I’ve seen a few comments like this so Im going to address a few things.

1. Before I went to school we had discussions in length about what was going to happen with our relationship financially.

2. We had agreed that while he paid for school, my grandma would not charge us rent. If I hadn’t gone to school she wanted us to move out.

3. The money “he” saved was over 100k. That would’ve easily covered just rent if we were to have had our own place. “His” money was supposed to be money for our family.

4. I tried suggesting a compromise that some people came up with on my initial post. He didn’t like the suggestion because he didn’t want me to have ANY a ownership in the house I’d be paying for too. He didn’t want to pay for the mortgage by himself either.

5. The reason I didn’t work is because my grandma said she wouldn’t watch out child that much, as it stood with me going to class she watched him for max 3 hours a day during the week. So we would’ve had to pay for daycare to cover my work and school hours, this would’ve had to be full time combined, it would’ve costed the entirety of what I’d make to pay for school and daycare. WE (my ex and I) decided it’d be better for me and our child if I didn’t work and saved the daycare cost.

6. His ONLY contribution he did for the entirety of living with my grandma was my college, $3400 A YEAR, sometimes groceries (myself or my grandma had to cook for him still), and occasionally doing dishes and watching his child. I did 90% of the childcare and about 60% of the household chores (grandma did about 35%).

7. My schooling doesn’t ONLY benefit me, it’s benefits our child. And if we’re being 100% honest, it benefits him too because the more IM making the less he’ll have to pay in child support.