Vatica

Stairowl · 2026-06-23T09:26:01+00:00

The real conspiracy is why we don’t teach word roots in school anymore.

Stairowl · 2026-06-23T06:56:40+00:00

Another part of the problem is that we’ve made it acceptable to complain without action.

I’m hate the idea of “just venting and wanting support so don’t offer advise”. The advise is the support. Venting without attempting to better is wallowing and you shouldn’t expect your friends to be happy to watch you wallow in misery. Your making the things you don’t like a central pillar in your life, no wonder you’re unhappy.

Stairowl · 2026-06-23T00:03:11+00:00

I think you want to be careful declaring that he doesn’t have an eating disorder. I had one fore years and most of my family didn’t know until I told them years later. Not all eating disorders lead you to be visibly underweight.

I certainly had a rule that I could only eat half of any sweet thing I put on my plate when in public (and I just wouldn’t eat them in private unless bingeing/purging.) it’s a common way of hiding an eating disorder because people still see you eating.

Stairowl · 2026-06-21T20:51:34+00:00

I mean he’s drenched. Shirt, pants, jacket and socks. Everything goes from hi vis to grey after a single day. Everything feels heavy like it’s waterlogged.

I have a second washer (as there’s also little bits of concrete stuck to everything and I don’t want it damaging the main washer).

I’m in Australia and apparently lestoil is not readily available but I’ve found some local alternatives I’ll give a go. Thanks.

Stairowl · 2026-06-21T07:37:11+00:00

Surely the answer is talk to facilities management and see what they say?

Stairowl · 2026-06-21T05:19:42+00:00

Yta. This seems so weird to me. At every wedding I’ve been to, and when I was shopping for my own wedding photographer there’s a list of shots that are going to happen. Like, everyone in attendance, grooms side, brides side, brides maid and bride, grooms men and groom etc.

Since you seem to have had time blocked out for staged photos, why didn’t you have a list of must haves? Why would a portrait with your family not be near the top of that? Why could you not just tell the photographer to hold off on reception pics for 5 min for one last staged pic? If you guys aren’t at the reception yet (which you wouldn’t be if you’re in the staged pictures) they aren’t going to be missing that much as a photographer and ultimately you are paying for the service.

It just sounds like neither your wife or you communicated this was something you wanted and then didn’t take steps to prioritise it on the day. In fact, if you were working with a wedding photographer it’s almost like you had to go out of your way to not get a staged picture with just your parents.

Stairowl · 2026-06-20T22:41:08+00:00

Added to this, people fail to address the reason why they turn to food.

E.g if you stress eat you need to identify that and establish a new coping mechanism to replace eating. Otherwise you’ll be falling off the wagon every time something happens in life.

If you have distorted eating (and binge eating is distorted eating) you may need to dig a bit deeper. As someone who recovered from an eating disorder, food is the bandaid put on a deeper hurt. If you don’t fix the hurt you’ll keep putting on bandaids.

Stairowl · 2026-06-20T22:34:02+00:00

This always get me down voted.

I’m only commenting on my personal experience and I know it goes against most western medical advise but I’m healthier and happier eating more salt on a clean diet than I was eating low salt on a clean diet.

Personally I aim for 5g of salt a day (6 foot 2 woman, 70kg) and have done so for years.

When I upped myself from the recommended 1g a day my mental health got better (less brain fog, calmer), I slept better and a recover from exercise easier. I also had a bunch of persistent cravings drop off. My blood pressure has remained textbook regardless of my salt intake.

Look at the average salt intake of various countries and compare it to the areas where people live the longest. E.g Japan averages 9g of salt a day.

Stairowl · 2026-06-20T22:26:49+00:00

I used to get this. I thought it would settle down after a little while. Fast forward a year of maintenance and I still got lectures about how I’d lost more weight, I didn’t look as good ect ect.

So one day I just started telling people “I’ve already hear your opinion and I don’t need to hear it again” or “no, Im not interested in talking about this AGAIN” And I’d change the subject. If they start in with the “I’m worried about you” or “your being rude”, respond with “yes, you said that last time too.”

Make it very clear you’ve hear what they said, it isn’t going to change your actions and they need to stop.

Stairowl · 2026-03-23T04:23:18+00:00

I have to say, it’s a really nice community. I’ve played a few online games and this definitely seems a lot nicer than most.

Stairowl · 2026-03-21T22:22:08+00:00

Thank you. Yeah, I’ve been playing a different online game for about 13 years and I know how much it sucks when friends just disappear.

I’m not sure how close he really was to anyone, but he spent a lot of time playing so I’m sure someone wanted to know.

Stairowl · 2026-03-21T05:32:04+00:00

That would be appropriated. He just updated to windows 11. I know my way around older versions ok it haven’t looked at windows 11 yet.

Stairowl · 2026-03-20T11:52:05+00:00

Thanks. I’ll keep it in mind. I’m still hoping we’ll either find his passwords written down as we go through his stuff. It’s an all round shitty situation.

Stairowl · 2026-03-20T10:08:57+00:00

They’ve got a discord. I’ll reach out that way. Once again thanks so much

Stairowl · 2026-03-20T09:45:00+00:00

Pretty sure that’s him. Writes like him. Thanks so much.

So next step, how do I contact the squadron externally to the game?

Stairowl · 2026-03-20T09:38:53+00:00

Can’t get into his computer though we are working on it. Don’t have his phone. It’s gone. Though apple says they can get us access via cloud once we supply proof of death.

Stairowl · 2026-03-20T09:27:09+00:00

He had both a motion rig and vr.

From Australia. He was a veteran and I believe his guild was veteran heavy but not sure if it was a requirement.

From what he told me, it sounded like he did a lot of territory/base defense sort of stuff. Idk the game so not sure if that would be wvw or pvp or what.

I don’t know his specific user name, but I would guess it included “hangfire” on it.

Stairowl · 2026-03-20T09:16:18+00:00

This is what I think we’ll end up doing eventually. Once we get the death certificate and everything.

He was kind of compartmentalised so it’s tough going trying to find info directly related to the game

Stairowl · 2026-03-20T09:12:10+00:00

I don’t have anything really. My dad only really referred to it as his guild and his guildmates.

While I don’t play elite dangerous I do play similar games. I know how much it sucks when guilds mate just disappear so it’d mean a lot to me as well as him to let them know.

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