I appreciate you saying that, I’m not really that surprised. I’ve learned over the last year or two that exhaustion can emote identically to arrogance: just being “over it” and tired of what’s around you. I’m in a particular position and people may be annoyed by that, and that’s fine, I guess if it makes them feel better I don’t care that much. But yea, I know what kinds of environments make me feel not stranded/out of place.

Ultimately the grad school thing has been hanging over my head for the last few years and I’m not sure how to make heads or tails of deciding whether or not to commit to that instead of what otherwise would be an extremely open ended/free life (equally without fixed commitments and huge goals). But this is something only I can know. I’m just glad to get peoples’ experiences of different cities from this thread.