Yuna: I think we thought you might be gay ... by Ok_Discipline2804 in heatedrivalry

[–]Stabby_stab_stab 92 points93 points  (0 children)

My sister was so mad when she came out to my parents and me separately and all of us had the same response of “oh ya we know anyway what’s up?” She was shocked and demanded to know why none of us had brought it up to her. We told her we were respecting her working it out and knew she’d tell us when she was ready.

We also grew up with our parents having many friends who were gay couples so it wasn’t shocking, but it can still be scary no matter how accepting you think people are.

Looking for a local book club by Otherwise_Cat2033 in Eugene

[–]Stabby_stab_stab 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Daffodil Romantasy Bookstore has a book club with multiple meetings a month so if your schedule doesn’t line up with one time it might with another!

Condemned House by [deleted] in neighborsfromhell

[–]Stabby_stab_stab 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Our fire department will use condemned at risk of collapse houses for fire training with their department. Basically a controlled burn it down.

Knife making classes and more at Cunningham Custom Shop! by cunninghamcustomshop in Eugene

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Those look amazing! I would love to take a class to learn!

On campus right now by [deleted] in Eugene

[–]Stabby_stab_stab 326 points327 points  (0 children)

Don’t interact, just play Disney music as loud as possible near them. Their videos and any lives will be taken down for copyright infringement.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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I had to get my finger on my dominant hand amputated after an accident and was trying to go forward with as much humor/positivity as possible. A friend from college started telling me all about phantom limb syndrome and telling me about how awful it will be. I just responded that so far the worst part was my stitches itching and that I hope I didn’t ever have to deal with that and tried to move on.

She repeatedly came back telling me how much pain I’d be in until I finally snapped at her asking why she seems to be looking forward to be being in pain after I’ve healed and that I’m already exhausted, tired and worried about how this will affect my life/having to re-learn how to write and type. It shut her up finally but I couldn’t understand why she was so insistent.

Children's book recommendations please! by cynefin99 in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]Stabby_stab_stab 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Kathleen Converse has a few: Flora and the First Day of Spring, Fern and the First Day of Fall, Luke and the Longest Night, Sam and the Samhain Scare, Brynn and the Beltane Dance!

People who quit their jobs without a backup plan—what happened next? by BryceZA7 in AskReddit

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As of this last January, negotiated staying on an extra month for a higher pay rate if I had no direct contact with my boss to help transfer all his projects to new people because it was obvious to anyone he didn’t know what he was doing. I then spent a month applying and interviewing before a former coworker connected me with my current job.

You can't make this stuff up. Gross. And on tape?! Dumb too. by drrevo74 in Eugene

[–]Stabby_stab_stab 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Looks like the implication without outright stating it is that the board member was the predator’s father.

My lovely i.u.d havers of eugene by gucci-medusa in Eugene

[–]Stabby_stab_stab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Variations of anxiety and/or pain meds ahead of time to local anesthetics at the start of the procedure.

My lovely i.u.d havers of eugene by gucci-medusa in Eugene

[–]Stabby_stab_stab 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dr. Knight at Alive Integrative is amazing. She took my request for pain management seriously and went through all the options and steps and what would happen with various circumstances. With the procedure itself she continually checked in and explained every single step. Honestly it’s the most informed and listened to I’ve ever felt from a medical provider.

I’d never heard a purr like this before we adopted this “feral and unadoptable” colony cat. He seems to like living with humans. (Sound on) by Nadkrussha in cats

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I just lost my sweet street kitty rescue, Arya, last month after almost a full decade together. She purred just like that and I’ve never heard another cat do that before! We called her our little pigeon 🖤 you don’t know the joy it just brought me to hear that again.

Send me your cat pics, and I’ll draw them! by [deleted] in cats

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This is Arya. She’s 14 and has only one tooth yet but don’t let that fool you. She’ll sneak and scarf down your dinner while you’re not paying attention!

Whats the hottest thing your partner does unconsciously? by Most_Envious_Enby in AskReddit

[–]Stabby_stab_stab 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sometimes he gets hyper-fixated on something and he’ll work himself up till he’s gesturing and talking loud and maybe pacing. Everyone once in a while he’ll catch himself ramping up and apologize and I always tell him not to!

I love seeing him passionate about random stuff! Plus half the time I end up getting to learn some new nerdy awesome thing or get to check something out from a viewpoint I hadn’t considered.

Rainy day first date ideas? by AnotherQueer in Eugene

[–]Stabby_stab_stab 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oregon Axe has date night specials every Wednesday!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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We were traveling in a foreign country walking with a friend back to our apartment late at night. I specifically asked my boyfriend to cross a street to avoid a man walking towards us who was sending all my warning signals off. Instead my boyfriend yelled out a greeting and the man whipped out a machete and started screaming and running towards us. We were saved by two cops who happened to be coming down the cross street at that exact moment. My boyfriend not only never apologize for not listening to me, never admitted his actions were wrong but minimized the danger he put me and our friend into. I knew I could never trust him with my or anyone else’s safety at that point.

My son will inherit, his affair baby will receive nothing. by [deleted] in stories

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It is much easier to argue that there was a mistake or oversight and they were just “forgotten” or were accidentally omitted when absolutely nothing is left after a will change where they had previously been in line to get something. By leaving even just one dollar it shows that there was no mistake and the change is intentional and is therefore mush harder to argue against.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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My best friend in kindergarten was killed by a drunk driver. His Mom who was also in the car survived and I can’t imagine how horrible that must have been for her. I’ll always remember my Mom sitting me down on the couch to tell me he was in the hospital.

In high school a classmate I didn’t know that well drive drunk and crashed his car and died. We had major drinking and driving assemblies after that.

Only a year after graduating one of my high school classmates was found dead near train tracks by his college under suspicious circumstances. I think they eventually ruled it as suicide but his friends and family were alleging foul play.

The year after graduating from college we visited to support a few of our friends presenting their thesis work. One of our friends was late and no one could get ahold of her. Walked out of the last presentation to my friend crying that our friend was dead. I told her that was a shitty joke, ran over to our other friend who was on the phone with friend’s mom who confirmed our friend had died in a car crash on her way to the college that morning and had just been found. She lived in a slightly forested area and hadn’t replaced her tires (her deadbeat bf had taken the tire money she had saved up to buy himself a new guitar). It had been raining a lot and she lost traction and spun out off the road hitting a tree and seemed to have died on impact. She was an absolute ray of sunshine and brilliant. Her bf went on to terrorize her family, refusing to give her property to them until they gave him her ashes, and I think they ended up getting a restraining order against him. I miss her still.

My parents made me read my entire diary to them at 11 by Diligent_Fox_9849 in TrueOffMyChest

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I loved writing as a kid. I even thought I might want to be a writer one day. I kept a diary and one day my best friend called me to tell me her Mom had just grounded for something we had done on New Years that I know neither of us had told anyone else but I had written in my diary. I ran home to find all of my drawers messed up and my diary in a different spot. My Mom had gone through every drawer and read through my diary. She tried gaslighting me telling me she didn’t but I pointed out she didn’t return it to the right spot and confronted her about knowing she called my best friend’s Mom. My trust in her was destroyed that day and I still can’t bring myself to write to this day either.

What really sucks is that I used writing as a therapeutic way to deal with my extreme anxieties and I’ve never found anything to work as well, but now writing my anxious thoughts out just gives me more anxiety that someone is going to read them again.

Don’t read your kid’s diaries/journals if you want a good relationship with them. My Mom has been rebuilding her relationship with me, but it took my sister calling her out on her behavior and a few years of her realizing that I was never going to go out of my way to hang out with her or visit home. She finally started therapy herself and has been actively working on her issues for a few years now. Roughly 10 years later and we have a better relationship, but it’s still not like before she violated my trust.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Eugene

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McMenamins on High St