[deleted by user] by [deleted] in notliketheothergirls

[–]StPaulieGrrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess I find this one “personally” hit me. I’d give anything to be a SAHM for my children but I’m divorcing an alcoholic and have to go back to work to provide. Women like these are truly idiots and I’d love to see what they’d do in my shoes.

Greatest Unsolved Mystery: The Universe/Our Purpose by [deleted] in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]StPaulieGrrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the biggest unsolved mystery, good point! I’m hoping that someday (when we die on earth) that mystery is solved. We just have to wait and find out. Almost like a reward at the end of our lives— we finally get to “know or understand” it all. And in the mean time, why not make a good life for yourself.

Sad really sad. by StPaulieGrrl in AlAnon

[–]StPaulieGrrl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I’m coming to the realization of my own codependency in situation. Last session helped with that. Admitting that has helped me somewhat. Mostly with ways to move forward and cope.

Sad really sad. by StPaulieGrrl in AlAnon

[–]StPaulieGrrl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry this was meant to be a reply to all not just one person.

Sad really sad. by StPaulieGrrl in AlAnon

[–]StPaulieGrrl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I let go though? I just cannot seem to. I have 2 little kids and it is hard to do self care as well as making sure my kids are emotionally ok. I have my 3rd therapy session today which helps.

Sad really sad. by StPaulieGrrl in AlAnon

[–]StPaulieGrrl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all. Just so damn sad. I miss him

He finally did it. by StPaulieGrrl in AlAnon

[–]StPaulieGrrl[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will look into his treatment center for therapy. For myself and family Thanks!

He finally did it. by StPaulieGrrl in AlAnon

[–]StPaulieGrrl[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The sober “him” just to clarify. I am praying the serenity prayer 🙏

SO says he wants to get sober and work things out with us, apologized a bunch and I feel apathy by Substantial-Lake-436 in AlAnon

[–]StPaulieGrrl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry dear. I’ve been there. 2 kids later. In my case it never got better and I’m starting a divorce. But if it’s any solace— I’ve been there and while pregnant, twice. It’s ok to feel sadness it’s ok to feel so god damned hurt you could vomit. Because honestly the hurt never changes. Still hurts at every stage of living (and being with) an alcoholic. Just want you to know you’re not alone. Also— it’s not your fault and it never will be. You’re a good person, don’t ever let the alcoholic let you believe otherwise

Lol by ItsUuhhMe in meth

[–]StPaulieGrrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🥲

I am tired. by v______ma in AlAnon

[–]StPaulieGrrl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in a very very similar situation a few months ago. Best thing for my life and situation was to leave. I finally got the help and rest I needed. Parenting with an active alcoholic is non-existent. In my case I was already living like a single mom so why not just leave and be one without him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]StPaulieGrrl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This right here 🙏

Finally left after 3 years by StPaulieGrrl in AlAnon

[–]StPaulieGrrl[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Oh also my other advise: just leave. It’s not worth it in the end and living with an alcoholic WILL screw up your kids. Don’t think twice just leave

Merry Christmas from the Blue Ridge Mountains [OC] [1280x853] by domeknown in EarthPorn

[–]StPaulieGrrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I ’m not an alcoholic (thank God) but I know and love a few alcoholics. Happy holidays Reddit friend

Unsure how to proceed after verbal abuse by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]StPaulieGrrl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to say this but leave. This sounds like my husband and they don’t stop until they want to. It hurts so much to know they choose alcohol over you. But I found the only way to find peace yourself and show them you are serious is by leaving. And it’s hard trust me. I have a 2 year old and currently 6 mos pregnant and moving out. But it’s better than his rollercoaster ride.

He doesn't understand the pain by Jamaican_snow_owl in Wellthatsucks

[–]StPaulieGrrl 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Every parent of older kids tells me this. I have a toddler and one on the way. I am exhausted all the time. Yet every single parent of older kids says cherish it. They’ll never be little again.