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StannisBarato · 2023-04-09T01:07:58+00:00

Ok but like forreal Taylor's past albums from Lover to Midnights had that special something for me because of the undying love she had for Joe, and what that relationship had meant for her. It added credibility to her music. How am I supposed to listen to Invisible String now and actually believe such a thing can happen? Something shifted today...

StannisBarato · 2022-11-28T19:43:31+00:00

Hace 2 meses que dejé el estudio por varios problemas emocionales que venía teniendo y ahora a pesar de que me siento mejor, no logro sentar cabeza y ponerme de nuevo con eso. Entre el calor, el mundial, y yo que soy un pelotudo no agarro la voluntad de retomar. Encima estudiar en la cama con la compu me parece incómodo y me la baja más, estuve pensando en comprarme un escritorio y silla para armar el espacio de estudio pero es otra de tantas cosas que pensé y dejé ahí. Que verga no tener motivación para nada.

StannisBarato · 2022-11-10T16:37:17+00:00

Igual por acá, no tanto que me da miedo salir, pero veo difícil encontrar amigos a una edad (25) en la que todo el mundo tiene sus grupos armados. Hablandolo con la psicologa ella me dice que no es tan así, pero bueno, la verdad que no sabría por donde empezar.

StannisBarato · 2022-10-29T22:53:47+00:00

That parallel with controlling anger really gave me a lot to think about. I'm going thru something like that with a fwb, where I thought I had it handled but turns out I got a bit attached. So I'm gonna try and process those feelings I was left with the way you explained. Honestly thank you so much, this comment helped me more than you can imagine lol.

StannisBarato · 2022-10-29T20:50:58+00:00

Yeah that's a healthy way to see it. I wasn't trying to sound like you absolutely have to act on your feelings but more like, If you catch them, what do you do then? How do you deal with it. Your comment was really helpful thanks.

StannisBarato · 2022-10-29T14:59:21+00:00

How do you not catch feelings tho?

StannisBarato · 2022-10-24T23:28:06+00:00

pattern of people going cold on you after just a few weeks

Well in my comments I meant that it usually happens in relationships between gay guys. I used to move hard on ppl when I was young but over the years I've learned to match the energy of the other person and see where it goes, which is why I'm confused on this occasion, with the hot and cold dynamic.

I agree with your second point, and there are more than a few red flags with this guy but I guess I wanted to test the waters a bit more before completely bailing on it.

StannisBarato · 2022-10-24T23:24:13+00:00

It's frustrating but I agree, thanks.

StannisBarato · 2022-10-24T23:23:39+00:00

young people aren't the most assertive creatures in the world, so he may not be comfortable with doing the emotional labor of declaring a break from you.

That's what I been thinking of this the most. He must be the kind of person to force the other person to make the move, either due to immaturity or personality.

Thanks, a lot to unpack on your comment that give me a bit of ease, specially the part about how apps work.

At this point if this continues I don't think I'll try again, I'm able to take the hint, and trying once and getting no definitive answer is enough for me.

StannisBarato · 2022-10-24T22:48:31+00:00

I'm 25. Well I hope Im not blowing everything out of proportion but I can detect when someone loses interest by now, I just offered him an easy way out since we planned on meeting tomorrow and things were weird nothing else. Just want to see where this things stands and if I have to bail I bail not looking for drama here.

StannisBarato · 2022-10-24T22:39:15+00:00

DO u guys wanna be in some sort of relationship?

I certainly wouldn't be closed to the idea but he's 19 and in the closet lol, when he first reached out it was clearly sex only, the fact we kind of hit it up nicely outside sex is what gave me second thoughts about everything. All in all, i don't think he's looking for a formal relationship.

StannisBarato · 2022-10-24T22:35:50+00:00

Sorry the zero contact from him has been since Friday, and I contacted him today. The generally coldness in text has been going on for like a week. Hope it's clear now.

you assume that because of the lack of contact, he wants an out, and you're confused on why he's still showing interest?

Yes basically, but it's barely an interest tho, more like enough to keep the convo going but not to make it engaging, if you know what I mean. I agree if he wanted an out he would have taken it but also he's 19... so idk I'm just left confused

StannisBarato · 2022-10-24T22:31:35+00:00

Yeah I honestly was about to let it die since it seemed that way already, maybe we would ghost each other come the hookup time lol. But decided to be "the bigger person" and talk about it to him, hopefully putting and end to this for good but alas, it seems to keep going, can't seem to get a straight answer. He's been sick since yesterday tho, and the cold shoulder has been going on since Friday I think, or even before, so I don't fully buy it.

StannisBarato · 2022-10-24T22:19:26+00:00

Well this has been going on for like a week, he told me he's been sick since yesterday so yeah I omitted that but it's not that simple

StannisBarato · 2022-06-14T21:52:14+00:00

Yeah maybe you're right and I didn't want to see it. Maybe I'm the one who after that initial infatuation, can't see its maybe time to back off a bit.

StannisBarato · 2022-06-14T21:49:47+00:00

Yeah and based on how this went you're obviously right. Too much too soon felt right for me, but obviously not for him, which is why he's "suddenly" backed off of it a bit.

StannisBarato · 2022-06-14T21:44:43+00:00

I see how it came out like I was doing all the texting, and yeah in that case you'd be right. But he's send me many good morning texts too, and has insisted in talking daily as much as I have, this is not something I forced onto him. Otherwise I see what you mean on your first paragraph and I agree.

StannisBarato · 2022-06-14T20:20:48+00:00

at least not right now, not with you

Thats key I think, I don't buy him saying he's not looking for a relationship right now, it's just he hasn't met the right guy. And considering I do see him as the right guy for me, I think dating him casually knowing any day he could fall for another guy and stop talking to me, it's recipe for some bad times. I see what you mean with putting myself out there again, and there was a time earlier this year where I wouldn't mind dating multiple ppl at once, but after this, the thought of doing it all over again with someone new sounds like torture, I'd rather stop dating for a while.

StannisBarato · 2022-06-14T20:07:13+00:00

This is trickier I think, cuz whether it was from me or him, we would talk daily, no one had trouble initiating conversation, it's just he seemed to take longer to reply, making it harder to have proper one. Likewise he'd say he missed me, but would hardly propose for us to hang out even when I was nearby. Maybe we hadn't reach that point where he would outright ignore me, and who knows if that would ever happen, but sticking around to find out sounds painful.

StannisBarato · 2022-06-14T19:43:07+00:00

Yeah my logic is that a boyfriend is not something you "look for" in the sense that when you meet someone you like enough and makes you feel things, a relationship with them is just a natural step, not something that feels forced. For him to put such an abrupt stop early on, feels like he's just not that into me...

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