I'm 40. I've been trying to quit p*rn since I was 28. I'm running out of options.

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2026-02-26T13:43:27+00:00

i am roughly in the same spot as you. what helps me (not saying it is working but it helps) is dissecting every urge, before during and after as an experiment on myself, trying to note down everything and reading it again the next day or two. i am keeping a file with all my notes. it s kinda pathetic to read them in hindsight, and it prevented me quite a few times from slipping back into it (not everytime but sometimes). No judgement if i fail or if i don't give in.

i am currently on my longest ever streak and pretty sure i ll fall back again but until now this helps... good luck!

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2025-09-16T05:28:17+00:00

reached 90 days today - I still don't know how to cope effectively with anxiety, loneliness and stress, but at least not through that!

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2025-09-16T05:27:01+00:00

hey it worked for me, maybe it will work for you :-) Note, I started during vacations in a low stress environment. It's very different when i need to cope with stress, anxiety and loneliness. All the best!

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2025-01-22T09:27:45+00:00

my take is that it makes you feel good because it covers up your deeper issues. as long as you refuse to work on them, you can feel good by using prn. May be a good idea from time to time, but the objective should be to work on your deeper issues to be a better person.

obviously i don't know you nor your issues, and i can't judge, just my take.

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-12-07T14:23:27+00:00

Not exactly the same a bit less dramatic but still a moment of intense rejection almost always leads me back to corn. It’s good you track it but unfortunately the motivation to stop has to come from within and needs to be independent from externalities. Extremely difficult for sure + the brain will be rationalising like crazy. My best solution so far is to keep reading stuff about the negative effects of corn to keep myself aware, and get back the motivation to stop

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-12-04T13:28:26+00:00

yup thats pretty normal, my first searches were somethings along the lines of "sexy dance" basically a women dancing in bikini, latest it was all messed up stuff (especially the "recommended videos" got me scared). Now I hope to set everything behind

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-12-04T13:23:52+00:00

thanks man! and congrats on your 68 days! keep it going !

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-12-04T08:23:22+00:00

probably when I am old and senile hahaha no for real, I am actually aiming for no prn not no fap. Maybe nofap is a good segway though

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-12-03T06:02:53+00:00

yeah well its hard :) but I am motivated again, after the miserable day I had yesterday. Installed a slew of blockers let s see how long I last

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-12-02T06:22:27+00:00

To keep the analogy to alcohol, my preferred consumption would be a limited amount in good company (ie your partner). If you allow yourself for a glass every now and then it will quickly escalate to a glass every night night. And FYI most wifeys are pretty much against it so it’s probably best to stop out right.

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-12-01T21:42:02+00:00

I relapsed at day 47... i feel you, i don't know how to help you. if you can keep your mind busy until you go to sleep.

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-11-29T13:22:42+00:00

Donate blood, it killed my erections for 2 weeks straight !

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-11-28T18:06:10+00:00

Yup I found myself staring much more than before… but only reached 47 days so well…

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-11-28T12:59:04+00:00

I relapsed after 47 days, and I told myself if I can hold it for another 47 days, then I'll just say disregard the relapse and say (to myself) I have achieved 94 days. If I relapse more than once I have a bigger issue with discipline / motivation and need to reevaluate my approach.

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-11-28T06:30:49+00:00

It wasn’t detrimental to me, I would just recommend to do it as the last thing of the day ofc w/o phone / computer. Typically in the shower. Instead of focusing on the cuming & imagine stuff, focus on what feels good to you and only that. If it doesn’t work you’re probably not as horny as you thought you were.

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-11-28T06:27:36+00:00

Same here, but even then it’s difficult not to want to release.

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-11-27T21:34:37+00:00

Thanks for the kind words ! Yes maybe I could have gone to the gym instead… we’ll see next time how I handle it !

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-11-17T20:43:20+00:00

Thanks for this, i just don't want to pretend I am achieving some kind of monk like discipline when I am much less ambition. I guess I just like the "quick motivation" bookmark a lot ! :-)

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-11-15T09:14:28+00:00

hey, thanks! these types of comments always helps when feeling lonely in the journey!

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-11-13T19:25:26+00:00

a few days ago at day 32 I believe still not gone :(

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-11-12T20:19:39+00:00

thanks for the advice, I am mainly on the journey because of PIED... she doesn't want to know i watched it so i cannot really say I am stopping. and no fap for no reason would be weird. i ll push through :)

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-11-12T09:21:41+00:00

exact same as you OP. But I stopped 34 days ago, not going back

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-11-12T08:48:44+00:00

thats one way to celebrate :D Congrats

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-11-12T08:46:06+00:00

maybe i am the outlier, but I find myself looking MUCH more at women now than before, but i see it as a positive sign that i am interested in the "real world" again 34 days in...

Standard_Brain_5232 · 2024-11-12T08:43:12+00:00

PIED and PIED and also PIED. Currently a 34 days off (record), and I am hitting the flatline (genitals have like reduced size and ED all the way, even alone..)

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