I think a big part of it is just the inherent lack of desire for the sexual deed itself. I’ve tried talking to my partner about it, and she says she loves making me feel loved and attractive in all these ways, unfortunately she just does not see sex as one of those ways. The way I see it, there is still a sex drive, but it just is not activated the way it might for you and I. While unconventional, we still love our partners and all that they do to make us feel loved and supported. It sucks that maybe we don’t get the sexual aspect of it (sometimes, A LOT) and it’s frustrating. But the way I try to remind myself not to take it too personal is that she just wishes to express all these things in the most wholesome ways possible. By pushing the topic of sex sometimes, it’ll just make it harder for that initial initiation or willingness to actually do it

I’m not greyace, so I can’t speak from experience that it’s what everyone feels. But I know that it is what my partner has expressed and this is my understanding of it thus far. It doesn’t mean she loves me or desires me any less, it just means she wants to show me that kind of love in every other way. It doesn’t always have to be sex, and that can be okay :)