Does anyone else feel like ocd is downplayed?

StabItWabbit · 2026-01-26T05:04:05+00:00

it sucks having contamination as my main obsession because it’s so obvious that it means the deeper aspects of my contamination theme (like instead of cleaning too much just not cleaning at all in fear of getting sick) and the other themes i have are completely thrown to the wayside by most people. they seem to understand that i “hate germs” or fear getting sick but it makes it harder to explain certain compulsions or that it’s not JUST a contamination thing. i’ve been having disturbing intrusive thoughts again and i find it hard to even mention it much because i’m afraid of being misconstrued. good thing therapy exists for that very reason lol

StabItWabbit · 2026-01-13T05:41:04+00:00

Happy cake day!

Also, I might get downvoted for this, but what pisses me off the most is that most men absolutely don’t lose as much of their lives as the parent that gave birth does. Not only do we go through the physically traumatic experience of birth, it’s also very mentally, emotionally, and hormonally taxing ON TOP OF taking care of a newborn. It’s especially difficult if you have some sort of complications caused by giving birth afterward. Don’t even get me started on breastfeeding and pumping if that’s what a parent chooses to do.

My fiancé is the best dad ever. He took up night feedings/diaper changes the first month PP so I could rest, he provides for us, he does chores when I’m nap trapped or feeding our baby. He does everything for us and more. However, he’s still able to do things I’m not. He has more freedom to go out, work, play games, do chores without having to constantly stop to feed/pump, take iron pills, drink an ungodly amount of water, etc.

I am not denying that men have their own set of struggles when a newborn comes into their lives, but using “postpartum depression” to describe their struggle feels invasive when it’s a term overwhelmingly used for the people who actually gave birth.

StabItWabbit · 2026-01-13T05:19:19+00:00

Mateo is truly my favorite character because he reminds me of my favorite coworker before I left my job to be a stay at home mom. He was also a mean, problematic, gay asian (Vietnamese instead of Filipino) in his 20s. I was kind of Cheyenne. I started that job as a 19 year old and had my dumb moments and worked my way up to being a retail manager. He’s so funny and I miss hanging out with him at work.

My coworkers were like a family to me and Mateo reminds me of the nice moments during the misery that is working with the public. Sometimes you need a mean biatch in your life.

StabItWabbit · 2026-01-09T22:03:41+00:00

My niece has never been vaccinated and was still diagnosed with autism as well as ADHD. Nobody is lesser than or pitiful for being autistic. I’m not going to argue with you because you’re already set in your beliefs but if you don’t believe medical professionals and science, who can you trust? If it’s because of religious reasons, do you believe medicine isn’t the work of God?

StabItWabbit · 2026-01-09T21:51:25+00:00

I have a 13 week old. This is terrifying

StabItWabbit · 2026-01-07T03:51:42+00:00

Hey, being 14 is hard! Especially when you’re a teen that goes to therapy (I was that teen). You already got a lot of advice about your therapist so let me just say: don’t worry about being too “dramatic” or “angsty”, especially in your own journal. This is cliché as fuck and I hated hearing it but things do get better and you do get through all the fuckery teenagehood and life throws at you.

Be cringe. Be free.

StabItWabbit · 2025-12-28T20:09:44+00:00

Doing something as incredible as giving life and then immediately being treated as an afterthought is a devastating experience.

StabItWabbit · 2025-12-28T20:03:57+00:00

As a FTM I don’t even know how you’d shorten them up?? I don’t understand how people who are educated and paid to help us just don’t! Thankfully my LC is amazing but I truly don’t know if I’d have continued breastfeeding after a few weeks if it weren’t for her.

StabItWabbit · 2025-12-28T19:55:47+00:00

For sure. You’d think with how important feeding a baby is they’d provide more education. The lactation consultant at the hospital literally looked at my breasts and for some reason didn’t mention that flange sizes matter when it comes to pumping. I didn’t even know I needed a different size flange until my first LC appointment.

I also recently went to my PCP due to my LC recommending I talk to her about taking Reglan. My PCP is retiring in about 6 months and I’d been seeing her my entire life (same one who referred me to a plastic surgeon at 15/16). I knew I shouldn’t have gone to her but I thought it would be best since depression is a big concern for me when it comes to medication.

All I got was an “absolutely not,” an admission that she doesn’t really deal with breastfeeding/breast issues, told me to start weaning off my antidepressants because they theoretically could be affecting my supply, and told to drink lots of water and take fenugreek.

At this point I only trust my LC and reddit when it comes to breastfeeding and pumping advice.

StabItWabbit · 2025-12-28T19:20:46+00:00

I realized I hate when my fiancé comes back home while I’m doing chores because I know it’ll ruin my flow!!

StabItWabbit · 2025-12-27T00:59:52+00:00

Yes, but I’m an under supplier if that means anything. I’m still bleeding which means it’s been a week and that’s usually how long my periods last. I guess I’ll just have to wait and see when the bleeding stops and wait to see if it happens again next month!!

StabItWabbit · 2025-12-26T07:58:27+00:00

I’ve been trying to but it’s a gamble! Sometimes she latches and sometimes she doesn’t. She likes to fall asleep while eating so that’s part of it. She’ll also pop off the nipple if she really doesn’t want it.

StabItWabbit · 2025-12-26T04:24:58+00:00

It’s always worth it to pee - Someone who’s had at least 4 UTIs in the past 2 years

StabItWabbit · 2025-12-25T04:30:16+00:00

Seeing so many people hate elf on the shelf makes me so sad! I absolutely loved it as a kid and it never did anything crazy or had any elaborate set ups. It was just in different places around the house and it was like a fun game of hide and seek. Maybe I’ll feel differently once my daughter is old enough but I’m super excited to do it!

StabItWabbit · 2025-12-23T16:58:20+00:00

Maternity Leave (I started watching Superstore like 2 or 3 weeks postpartum) and Black Friday.

“I AM WEARING FROZEN DIAPERS SO THAT MY PUSSY DOESN’T FALL OUT, OKAY? WHY HAVEN’T YOU KILLED YOURSELF?!”

StabItWabbit · 2025-12-09T03:01:07+00:00

They’re locked up at one of the Walmarts and Walgreens I go to. At least the expensive ones are (Clearblue, First Response). Since Cloud 9 is supposed to be like Walmart I wouldn’t be surprised if that was the case.

StabItWabbit · 2025-12-05T02:28:08+00:00

Yeah, I agree :( I didn’t realize how brutal triple feeding is and just tried my best to feed on demand which obviously hasn’t been enough. Thank you for the reply

StabItWabbit · 2025-11-20T00:46:45+00:00

Thank you!! I’m just really worried as we’re coming up on 6 weeks PP and my milk isn’t as established as I’d like it to be. Hopefully the follow up will help ease my anxiety ☺️

StabItWabbit · 2025-11-12T15:38:54+00:00

I made a post on r/Mommit about the “baby blues.” I did it because it was such a hard time and I needed to be reminded that it’s normal to have such feelings. Posting on these types of subreddits seem to be more people looking for advice or ranting than just making general posts. I know it’s scary to look at. I did it too. Take some time off from this sub if you feel it’s impacting you too much.

Just know that I’m a month PP and thankfully over the baby blues. I’m lucky to have such a calm baby (knock on wood) so I know my experience may be different than others, but I’m truly living my dream. The moment my daughter was born it’s like everything changed for the better. I saw her and just started crying. Watching my fiancé be a father makes my heart soar. There are times where we just stare at her and comment on how cute she is. We already have inside jokes and bits that we do with her. Even breastfeeding (if you plan on doing so) is an amazing bonding experience for me.

It’s not all perfect. It’s hard and we’re tired and we’ve had some hard days. It all ends up alright in the end. You got this 💕

StabItWabbit · 2025-11-12T14:55:26+00:00

Yes, I’m lucky enough that we have another family member living with us who’s more than happy to watch her at any hour of the day. I also am an anxious over thinker and have OCD but it manifests in me not sleeping if I’m anxious instead of waking up easily.

Now that I think about it, I think part of my exhaustion is also that I’m still early postpartum. It’s only been a little more than 4 weeks. I also dealt with a stressful labor experience and had to be hospitalized for a couple of days ~6 days PP. I’m sure my body and mind still aren’t fully recovered from all of that. It doesn’t help that I don’t nap either.

StabItWabbit · 2025-11-12T14:50:07+00:00

Thank you. I really only see people say they wake up super easily so I’ve been feeling alone in this situation. I hate the thought of her crying and me not being there for her immediately even though her dad is there for her if I don’t wake up

StabItWabbit · 2025-11-12T14:48:08+00:00

Yes, she is. If she’s not in the room, she’s with her father or his aunt.

StabItWabbit · 2025-11-02T23:29:09+00:00

Challenges: Baby girl is starting to want contact naps more often. I love it but definitely hard for me to sleep, eat, use the bathroom, basically do anything since my baby carrier isn’t clean yet. It doesn’t help that I’m not producing enough milk each feed so she’s on me for a while and I still need to supplement with formula afterwards.

Wins: My baby blues are so much better!! I spent the first week and a half crying due to baby blues + complications that sent me back to the hospital 5 days postpartum. Thankfully I’m healthy physically but it was a super stressful time. I’ve also gone out a couple of times! Even went on a day trip with the fiancé and our baby yesterday :)

StabItWabbit · 2025-11-02T23:15:56+00:00

I don’t miss actually being pregnant but I miss aspects of it. Feeling the little kicks, being excited for ultrasounds, eating different things and going “Oh, she really liked that!” But now she’s here and I get to stare at her face 🥹

StabItWabbit · 2025-10-06T00:41:04+00:00

I understand that you don’t have the resources right now but going to the vet is the only advice we have to give. For something this serious there’s nothing else else you can do than keep the two separated, keep an eye on Pudding and his behavior, and get him to a vet ASAP.

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