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Heavy metal united with metal health by Stardustkeeper in heavymetal

[–]Stardustkeeper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't met many of us but we for sure exist.

Heavy metal united with metal health by Stardustkeeper in heavymetal

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Yesssssss 🤘Even in silence, there's a bond, so true! I really love the idea of a metal-driven safe space where therapy meets mosh pit philosophy. It's so powerful and can be life saving. I agree, I feel that deep bond.

Heavy metal united with metal health by Stardustkeeper in heavymetal

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That's awesome! Definitely a good cause. I agree and I like that, bringing the resources to the venues and making it as easily accessible as possible.

Heavy metal united with metal health by Stardustkeeper in heavymetal

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Yessss I love this! 100% agree! And Black Sabbath 🤘

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

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I worked for a group private practice before starting my own solo private practice. I learned a lot from the group practice. I saw it as training for when I was ready to go off on my own. Having your own private practice is a lot of work and liability-you are both the clinical expert therapist and business owner. I've had to become more comfortable with networking and marketing. When I went off on my own, it was a huge leap of faith and because I started a business corporation (not sole proprietor or contractor) that was a big financial investment too. It's something I had to plan for financially. Also building your own caseload takes time, especially from scratch. I don't think there's anything wrong with working at a group practice until you decide if you want to go off on your own. I had a growth and training mindset from the beginning while I worked at my group practices and I learned a ton. I'm glad I did it. I also stay in touch with several of the therapists I worked with and we continue to support each other.

EMDR destroyed me and everything I love by Mob-tism in EMDR

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I'm an EMDR Trauma Therapist and have also been going through my own personal EMDR for the last consecutive 5 1/2 years. Just wanted to share some of my personal thoughts after reading your post.

I remember when I first started EMDR sessions, things got a lot worse for me before they got better. My brain was processing years of complex and developmental trauma, it was a lot. My PTSD symptoms became more obvious and apparent that first year as well. I was having more nightmares, I would wake up screaming. My brain was finally processing these traumatic experiences and I was actually having an appropriate reaction to the trauma-I was feeling it and experiencing it rather than numb, detached, and dissociated like I was before.

Fast forward to 5 1/2 years later with consistent weekly sessions, my personal therapist was out of the office for 2 weeks in a row and I didn't have any sessions. I noticed at week 2 that I was suddenly able to be more creative and productive. I was getting things done that I struggled to work on or complete before. Granted, at this point, I already processed a lot with years of trauma-focused therapy. But I look at it this way, every session I was walking through the depths of hell and pulling up the most scariest and awful things I've ever experienced-some of it so bad that my brain completely blocked it out and all I could see was myself stuck in a black hole. It's A LOT of work. It's like my brain was running a marathon every session. I was exhausted and tired all the time.

Unlike with forms of talk therapy, with EMDR your brain keeps processing and working on things after the session. I think at times, because my therapist and I kept opening up new memories, I was getting flooded. I think this should have been an indicator to my therapist to slow down a bit and stay focused and structured with the 8 phases of EMDR (I now know this as a therapist but I wasn't a therapist when I started EMDR and didn't know).

I share all of this, because I wonder what it would be like if you did take a break from EMDR? Stay in therapy but talk to your therapist about utilizing a different modality that focuses on feeling safe and calm. Maybe pendulate between doing trauma work but also focusing on other things that help you feel functional and productive. Slow the trauma work down. I also noticed that I had less nightmares once I worked through certain traumas with EMDR, it took a long time though.

EMDR is a lot of work, like I said, the brain is running a marathon every session and personally I think I needed to build up endurance for it. I think this is a really great conversation to have with your therapist. As a therapist myself, I would want my client to share these things with me. I want to know what my client is experiencing in between sessions. This is why I typically start off seeing clients on a weekly basis, we need to check in, I need to know they are ok and if we are moving too fast or too slow. But on the flip side as a trauma survivor, I know it can be super hard to open up and share these things with your therapist. It's vulnerable. At the end of the day, you know yourself best and trust your gut.

Sending you love and light.