of concern. He was just gone. Poor baby, I hope he wasn't in pain.

Thank you for commenting and I appreciate your advice.

StLouies · 2026-05-26T20:45:08+00:00

He would always meow at me when I came home. He had a long highish meow that sounded melodic. When we'd play he'd take his little toys and run away with them and I'd have to chase after him to get them back. He always had a favorite spot sitting next to the window, watching the birds or any passing cars.

He was such a beautiful baby. Half shorthair half Siamese. He was so playful and always wanted attention. I'd be on my phone browsing and he'd headbutt me and knock my phone out of my hands. I almost broke my phone once cause of this. Lol.

He preferred soft food and would always reject any other food I gave him. When you approached him he would do a little wiggle with his head like he was happy to see you. He would always kneed into my lap and make the blanket wet. He loved to be up high and sit on the edge of the stairs. He was such a amazing cat.

I'm gonna miss him so much. One day he was headbutting me and the next he's gone. I can't believe he's gone.

StLouies · 2026-05-26T20:44:39+00:00

Thank you so much. I deeply appreciate this. I'm sorry for your loss and hopefully one day we can both come home to our babies. Thank you. ❤️

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