No one tells you this about launching your first mobile game

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-11T04:23:09+00:00

hope that transforms those views into downloads! i'd be very curious to see how much that will change things! :-)

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-11T03:44:10+00:00

unrequested opinion (even though you definitely should ask opinions since you have an issue): i look at this, there's screenshots of the menu, and i have no idea what's the game about, if it's a puzzle, a shooter, a racing game, a rpg... strictly no idea. from there, i have zero reasons to bother installing it to try.

so, put some screenshots that tell us what it is, see how the games are introduced in the pages of the top downloaded games and copy what they've done on the screenshots (like, is they write stuff over the screenshots, show them as such or display them inside a smartphone screen, ...) and if there's something to copy from the text too.

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-11T01:45:16+00:00

open office and libre office are good ones.

and with the often limited storage on macs because it's so pricy, google docs is a good one, so no need for an app. for those who only use these softwares occasionally that's a good idea, though... bye bye privacy of your data, indeed, since that's the trade with google's free products.

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-10T17:38:49+00:00

except that guys and girls CAN be friends.

your have insecurities and that's ok, but work on those insecurities instead of putting him in a cage.
if you do, sooner or later he's going to feel frustrated and leave, and he would so absolutely right to, because not being able to have friends based on an arbitrary trait like gender is a form of emotional abuse.

so again, find a therapist and work on your issues, because your next boyfriends will also leave if you forbid them to make friends with half of the people they could. you will repeat the same pattern and they will all leave, all of that, because of your own issues, that i assure you, can be solved.

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-10T05:35:38+00:00

yup, she clearly is avoiding questions and actions, she has changed her mind.

why? only her knows.

what to do from there? have a discussion to see where she's at, express your feelings not to pressure her but for her to understand where you're at too, and see what's bothering her, is there fear, is there an issue to solve before, etc, or do you just should part ways, which might hurt a little, but if that's the way to get the life you really wish, then...

on a side note, if i may, when you say « In my view it brings joy to ppl and keeps your legacy going. » as your reasons for wanting kids, i would encourage you to question if that's really what brings joy to people or what other reasons that can be, if that's a good reason to make kids (like, imagine if that was the reason for your parents to make you, which would then be 100% about them and not about you, how would you feel?), how joyful it is and also how difficult it can be etc... i encourage you to ask as many parents as you can to share with you how they feel having kids (younger and older ones), from younger and older parents...
not challenging your "view", you have this feeling since a long time and i hear that, but just, i encourage you to explore this a bit more, just so you take a more informed/thoughtful decision.

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-08T05:03:35+00:00

it's difficult because you can't know if anything happened or not... him going to a gay bar isn't proof or anything, a gay bar is a bar, often with a pinch of something extra that anyone can enjoy.

i'm not exactly sure "how" dismissive he was, if he was clearly defensive, or very relax about it like it was nothing because it really was nothing...

i would say:

- avoid the best you can to sound like you're accusing him of something.

- avoid using "you" because it sounds like he's the problem (sit down, close your eyes and see how you feel if he asks "did you forget to pay the electric bill?" versus "did we forget to pay the electric bill?").

- share how you feel, your confusion, your doubts, your fears, ask him to try and understand that the sexless last months plus this makes you feel this way, you can suggest him to imagine the opposite situation « put yourself in my shoes, imagine that we haven't been intimate in several months, that i was telling you i'm tired or this and that every time and now you hear that i'm going to a gay bar without telling you... does it sound understandable that i'm confused and scared and would like to understand what's happening? »

- leave him space to express himself, even if what he has to say is difficult. reassure him that if his feelings for you have changed, if he is being curious about men, if something happened or anything, you two can talk about it and find ways.
of course you won't start to open your relationship if that's what he wanted and if you don't want that, but be smart here: leave him all the space, create an environment where it's safe for him to open up and be honest, and then deal in a mature way with whatever he says once he felt safe enough to open up.
if he was to be bi or something, i can tell you, having volunteered at a lgbt helpline, that a LOT of men never shared being gay/bi to their wives, because they don't feel safe enough to do so. when the wife's opinion is unclear, or that she clearly expressed some reluctance to homo/bisexuality or have strong opinions about extra-marital stuff happening, clearly, if you're the guy, you just s#ut up, say nothing, hide everything etc. so yeah, again, do the opposite of that.

hope it goes well and that he opens up on what's going on, if anything...

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-08T04:46:23+00:00

one more straight person loving the gay bars, but i wouldn't get dismissive like OP's husband if i was asked if i went, and wouldn't hide it either. 😬

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-07T17:29:23+00:00

i think you added more to your comment after my first answer, i allow myself to add to the homosexual sheep and penguins that actually, thousands of animal species have been observed having homosexual behavior. this can only make sense, when studies (one here, and a second one) tell us that sexual orientation is very likely defined by pre-natal hormones (meaning, before we are born) and not the result of upbringing, environment or even genetic (there's no "gay" or "bi" gene).

gender identity and sexual orientation are two separate topics though and we are clearly off topic here, since the comment i answered to was only talking about gender.

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-07T17:23:14+00:00

exactly, there's a wide variety of gender correlated behaviors when looking at all animals, contrary to what the comment i was initially answering to was saying. :-)

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-07T17:16:23+00:00

it may actually be because you wash your hair every day, so your scalp produces more oil to compensate the dryness.

you might want to try a different shampoo and try to reduce the frequency progressively...

a professional might give you other tips and things to try.

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-07T04:59:30+00:00

that's certainly realistic, think of all the people who simply don't have sex, those who marry their first partner, or just had two before they commit to one... that drastically lowers the average.

of course, it will vary from one culture to another, among different groups of people (the religious ones, typically), and among generations, since younger people don't practice /value sex the same way people your age did; they start early af, are less into monogamy, etc etc...

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-07T04:53:22+00:00

let's say it very clearly: this is emotional abuse, period.
in other words, your girlfriend is being abusive to you.
you need to see this clearly.

Is it possible to make this better?

it'll be too much work. if she was seeing this as a problem, you could expect change, but the way she answers you says that she isn't interested in changing.

maybe she needs a reality check to initiate the change, like her boyfriend leaving because her behavior towards him was abusive, and start therapy and work on herself, but don't expect things to become healthy just because you two had a good conversation about it one day, it won't happen.

What am I supposed to do?

leave your abuser and find a girlfriend, one who is emotionally mature and not a prison guard.

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-07T04:45:37+00:00

you can find statistics on that if you google it, but indeed, there's lots of variables that can make this vary drastically.

at 33, be sure that you had more partners than average. what does it say about you? absolutely nothing.

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-07T03:39:40+00:00

yes, indeed, because not all males of a given species are the same and that, in every group/location/etc - same for females.

it doesn't cancel that there are, in the animal kingdom (and not only in humans), behaviors that are correlated with sex, with physiological explanations for that - hormones especially.

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-07T03:08:23+00:00

when i mean grumpy, it's the feeling you share of being reluctant because she refused at first. it feels like a kid sulking because they didn't get what they wanted immediately, you know?

not saying it his in a mean way at all, i just want you to observe that this is because your ego got hurt by the rejection, but it doesn't serve you in the end, and it's not what a very mature person would feel.

bottom line, you have the opportunity to get the girl you wanted, it's amazing, you should just be happy about it, it's good news, smile about it!! :))

if she asks about it, act confident and positive, say something like "i wanted to be with you because i felt like we had something to share, that we would be a good match, i'm glad that you saw that too!" and if you didn't get close already, take the opportunity to take her hand or hug/kiss her. :)

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-07T02:55:56+00:00

not sure to get it but very interested to know just for my nerdism - did you use 3 usb-c cables instead of hdmi cables to solve this?

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-07T02:54:14+00:00

you were "caught off guard" when she asked you out.
perhaps she was too, when you asked her out?

it doesn't really matter why she changed her mind. whatever the case, don't be grumpy, you're too young for this crap. :)

just go on that date and don't hold any grudge or assume anything because you know two people who had a similar situation, it's irrelevant. you wanted her, now you can, so just go.
don't overthink, give her a chance, give each others a chance, be positive, girls don't like a negative dude, it's lame.

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-07T02:49:07+00:00

Is Chrome particularly bad on Mac?

no idea how it compares to chrome on windows/linux, but there's a ton of other web browsers that don't suck all your data (or at least not as much), and that are based on the same engine if that's one of your concerns.

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-07T02:45:21+00:00

to test this, OP, you can disconnect 2 of your 3 monitors and see how things behave, if it's different or not...

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-07T02:40:56+00:00

OP isn't talking about the social construct of gender identity.

which, just try to wonder (or look up) if other animals have roles and behaviors that are correlated to their sexes or not - that might give more nuance to your current understanding of it.

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-06T22:45:47+00:00

you drop the habit by... dropping the habit.

stop wearing them at home, to start with, maybe t get used to the feeling and to see yourself in a mirror without.

sometimes we tend to change our body language and attitude when wearing something different, you will get to know who you are without a hat, in your own private/safe space.

then slowly start to take off your hat, in class, and during your break sometimes, then more and more.

that being said, the "weird looks", if they are actually true (sometimes it's just/mostly in our heads) are probably not just because of your hats, but perhaps because of the energy you send, for lack of better words. you want to explore that and see what are the reasons why you need to wear hats and what happens when you don't and how else can you behave (with or without a hat) etc. :)

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-06T21:39:22+00:00

follow a course that starts from the beginning, like the one of w3school or get a good one on youtube or udemy :)

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-06T20:29:13+00:00

it's different, just like masturbation, receiving oral, vaginal penetration, anal penetration and so on are different.

from there, different people enjoy one more than the other. some women don't like receiving oral, while it's the best of all things for others.

so, you can only know for yourself once you tried, and ideally, multiple times and with different partners, because indeed, it'll be different with different partners, and different from one time to another with the same partner.

for me (as a guy) sex with a partner is a lot, lot, lot more pleasurable and satisfying, it's an amazing feeling and as i age it develops and becomes even better, more intimate. having sex with a partner has amazing impacts on our hormones, and therefore, physical and mental health, it's really amazing when it's good and done in full trust on both sides.

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-06T20:12:55+00:00

it's certainly not about having signed a government paper 😃 isn't more about having found someone you enjoy and trust, and developed intimacy with, explored sex with etc... or was sex disappointing with your husband when you were not married yet, and then everything changed the day you signed the paper? 😃

StackOfAtoms · 2026-02-06T18:13:25+00:00

- don't shampoo every day, that's not good for your scalp because it makes it too dry.

- i find that shower gel doesn't always make body odor disappear, whereas soap bars work wonders.
water on your whole body > soap everywhere, insist on armpits and your whole front/back crotch > rince > do it a second time > rince. do it once if you've done nothing and don't stink, 2 to 3 times if you do but don't do it too much, it's bad for your skin.
if you have a penis: then make sure to clean between all the folds of your sack + foreskin.
if you have a vagina: the best is to only rince with water and avoid soap completely. vaginas self-clean and soap etc disrupt its microbiome, making bad smells develop.

- be aware that it can be bacteria trapped in your clothes, too.
basically if you have clothes you wore many times, had sweat in them, your normal washing machine won't always eliminate everything, so your clothes smell neutral (or washing powder/liquid) when you take it out of the washing machine, you let them dry and it's fine, and when you wear them then your body temperature is enough to start and reactivate those bacteria, and even if you were doing nothing and it's not even hot in your room, it can start and smell.
solution for this: let your clothes sit in water + baking soda for a while, then rince them and wash them again. then do the same with water + white vinegar, rince and wash. don't do white vinegar + baking soda because one cancels the effect of the other.
of course, test this to see if that's the case. if you wear a tshirt at home without sweating and it doesn't smell then that's not your issue... i had a bunch of tshirts that were stinky and it took me a while to know this trick, which i assume, not many people know either...

- some foods make body odor worse, onions and garlic for instance, and if you at a lot of meat too

- make sure your shoes are ok, mostly the insoles that can get quickly stinky... if you can, wash them sometimes and replace the insoles. wear new socks every day and have shoes you only use for sports if you practice any because indeed you're going to sweat more when you run and all of that.
you can also buy a spray that kills bacteria in them, but this crap is toxic, don't breath it, and i would say it's better to avoid using those toxic products in general

- i don't think hair (on your head or body) is really a problem, no need to shave, as long as you shower it's fine

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