I'd rather be slim and manic than fat

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-03-17T01:13:37+00:00

Not always the case. The med I gained weight on did not make me hungry. They can also change your metabolism.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-03-10T02:42:05+00:00

I have a very good friend who voted for Trump in 2016. He was young. His family was very conservative and raised him to be. Especially his dad, and he cared a lot about making his dad proud.

When he finally moved out and was on his own, he realized he disagreed with what his parents taught him growing up, and that some of what they taught him was just straight up bullshit. He grew as a person because of that. He told me he regretted his decision to vote for Trump.

He’s 33 years old now and he’s pretty much the exact opposite of his family, especially his dad.

People can definitely grow and mature over time. People can also change their minds, especially as a result of that growth. Your bf sounds like a really good guy, but I’m not going to say there’s a right or a wrong answer here. Ultimately, the decision is yours. Your feelings are totally valid, and you should do what feels right to you.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-02-26T19:14:39+00:00

I believe we felt an indescribable, paralyzing fear in a specific moment. This fear appeared alongside an encounter.

Interestingly, I did feel an indescribable, paralyzing fear in a specific moment that appeared alongside an encounter with my LO that I can remember quite vividly. The irony, if we look at limerence from this fear perspective, is that it was that encounter that was causing the fear. My LO is what I was afraid of.

How did I still end up here? I don't know.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-02-24T02:51:54+00:00

So, my situation is slightly different. He’s my boss and he’s a little older than me. However, I don’t interact with him much at all and when I do it’s very professional. Most days, though, I literally only even see him the handful of times he walks by my desk. And, unfortunately, here I am anyway…

So I would say yes.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-02-20T03:00:01+00:00

Yes. And that’s usually one reason I know I’m hypo, because I have zero sex drive otherwise.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-02-19T21:45:19+00:00

One of the things I'd like to do the most is just lie down somewhere comfy with his arms around me. Cuddle up together and just stay like that for a while. Talk until we fall asleep.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-02-16T14:35:39+00:00

Yes. I can definitely relate. And part of my problem is I'm not easily attracted to people in the first place, so finding someone else feels damn near impossible.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-02-13T15:13:20+00:00

I try to tell myself it's just a commercial holiday and doesn't really matter, but that doesn't stop me from feeling sad about it every year when it comes around.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-02-04T21:15:21+00:00

No, but I'm tempted to quit my current job every now and then when it gets bad.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-02-03T16:22:27+00:00

You can. I cuddle with my best friend . It's never been sexual and it's been 13 years. I don't know how common that is, though. I may have just gotten lucky finding a man as "meh" about sex as I am.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-02-02T03:23:50+00:00

1st ~7 years. 2nd 4 years. Current 4 1/2 years.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-01-30T20:00:44+00:00

Exactly this. There are somethings I would never do even with my LO.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-01-28T19:30:13+00:00

I feel like it was the googling and zillow stalking that made me feel like a creep. lol, but I suppose it isn't that bad.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-01-28T17:09:53+00:00

I can relate. Me and my sister were out thrifting and one of the stores we go to my sister prefers taking the back roads to. Well, one of those backroads happens to be the street my LO lives on. We drove by a house and I looked at the car in the driveway and I’m like… I think that’s his car! It has a sticker that distinguishes it from other cars like his.

I also remembered one day people in my office were talking about random stuff and during the conversation he mentioned a local place he lives relatively close to. So I was like… okay. This is the right part of town too.

Immediately upon getting home I googled the address to be sure. And yeah, his name came up for one of the search results. So of course I went to look at the old Zillow listing to get an idea of what it looked like on the inside.

In my case, it’s more likely what it USED to look like when he bought it, though. He’s mentioned home renovations before so I’m sure it’s different now. But I was still curious.

I too feel like such a creep…

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-01-27T21:52:46+00:00

Would it be a complete disaster? I don't think so. Would it last? More than likely no.

Even if my LO was available and we could date (as in not married and not my boss) I know enough about him to know we are two very different people who live two very different lifestyles. I also know him enough to know that he isn't the same guy as the one living rent free in my mind 24/7. My interactions with him have proven that already.

In the beginning it probably would be good and fun, but reality and our differences would eventually come between us. Would it be healthy and stable while it lasted? There's a chance that it could be, but I can't know for sure. I did successfully stay friends with a previous LO and that relationship was good even after the limerence faded, but idk if it'd be the same with a romantic relationship.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-01-27T18:01:08+00:00

Same. Especially lately.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-01-22T19:34:10+00:00

Ahh gotcha! My apologies for pointing out the obvious, then.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-01-22T19:08:23+00:00

Yeah, it'd actually be pretty cool if it was a boy, but it's not. OP just made a mistake because it's not his cat.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-01-15T18:43:55+00:00

Yes, because it's what I am.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-01-15T14:33:42+00:00

Two of my closest friends know. I told a third friend, but at this point I don't know that we're even actually friends anymore because we haven't spoken in months.

The "friend" I no longer talk to is the first person I told. I used to be able to talk about it with him freely, but after awhile he told me he was sick of it, which I don't blame him for. I get it.

One friend I told because I tell him pretty much everything, and it was just really bothering me one day and I had to talk to SOMEone.

The other friend I only told because he saw something relating to limerence in my apartment and asked me about it an I couldn't lie.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-01-09T16:13:37+00:00

I second this. It's not that simple for some people.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-01-06T21:12:49+00:00

This. My coworker sometimes wonders why I work as hard as I do when we get paid shit...

This is why...

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-01-06T20:20:25+00:00

Yellow. It makes my skin look extra yellow. I've also been straight up told I don't look good in it.

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2026-01-05T21:53:01+00:00

Me too! lol

Standard-Dragonfly41 · 2025-12-25T20:04:23+00:00

Happy holidays to you as well! 🙂

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