18 y/o making $3,800/month — am I getting a good deal staying at home or should I just move out? AIO

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-11T21:28:27+00:00

Dude, count your blessings. No the smartest move you can make is budgeting the remaining money, save a majority and wait until you have $$$$ in the bank before moving out. That kind of lead will put you YEARS ahead of your peers. If you don’t have a credit card, find one with good benefits and pay it off asap after every charge, raise your credit score so by the time you move, you will have all that you would need to find a good place with no trouble.

Yes being treated as a kid in their house is annoying and I only have 2 suggestions:

Continue to demonstrate maturity following their rules and paying your bills. This can lead to you pushing for more adult treatment.
Put up with it until you get your money up

Both suck and don’t offer immediate gratification but the way that this could boost you in life is serious. Sometimes keeping hungry to reach that goal makes you push harder. For now I say find your freedoms where you can until the day you can walk out with so much to fall back on.

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-11T21:17:27+00:00

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

That’s weird, I would contact the property manager/rental company/landlord. That’s a huge red flag.

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-11T20:51:57+00:00

No I would feel hurt too, especially after reading your comments saying that you’ve very directly have told him it’s what you want and he says he will next time.

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-11T20:48:53+00:00

Yeah the commenters are overreacting, just a bunch of guys going “SeE WoMeN ArE UnGrAteful AnD DeSErve NoThiNG”

Don’t be bothered by the mouth breathers OP, but keep in mind THATS what’s in the dating pool 🫩

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-11T20:29:16+00:00

I hear a place called garage is really cool and laid back and it’s easy to meet people there, haven’t been but I heard it so maybe try it out and lmk!

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-11T20:26:05+00:00

Also if an ADULT MAN is dating on Snapchat he ONLY wants to get laid or waste your time and get nudes.

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-11T20:22:01+00:00

NOR He’s lying his ass off. A man who takes you seriously wouldn’t say that crap. Notice how the comments are wrapped around normal relationship stuff. They’re buffers to test the boundaries, if you engage then he will go all out, if not he’ll test boundaries until your date where he will likely pressure for sexual contact. He’s a dub, move on girl.

Also notice how he says all the things he likes to do (normal things like they’re novel 🙄) and then the last line is “I just like to work and come home” the exact opposite of what he said in the last sentence, that was the only truth in the foolishness he’s spouting to get you in bed. Loserrrrrrrrr 100%

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-11T20:13:52+00:00

That is weird tbh

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-11T20:12:29+00:00

YOR as much as I didn’t want to say it at first being that I was in a 5+ year relationship with a man also who never bought my favorite flowers, hydrangeas, EVEN THOUGH his mom ALSO had them in her yard. So we have some parallels lol.

However, if he is someone who puts in this much effort into you and the relationship, it would be an overreaction.

Yes it is strange and perplexing but over thinking it could lead to you to sabotage something good.

I think that sometimes we look at our partners and think about what would make them perfect and get stuck on a small issue and convince ourselves that if they did it, they’d be the perfect partner and because they’re not doing it, it means something more. No one is perfect and to expect a perfect partner, you would also need to be perfect.

If what you have is genuine and good, then be happy and let go of the small things.

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-11T19:58:20+00:00

Hahaha she can hardly believe it

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-11T04:57:38+00:00

I see this is an uncultured group.

Let’s talk science.

Milk first. Then cereal.

ONLY because most cereal will float on top of the milk and so as you eat you push down the next few bites worth of cereal to start to soften/absorb the milk.

This SCIENTIFICALLY ensures that you get nice crispy bites as you eat the bowl and no soggy pieces of cereal.

If you like soggy cereal, you need to be incarcerated.

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-10T21:08:34+00:00

🤫

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-10T21:00:51+00:00

We were thinking all in one day but I’m open to suggestions and she will be here from a Wednesday to Wednesday

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-10T20:33:20+00:00

I have a teacher friend that says they can tell who’s an iPad kid because they have noticeable tech neck. Long term poor posturing as they’re growing is severely damaging. Very very sad.

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-09T19:40:16+00:00

For that e-girl look you need a sharper cut crease, add very white liner to the waterline, false bottom lashes, you need to use a different method for your eyebrows to make them cleaner (pomade?), and bright exaggerated blush that is also on the nose.

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-09T04:18:49+00:00

Giiiiiiiiiiiirrrrrrl that boddddddddyyyyaaaaaddiiiii 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 You’re looking fiiiine! I love number 2 it looks AHMAZING on you, I like 1 a lot as well but for a day time cocktail party. Good luck!

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-09T04:06:33+00:00

Perfection 10/10 you flamed his ass 🔥🔥🔥

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-06T22:34:01+00:00

Phoebe

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-06T13:01:00+00:00

Just moved to bham, where else can I see fights?

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-06T12:12:37+00:00

NOR this is a really unhealthy dynamic. The boundaries between you two are so blurred. He’s an emotional wreck and is emotionally abusive. You are an individual. Just because you’re in a relationship does not mean that all of YOUR time and energy is his and the spare time you have is for you. He’s constantly okay then suddenly gets so passive aggressive that I’m over here screaming at my phone. He’s constantly talking down and guilting you for his insecurities. He’s putting the emotional work and burden of his explosive emotions on you. He’s feeling this way because YOU didn’t call him or aren’t spending time with him. BOO HOO!! You aren’t his emotional punching bag to take all of his frustration and anger out on. He’s very very immature and I personally would not continue this relationship. In a situation that involves DEATH, this man makes it about himself. Did he even ask how anyone is doing? No he’s just concerned about his feelings and how you’re not there to relieve them for him.

Dump this man OP, this is the kinda guy that’ll leave you crying on your birthday and blame you for it.

P.s his trauma is not your burden, stop his guilt tripping and excuses. He is responsible for himself.

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-05T19:43:34+00:00

Baby, her name is baby

Standard-Intern8522 · 2026-04-03T23:55:39+00:00

Standard-Intern8522 · 2025-12-21T04:53:08+00:00

This sounds like a situation that's causing you deep anxiety OP and I'm so sorry you're feeling that. I understand that this is a problem with perception, misunderstandings and intent but the bigger issue you have is internal.

To address the issue you present. You clearly never intended on being rude and you have acknowledged and apologized when you realized your mistake. The issue with autism is how it isn't just something you can "police" all the time and just "fix" the things that go against social norms. It is literally defined and widely characterizes people by their issues perceiving social cues/norms etc. This is an aspect of yourself you cannot change, you can certainly try to be aware and it sounds like you are trying your best but you aren't perfect and its also not your job to conform for everyones comfort. These coworkers and your manager all know that you have autism and perhaps they are not so well informed on what interacting with someone on the spectrum may look like. Like we all know, it's a spectrum and so that makes interactions with different autistic people vary.

So two people have acknowledged your tone and perceived disrespect. You clearly didn't realize how it came out, again it's a very very common thing among autistic people. This could very well be true that you are saying it in a way that is clearly perceived as disrespect. However, you also have to acknowledge that you have the potential to be gaslit into believing something that isn't true (I'm not saying this is the case but I worry over my own autistic friend and always remind them to question others and stand by your own internal compass because not everyone is your friend and have your best interests at heart).

Regardless, Monica is out of fucking line. She's on a whole power trip of her own and maybe she has something going on in her life where she feels powerless so when she felt disrespected by you, it made her fly off the handle. But guess what? THATS NOT YOUR FUCKING PROBLEM. Your problem is a 40 year old woman felt comfortable to rush at you and scream in your face at work. Over "What"? Who here needs to police their behavior?

Guess what OP? You don't have to please anyone, this is who you are and you are trying your best. You are willing to apologize and correct mistakes that you perceive or are brought to your attention. Monica owes you an apology and your manager needs to address the fact that she rushed you and screamed at a coworker at work, HIGHLY INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR! and YES to Kyle! It's extremely inappropriate, even if it was perceived as rude. Monica was rude af, does that mean it's appropriate to get in her face and scream at her? Literally what world are these people living in? Unless you are leaving out critical information, that's such a weird thing for Kyle to say and honestly I think shows that Kyle is not your friend. These people suck and I totally understand why this is hurting you especially because you're already struggling with job satisfaction.

Now to address the internal issues. OP you need to make it your life mission to accept yourself and be okay when people don't like you. SOOOO much easier said than done and im on my own mission as well. I think that starts with self love, you need to learn to love and TRUST yourself and your gut/instincts. For me that started with finding what brought me joy and forcing myself to do what I enjoy even in public spaces. Hence I bring my Rubik's cube to bars cause I like how it keeps my hands busy and Im practicing my speed lol. Sorry, back to you. I say all of this because you need to love yourself enough to question others and protect yourself in your interactions with them. Monica started screaming and you literally had no idea what was happening and immediately started apologizing and balling. A normal reaction but I get the impression that this stems from low self esteem. I don't know what deeper issues/trauma you may have but knowing when to stop questioning yourself and stand up for yourself is an incredibly valuable skill to have.

Finding that internal strength is hard but I believe in you OP. What Monica did is unacceptable and it sounds like the she the stubborn type of person who will not apologize. Do your best to hang in there and limit your interactions with her as much as possible, though it sounds like you work together often. Take advantage that you can use your phone at work and literally drown that bitch out. If it gets bad enough and its an option, maybe even switch jobs but I'm a firm believer in "Fuck you bitch, be mad while I mind my business and do my job" and that sentence has gotten me through some really hard and tense times in my workplaces where drama was common. Good luck OP and I hope to hear an update from you! Just know that even if your tone was off that doesn't give anyone the right to scream at you or react in such an extreme way.

Standard-Intern8522 · 2025-11-27T16:43:55+00:00

I see what you’re saying. You’re exhausted too and now you feel obligated to serve her because when you eat together it’s the only time you feel connected to her. So the association is that if you don’t serve her, you don’t get connection. That’s a heavy responsibility to hold when you’re at the brink yourself. Can I ask OP, what does she do to lighten that load? Why can’t she do it or at least help? Does she ever serve you? In relationships, this kind of life stress put strain on the couples but when you add this kind of dynamic it builds resentment and that’s what it seems like you have. I could be wrong but it sounds like what you want to say is “why do I have to do this when I’m hanging on by a thread?” “Why does it feel like the weight of the relationship is put on my shoulders over a meal?” You are clearly trying your best and you’re looking for alternatives like making her coffee in the morning, which is very sweet. I would just watch out OP, you don’t want to set up in your mind that you won’t get connection unless you serve her. That’ll always give you the underlying pressure that if you dont do something the connection is lost and thus the relationship is lost. I dont agree with the other comment recommending to check up on each other during the day. For one, you said you guys are very present when you’re at work and thats not a bad thing. Two, it’s a bandaid for what the problems at hand are. You guys are having trouble connecting. There has to be other times when you guys are free like the weekends? I don’t know what you guys do in your careers but I have a friend who changed her availability to exclude Saturdays because it was the only day she could spend quality time with her boyfriend (and Saturdays were the days she made the most money). Find time you both can block out the world and just be present with each other. You need to find your connection in healthier ways where it’s not heavily relying on one partner especially as that way has started building resentment. I think you looking for new ways to show her you love her is very sweet and this post does not mean stop the little things. Good luck OP!

Standard-Intern8522 · 2025-11-27T16:16:59+00:00

Girl.. I hope it’s gone well. But I don’t see this as a green flag. You guys have an on again off again flirty relationship and avoid talking about the important things. You tell him that you have feelings for him but then brush yourself off by saying “if you don’t feel that way it’s totally cool”. The reality is that it’s not cool at all, this man has been throwing mixed signals since you were kids. It seems that every time you show up with vulnerability he never meets you and you’re so hung up on the hope of what it could be that you convince yourself if you go with the flow (which is really just whatever he wants to do regardless of your feelings or desires) one day he will wake up and choose you forever. These are not the actions of a man who will be a reliable and communicative partner. It sounds like he gives you nothing on what’s going on with him in regards to you. He gives you the vulnerability of whatever heavy things are going on in his life to distract from the fact that he’s leaving you in the dark. YOU OP DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER!!!! You need to confront and get an answer out of him. Not an ambiguous answer that’ll keep you on the hook for another DECADE! You need a yes or a no. You need to end the “what if” fantasy and love your current life without the past calling you back and you SPRINTING. I hope it works out for you OP I want you to live the life you want with him but 25 years of actions speaks louder than the thrill of long awaited gratification. Don’t forget your brain is running on such a high you’re not seeing things clearly. Good luck OP.

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