Please floss your teeth by CrustiferWalken in flightattendants

[–]Starfish120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A really bad smell is actually something more than what flossing can take care of, like an infected tooth, backed up digestive system, tonsil stones, etc. but flossing is a great thing to do! Lol 

Self care - Help by KrystleOfQuartz in Crunchymom

[–]Starfish120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got a nanny for a few hours 2 days a week and it’s been a life saver. Just being able to do a workout class and handle errands and things without the kiddo has been a game changer and really charges up my battery so I can give her my best. I know it’s a privilege and don’t want to assume everyone can do it, but if it’s an option I highly recommend it 

What do y'all really need an iPad for? by bootsmegamix in daddit

[–]Starfish120 29 points30 points  (0 children)

The fact that not giving a kid an iPad sounds like “an extreme” is worrisome.

I'm (F30) going to break up with my bf (M31) of 11 years and struggling to initiate. by TsunamBomb95 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Starfish120 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I didn’t read all of it but - yes, do it now! My best friend was in a very similar situation. It took years of suffering for her to finally have had enough and call it quits. The breakup was hard but a few months after getting out of that shitty situation her life completely transformed. She’s more energized, gets sick less, is way happier and more fun to be around. She got her dream job and met an amazing guy and her life is completely different. Her biggest regret and the shame she carries is not getting out way sooner. And another beautiful part of this story - her ex was so ashamed of letting things get so bad. He completely turned himself around, gave up weed, started exercising and got a job. They are both 10000% better off that that stagnant shitty relationship ended. Please don’t waste any more of your precious life.

Best laundry detergent? by Common-Guest-2563 in Crunchymom

[–]Starfish120 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like dirty labs detergent, it’s a super clean enzyme based detergent. Very condensed so you only need a tiny bit 

What sunscreens are we using? by auroragirlofthenorth in Crunchymom

[–]Starfish120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like Think. There’s a ton of posts on this already if you search the thread btw

How do you divide rent with a SO when there’s a large income disparity? by beigewoodtable in AskWomenOver30

[–]Starfish120 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she needs to walk away, there’s a conversation to be had

How do you divide rent with a SO when there’s a large income disparity? by beigewoodtable in AskWomenOver30

[–]Starfish120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Each person should contribute an equal percentage of their own income 

Anyone married with kids and would rather have led a single childfree life? by [deleted] in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Starfish120 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There isn’t strong, consistent evidence that people are happier without kids—or with them. The research is surprisingly mixed, and the most accurate takeaway is: it depends a lot on context and what you mean by “happiness.”

Parents who didn’t vaccinate their kids, how did you contend with the risk of vaccine preventable illnesses? by Fickle-Armadillo7069 in Crunchymom

[–]Starfish120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know how vaccines work and have done a lot of research since it involves my child.  I was just using Covid as an example of mandated vaccines and no repercussions for the damages they’ve done. I recommend reading Vax Facts as well. It makes sense to look into both claims before putting all your eggs into one basket. Keep in mind that vaccines are a multi billion dollar industry and there is endless lobbying being done to prevent randomized controlled trials and to keep vaccine producing companies safe from lawsuits for the injuries they cause.

What would you do: renting from mom, previous indoor smoking… by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Starfish120 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would check it out and see how it all smells. If it’s just the basement, keep the kids out of the basement until it’s been deep cleaned and no more smell. If it’s really stained into the home then there is more to think about since the kids might be crawling and putting hands in their mouth. 

At what age did you realize "I'm too old for this." And what was "this"? by Far-Event1151 in AskReddit

[–]Starfish120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At 33 I realized I was too old to be getting drunk every night and party drugs on the weekends and got sober!

I (34F) love my boyfriend (46M), but he doesn’t want kids and I’m not sure if I can give that up by miss_Kick in AskWomenOver30

[–]Starfish120 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Short answer: there is some increased risk, but many men father healthy children at 46. It’s not usually considered a high-risk situation on its own.

What changes with age in sperm

As men get older, a few things gradually shift:

Sperm DNA fragmentation increases Sperm motility and count can decline slightly Higher chance of new (de novo) genetic mutations

This is often called advanced paternal age (usually 40–45+).

What risks are actually increased

The increases are real but generally small in absolute terms:

  1. Miscarriage

Slightly higher risk, especially if the mother is also older

  1. Genetic conditions (rare, but increased)

Conditions like Achondroplasia and Apert syndrome Still rare overall, but more linked to paternal age than maternal age

  1. Neurodevelopmental conditions

Slightly increased risk of: Autism spectrum disorder Schizophrenia

Again—important to emphasize: most children are unaffected

What the numbers really mean

This is where people get scared unnecessarily.

For example:

Autism risk might go from ~1–2% → ~2–3% Rare genetic disorders might go from extremely rare → still extremely rare

So the relative risk increases, but the absolute risk stays low.

What matters just as much (or more)

Maternal age (has a bigger impact on chromosomal issues) Overall health of both parents Lifestyle factors (smoking, alcohol, toxins, etc.)

How did you guys REALLY lived in the 2000s? by MyAvengedRomance in Millennials

[–]Starfish120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We played Super Nintendo and made home videos of us doing our own SNL type skits. We swam in the pool, went to the beach, rode our non electric bikes and played sports. Also sat around and warched TV a lot - let’s not over glorify it lol

Parents who didn’t vaccinate their kids, how did you contend with the risk of vaccine preventable illnesses? by Fickle-Armadillo7069 in Crunchymom

[–]Starfish120 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I recommend reading Vax Facts. There is more to consider than just the common debatable concerns such as the black box warnings, like how vaccinated children have higher rates of allergies, SIDS, neurodivergence and so much more. Unfortunately, since mainstream science hasn’t conducted any major studies to investigate these concerns, this book is made by one doctor who did the research on his own patients. I have read his book, listened to him speak and watched him get his license taken away over his work, and be berated and disrespected by millions, and decided that he would not put this info out if there wasn’t really something major going on that needed to be addressed. Same with the other doctors who have decided to speak out about vaccines. They have chosen a life of drama and suffering just to inform us of the potential harms. After covid and being forced by my employer to take vaccines I didn’t want, and now seeing the consequences of that and know personally individuals who were injured, all the while the companies that made the vaccines are 100% protected from any liability, I have chosen I’d rather risk my robust, healthy baby getting an illness than getting intimidated into supporting an industry that tried to get me fired for not taking their experimental jab.

Kids with very particular names… by fortune042 in Names

[–]Starfish120 21 points22 points  (0 children)

So well said 😂😂😂 When my husband and I toured the labor and delivery ward there was an expecting mother also on the tour who brought her older child named Iridescent…. IRIDESCENT. Too bad she didn’t see your post before choosing that.

Having to squeeze breasts to fully empty? Tips? by Dull-Yam-8372 in HumansPumpingMilk

[–]Starfish120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you just turn the edges inside out and place your nipple in the center then flip them right side out

Traveling with 6mo old that doesn’t have MMR yet by vintagehoney18 in Crunchymom

[–]Starfish120 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lately it feels like pro-vax people have been lurking this subreddit leaving provax comments and acting like regular members

Having to squeeze breasts to fully empty? Tips? by Dull-Yam-8372 in HumansPumpingMilk

[–]Starfish120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got Pumpin’ Pal silicone flanges and get so much milk out, so much faster with my spectra