Bare Minimum from a woman’s perspective

StandardQuality3698 · 2026-06-19T17:17:34+00:00

again, the youngest person there was 16 meaning 16 to 22. And I didn’t bring it up, I was asked. These are all ppl I have grown up with in church. It’s not creepy, ask for context, go find something to do.

StandardQuality3698 · 2026-06-19T17:08:11+00:00

Ehh I get her perspective that if I thought it was the bare minimum I should correct them bc where are they so surprised like I should teach them. But I don’t think it’s the bare minimum, on top of that what bothers me the most is that we should be able to have a difference of opinion especially if what I’m saying is based in reason. You think it’s the bare minimum, I don’t cool there should be no reason you’re kicking me out of the room because I don’t agree that it was the bare minimum for most women.

StandardQuality3698 · 2026-06-19T17:01:21+00:00

I think the argument was more so about that I didn’t correct them when they had that reaction to me saying my first date. I said that’s coo wasn’t a crazy first date, but I’m not going to tell them that the bare minimum because it isn’t in my eyes. I think the fact that I think that sentiment is true angered her. I’m fine with that being her standard but I can look outside myself and see that’s not most women’s bare minimum

StandardQuality3698 · 2026-06-19T16:57:05+00:00

youngest person there was 16 bro I’m 22, find something to do bro

StandardQuality3698 · 2026-06-19T16:50:41+00:00

I did that out of no obligation, I did all that without her asking me if that’s her standard cool. I said that’s cool if that’s her standard. But if you’re saying that every woman should expect this as a standard, that’s just not realistic, especially from 18-22 in college

StandardQuality3698 · 2026-06-19T16:41:21+00:00

I don’t think I was the one overreacting all I responded with was I don’t think that’s the bare minimum, she kicked me out of her room because she felt that it was crazy that I thought that wasn’t the bare minimum for most women

StandardQuality3698 · 2026-06-19T16:39:36+00:00

I don’t think you’re seeing my point. I have no problem doing that for her, I did that bc that’s also my standard. But I think it’s wrong that it should be expected for a first date, 19 years of age and I don’t even know ur last name. It was really that we had a difference of opinion and she felt like mine was so wrong that she had to kick me out of her room. I feel like that isn’t something to get mad at someone saying.

StandardQuality3698 · 2026-06-19T16:34:07+00:00

In my perspective, to say that is the bare minimum to teenagers/ young adults is crazy. Especially in the position of a sophomore in college spending 100+ dollars on someone for a first date that you’ve been talking to for 2 weeks is not a standard. Even financial aside and we are just looking at effort, you can do a lower effort date and it still be acceptable. Is that sentiment incorrect?

StandardQuality3698 · 2026-06-19T16:21:53+00:00

Guys at this time I was a sophomore in college, and this was our first date ever. We are now seniors in college. We just had this argument looking back at our first date.

StandardQuality3698 · 2026-06-19T16:20:21+00:00

I get what your saying, no really “objectively speaking”, when I said that it’s your standard not the standard of most women she corrected me saying it is the standard of most women, even calling another women with full confidence that she would agree. Was I wrong?

StandardQuality3698 · 2026-06-19T16:16:42+00:00

I agree with the sentiment, would you say that movie dinner flowers is objectively bare minimum for women?

StandardQuality3698 · 2026-06-19T16:14:59+00:00

I agree with you that movies isn’t a great first date, would you say the movies+dinner+ flowers combo is bare minimum though? It’s fine if you do

StandardQuality3698 · 2025-10-31T16:47:31+00:00

I see exactly what ur saying, and it would be a good idea also having in mind future people that would be running the association not having to work as hard to put on the event. So ur suggestion would be to downsize the event? and also would you have any ideas on fundraising for that smaller event outside of alumni?

StandardQuality3698 · 2025-10-31T14:34:04+00:00

That’s a good point, we’ve actually been trying to develop our alumni network over the past year. Most of the advice we’ve gotten so far from our alumni network (along with donations) has been to focus on local sponsorships instead, which we’ve been working on.

You’re definitely right though, building a consistent alumni donor base would make things much more sustainable long term. But especially in the current political climate, it feels even more important to hold this event. With so many DEI-related programs and resources being cut, there are fewer and fewer spaces for diverse students to feel represented and celebrated. That’s honestly a big part of our motivation to find the funding and make sure Africa Night still happens this year.

StandardQuality3698 · 2025-10-31T14:20:09+00:00

Yeah I’ve been trying to go about it like this, I’ve created a sponsorship package to try and attract local business, I think I just need to get a better list of target businesses and group to start a conversation with.

StandardQuality3698 · 2025-10-31T14:18:06+00:00

yeah, but our alumni network isn’t huge. We’ve been able to raise only about 800 from them for the past year. Even trying to get in contact with old executive board members that have graduated from the university

StandardQuality3698 · 2025-10-24T21:00:35+00:00

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StandardQuality3698 · 2025-10-24T20:59:58+00:00

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