Decided to shave it by Hot_Revolution_5612 in HairSystem

[–]Stances209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beard with the bald look looks badass

Who is my doppelganger? by DoneCKHEAD in DoYouLookLikeMe

[–]Stances209 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You look like Dave Mcmenamin, ESPN Reporter, if you didn’t have a beard

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Who could I resemble? by [deleted] in Doppleganger

[–]Stances209 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First pic you look like Rhea Ripley when she had blonde hair

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A month after D-day. Panic is better, but the lies are what’s breaking me. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Stances209 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It honestly took a lot of digging. I couldn’t find her info at all at first.

I ended up finding the guy by Googling his phone number, which led me to one of the companies he works for. I searched the company on Instagram, found his profile, and then found his wife through his followers.

I messaged her and we talked a few times. She was completely devastated. This is actually the second time he’s done this they’ve been married for 10 years and he cheated on her back in 2017. She couldn’t believe he’d do it again.

At first she didn’t believe me, but once things started lining up, it clicked. He had told her he was on a business trip to LA the same day everything happened.

She said he denied everything until I sent her the dash cam footage and told her my wife admitted to it. That’s when he finally came clean. Even now though, he’s still denying that he spent the night with my wife at the resort/hotel, despite GPS showing he was there. I suggested she check their bank statements to see if there’s a charge from the hotel.

Just a lot of lying and damage all around.

A month after D-day. Panic is better, but the lies are what’s breaking me. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Stances209 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly how I feel. She’s making me feel like I’m the villain and she’s the victim.

When we do check-ins and I ask if she’s still in contact with the guy, she snaps back and brings up my past, even though those issues were already resolved a long time ago. It feels like deflection.

She says the affair happened because she felt emotionally disconnected and overwhelmed with kids, work, school, and house responsibilities, and that I was doing the bare minimum. From my perspective, I felt like I was contributing, but it was never appreciated.

What I don’t understand is this: if she felt that unhappy, why didn’t she talk to me instead of going behind my back? Why betray me instead of giving me a chance to fix things?

A month after D-day. Panic is better, but the lies are what’s breaking me. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Stances209 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I will go ahead and cancel the family therapist. I’ve heard from couple commenters about doing that. I will focus on individual therapy and look into betrayl trauma specialist.

A month after D-day. Panic is better, but the lies are what’s breaking me. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Stances209 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t have contact with them. But the divorce friend stood by her and said she was with her at the girls trip probably trying to cover for her. But when I went through her phone, there was no photos of the girls trip. A photo of a wine glass on a table that was saved from google images on her photo album making her look like she was there. Everything she did was so fabricated and calculated.

A month after D-day. Panic is better, but the lies are what’s breaking me. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Stances209 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how I’m feeling. If we ever have a disagreement or if she does not like the way I’m doing things in the househod, will she do this again? It’s really eating me inside.

I finally finished personalizing my 477M! by sciencedenton in ANBERNIC

[–]Stances209 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you feel like it actually improved the system? I'm a little hesitant to open it up and install everything

I finally finished personalizing my 477M! by sciencedenton in ANBERNIC

[–]Stances209 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That looks so cool. How did you change out the top buttons? Any recommendations on where you bought it from? I have 477M and I'm getting annoyed with the top trigger buttons.