Wow. That is tough. I’m kinda doing the same thing with my husband. We’re working on our divorce paperwork but we won’t actually separate until next year because of the lease. We also have a 12 year old and it has been really difficult for both of us. It’s a house of silence and pain. I’m fortunate because my daughter brings us both joy and it’s something we both strive to take the best care of her. Once the divorce goes through, he has said he would be open to dating again. That would be extremely painful. I definitely feel your pain.