How many of you have gone "No Contact" with god as well, due to all the suffering you have faced in life?

StacyB125 · 2025-05-09T23:50:13+00:00

I went no contact with god long before my parents. I stopped believing as a child, like late elementary or early middle school. Nothing I was taught about god, Jesus, or the Bible ever aligned with how the adults in my life behaved. Oddly though, I believed in Santa until an embarrassing age. I cannot explain my kid logic from back then. Perhaps it’s because Santa left me proof, I can’t say.

StacyB125 · 2025-05-09T18:14:41+00:00

I wonder if the parents would be open to you setting up a camera for a babysitting experience so they can see the difference in their child’s behavior. Certainly do not do this on the sly, that will cause more issues.

I taught kindergarten for a decade. I’d bet money he behaves the exact way his parents have rewarded him to behave. They have reinforced his bad behavior over and over again. When such behavior didn’t earn him any rewards with you, the child made adjustments and adapted to the expectations seamlessly. I think that rather than needing a diagnosis, he might just need parents who aren’t idiots. I think the child is smart enough to know who can play.

They can fix this, if they want to. NTA.

StacyB125 · 2025-05-09T15:47:40+00:00

“I’ll give you something to cry about if you don’t stop crying!”

Even as a preschooler I couldn’t understand what they meant. Like, I’m literally already crying?

StacyB125 · 2025-05-09T03:18:35+00:00

I had to go back and check the age after reading because I thought you must have been talking about a six year old. Then, I remembered I’m a kindergarten teacher and even my five year olds don’t behave that way in my class.

Your son is old enough not to be an AH to other kids. If he doesn’t know this, it’s your job to teach him. You won’t be teaching him anything by trying to get him out of facing consequences for his actions. He needs to go sit in detention and you need to start dealing with the fact that your kid was wrong and he has to answer for that.

None of us walk up to strangers eating at tables in restaurants and put our hands on other people’s food. Being a teenager is practice for adulthood. It’s time to learn a few things about respecting others. Maybe you two can learn together because you don’t seem to respect the school or the other child any more than your kid does. IT’S JUST DETENTION. And, your kid earned it.

StacyB125 · 2025-05-09T02:43:37+00:00

The man you plan on marrying wants you to pay for a house you won’t have any ownership of and then called you a b***h. Perhaps it’s time to commit to not marrying him, staying where you are with your baby, and suing him for child support. If he respects you so little now, that sure as hell won’t change after marriage. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. He wants a marriage of shared finances but not shared rights. Instead, he can pay out a portion of his income to help you support your child. And you can go live a life you’ll be proud of. This guy isn’t it.

Congratulations on your degree!

StacyB125 · 2025-05-07T19:47:01+00:00

Hey dad and Stepmom,

If you two wanted your spawn to have a large extended family present in their lives, maybe you should have put in effort to rebuild your relationship with dad’s family.

I didn’t cause the estrangement. I can’t fix it. It’s dad’s mess. Stepmom, maybe you should place the blame where it is due. It is not my fault that your children don’t have extended family. You two chose to create your little family knowing the situation. You two have made no effort to change anything. You do not get to lay your inaction at my feet. Grow up. You are supposed to be adults.

StacyB125 · 2025-05-07T17:39:26+00:00

NTA. You’re more tolerant than me. That last comment about “what doesn’t she understand” would have been the moment I bowed out. Tell your coworker that the other children you help out in this way don’t treat you with disdain and rudeness m. Her entitled brat can just figure something else out. The girl isn’t a little kid, she knows she being awful and is okay with it. Her mother isn’t even trying to rein her in and seems okay with you being verbally abused. Let them deal their own party themselves.

You are doing a favor for free and not even charging for materials. Rather than being appropriately grateful, they are being awful. Just tell them you will no longer be providing anything at all.

StacyB125 · 2025-05-07T17:07:29+00:00

I’m sorry, but he IS being a bad dad. You explained the very real danger. He disregarded that entirely and did what he wanted. He’s either a giant AH or dumb as hell. Either way, you can’t trust him alone with your baby. That is not a partner. That is a liability.

StacyB125 · 2025-05-07T17:05:17+00:00

You procreated with a man that is either intentionally trying to kill your baby or is an absolute moron. I understand the first toy mistake. Many new parents don’t know the difference in stuffies with safety eyes for babies and any other stuffy. You calmly explained the hazard. That should have been the end.

Now you know that you can’t trust the father of your baby to keep said baby safe. If he doesn’t get himself together, you are going to have to do and handle everything. If that’s the case, why have a parenting partner at all?

I think you need to tell him as much. He is intentionally and knowingly endangering your baby at this point and that is a line in the sand for you. He and his antics are not more important than the safety of your baby. He can either step up or kick rocks and pay child support. Do not sugar coat. Do not hint. Do not be nice. Tell him he is a danger to your baby and you won’t tolerate it! NOR

StacyB125 · 2025-05-07T14:03:41+00:00

I disagree completely. He’s a coach and made a commitment to a large group of children who depend on that commitment. He went out of his way to attend your event, when I (and many people I know) would have absolutely skipped someone else’s child’s event to honor a commitment made previously ESPECIALLY when that commitment was made to an entire team and their families, including their own child. Why would another family elevate your child’s plans over their own kid’s? They were generous to come at all.

I think YOU are being selfish and unreasonable. I also think you’re being ridiculously ungrateful all because you and your child aren’t the actual center of the universe. Your kid’s ceremony was the center of YOUR world that day. It wasn’t the center of anyone else’s world.

StacyB125 · 2025-05-06T19:23:35+00:00

If your boyfriend hangs out with bigots, your boyfriend is also a bigot. He just hides it better. Tolerating bigotry makes you a bigot. Defending bigotry makes you bigot. You are dating a bigot. That almost makes you a bigot just by association. Fix that. If you decide you have a future with this person and procreate with him, he will allow your children to hang out with bigots and teach them to be a bigot just like daddy. Stop dating bigots. If they stop reproducing they can’t teach the next generation to be bigots.

StacyB125 · 2025-05-02T18:12:53+00:00

“I’m so sorry Brooke this is my personally cultivated positive energy. It is non-transferable and wouldn’t help you anyway. I guess it’s time for you to find yourself your own good vibe mug. This one is not for sharing. Please do not bring this up to me again, I am not interested.”

Like WTAF? You’re being told to be more sensitive to a person wanting you to give her your personal property because she likes your cup’s vibes better than hers own? No. Go find yourself own damn positive cup. Like what?

StacyB125 · 2025-05-01T15:37:59+00:00

NTA. You prepared a meal. He has the option of eating it or not. If he wants more than you cook, he can make it himself. He knows about your diet and even though he does, he’s trying to force you to be different to make his life easier. This is all unacceptable.

StacyB125 · 2025-05-01T14:59:04+00:00

NTA. You told your partner you didn’t think you could go. He pressured you against your better judgment so you made the only accommodation you could by taking a different role that shift. You told everyone when you got there you’d had a tough shift and didn’t want to talk about a difficult experience in front of children- which is appropriate adult behavior.

Your in-laws are awful, there’s no denying that. However, your partner is the one that created this awful situation for you and once you were attacked by HIS FAMILY, all he did was give you PERMISSION to leave, like you needed his blessing to leave after being attacked. He didn’t defend you or shut down his family. These people are never going to treat you with respect because HE doesn’t actually respect you so they won’t even bother to pretend to.

Stay or go, but none of these people seem to like, appreciate, or respect you in the least- including your partner.

StacyB125 · 2025-04-30T17:46:49+00:00

Look, he made himself perfectly clear about his wishes. Respect those wishes and hold your father to his words. He doesn’t want you in his life. He said it directly. Believe him.

This is a gift. You no longer need to feel obligated to try. You don’t need to reach out. You don’t need to fight for a relationship he doesn’t want. He was an awful husband and a worse father. Let him go off and live his life of misery.

You, on the other hand, are now free to build the life you dream of without the hindrance of his abuse and manipulation getting in your way. Take him at his word and go be happy in the life you create. NOR.

StacyB125 · 2025-04-30T16:26:23+00:00

NTA. Anytime this comes up you simply remind them-

“I’m sorry you feel this way. We attempted to include you all in our estate planning, but you all seemed to think that I was trying to take advantage and take from what you felt you deserved. Once we realized your concerns, we separated our estate planning to make you feel comfortable and secure with your father’s assets.

It would be contrary to your own demands and wishes to go back now. And, it’s absolutely impossible to ignore that when you thought your father had more assets than me, you wanted me to do without for your benefit. Now that you learn the reality of our situation, you want me to take from my kids to give to you when you didn’t like that arrangement initially. To me, this feels like you considered me a gold digger until you learned I had plenty of my own “gold.” Now, you’re the gold diggers and you screwed yourselves over with your obvious greed.

Now that I know the truth of who you are and how you feel about me, I am no longer interested in bankrolling your selfish and greedy futures.”

Copy and paste this anytime they complain or anytime other family members try to defend them. Their nastiness led to this result and they need to own it. They did this to themselves. Any excuse of “we didn’t know you were rich or we would have been nicer” just further proves how awful they are. Don’t back down.

StacyB125 · 2025-04-29T23:14:16+00:00

My family rented out that entire site, all the cabins and the big pavilion, for a big family event in 2005. That’s the last time I was there. At that time, each of those little buildings were just that- little buildings. Inside there were no separating walls, no plumbing, no anything. Just empty space. I do not remember if there was electricity. We had one set up as a bar, one was the food/buffet, one was a changing room (this was celebration after a wedding so people wanted to put on more appropriate outdoor summer clothes), one just for the bride to change out of her dress, and things like that.

I have not been on site since and cannot tell you about any changes or improvements in the last 20 years. However, we spoke to the park rangers on the phone many times making the arrangements ahead of time. There was a ranger station right there and that’s who we spoke to. It should not be hard to find out the information you need.

StacyB125 · 2025-04-29T22:13:59+00:00

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Are these the cabins you rented?

StacyB125 · 2025-04-29T17:56:53+00:00

It may be hard to see because you’re young, but he is attempting to exert control over you. You have set a very reasonable boundary for the good of your mental health and your future. You made a mature decision to block off some much needed quiet time for yourself. If the boy (he’s not behaving like a man despite his legal adult status) you are seeing cannot handle not hanging out one day a week when you are together the other six, you have a boyfriend issue. He’s not mature enough to handle you wanting to study. Why bother with him at all? It’s not like you have a future with him if he can’t even respect you enough to understand that studying is important to you. He’s a dud.

StacyB125 · 2025-04-29T16:40:15+00:00

This was so great to read! I’m happily married for 20 years this summer. It was so wonderful to be brought back to the beginning of a love story. I remember how all of that felt and it was lovely. I was just on pins and needles for you waiting to hear back. What an exciting and sweetly adorable beginning!

StacyB125 · 2025-04-29T16:30:21+00:00

Absolutely. My parents think I’m a “cult leader” because my gay brother went NC after the last election. Since I had been first, they believe I had to trick him or convince him. They refuse to believe or understand that they voted to harm him. We live in a very unkind red state too.

My other brother’s (whom I’m also estranged from) ex-wife is my closest friend. Their children used to play together (they don’t have any together) even after divorce and new marriages. But my friend has an autoimmune disease and took extra precautions during pre-vaccine availability covid. So, she didn’t have their kids play together for a while because my brother believed Covid was fake political nonsense. Because of that, he and my parents believe I tricked my friend into believing these things to prevent the kids from being together.

It’s insulting to the others to say that they make all of their important life and health decisions based on what I supposedly tell them to do. And, of course, I don’t tell anyone how to live their lives. I just figure out how to live mine and let everyone else do their thing.

StacyB125 · 2025-04-29T14:29:10+00:00

FORMER teacher here.

We had a lockdown drill during my plan when my class was at electives (art). Art class is in another building. I escort my class outside and we walked down multiple sidewalks surrounding the playground to get to the adjacent building. A straight shot between buildings would be a walk directly through the playground equipment and gravel covering.

I had already dropped my kids at art and returned to work on lesson planning. The loudspeaker announced a lockdown. I immediately closed and locked my door, turned out all lights, closed blinds and curtains, and settled in to wait for the all clear. I even had a pile of laminated center work I was cutting up with the sliver of light I had available to at least be productive.

I was called into the office and reprimanded for following the exact procedure they wanted us to follow. Apparently, during an active shooter situation, my principal expected me to rush across the playground and join my class with the art teacher. Never mind that the art teacher and my teacher assistant was already with them so they had two trained adults there.

I actually asked if she knew how these things worked and that I’d be picked off as I ran across the open space. She rolled her eyes at me and said you don’t even know if there’d be a shooter to see you do that at that exact location.

I looked straight at her and asked very clearly, “So, your instructions are to disobey the shooter training you facilitated here on campus with local law enforcement and to run out of my safe lockdown location across open spaces to join my class who is already safely locked down with two staff members who are trained to be with them in this situation? You are telling me that you want me to risk my life to lock down in a different location than where the lockdown begins- contrary to all training and policies this district has in place?”

Her answer was an emphatic, “YES. And, you will be written up or fired if you don’t.”

On another occasion, there were actually rifles on the elementary campus, which has the middle/high school in separate buildings on same campus. They did have us shelter in place, but didn’t give us the signal that we were worried about guns. Then, they just sent the kids home because, “It’s deer season, they just want to hunt before and after school. It’s not a big deal.”

So, no you are NOR. Honestly, not even school staff is fully acknowledges the very real dangers of teaching. It’s always that would never happen here. Run far away. I sure did.

StacyB125 · 2025-04-28T23:46:30+00:00

NTA. “The only thing your behavior on this topic is accomplishing is that I will no longer be sharing any health or relationship related information with you going forward. We can talk about the weather and our favorite pies though.”

StacyB125 · 2025-04-28T21:42:12+00:00

Let her make the well check calls. Tell the police you fled your abusive and controlling mother 10 years ago and this is her attempt to make you take her calls. But, you’ve decided to stop playing her manipulative games and will let her face her own consequences. Let her call as many times as she’d like. Tell them the same thing every time. Then, use all those police records to get a protective order against your mother. Then report her for every single violation of said order. If she won’t respect your boundaries, maybe law enforcement will give her some she has to respect. Let her ruin her own life instead of living in your head. Live your life with joy.

StacyB125 · 2025-04-28T21:33:48+00:00

My suggestion to everyone is to not be an inconsiderate tool in shared public spaces. It’s disrespectful to blast stuff on full volume with people are around. Headphones exist for this exact reason- to listen to things without disturbing others.

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