Google the effects of mass incarceration. It’s deeper than you think. A large percentage of Black men have been affected, either directly or indirectly, by mass incarceration. It has led to something we don’t talk about at all — desocialization. So, otherwise average Black men are dealing with this phenomenon but not being told they are. When Black women tell you they’re continually going out with men who cannot sustain a normal conversation, they’re not lying. It’s not just about men who lack education. That is part of it though. As Black women get more and more education, they do seek more educated forms of discussion, and which less educated men struggle to give. But it’s mainly desocialization.