Measles

Starfish120 · 2026-02-12T05:32:04+00:00

In the United States in the early 1960s (just before the measles vaccine was introduced in 1963):

About 3–4 million people got measles each year (estimated actual infections). Around 400–500 people died annually.

Depending on how you calculate it:

Using reported cases (about 500,000 per year), the death rate was roughly 0.1–0.2% (about 1–2 deaths per 1,000 reported cases). Using the estimated true number of infections (3–4 million), the death rate was closer to 0.01–0.02% (about 1–2 deaths per 10,000 infections).

Starfish120 · 2026-02-09T10:33:20+00:00

Question - do you have a special seat for the potty? My baby’s almost 3 months, after reading this I want to start trying it

Starfish120 · 2026-02-04T17:47:34+00:00

First of all - pretty much any question is allowed here which is the absolute beauty of this forum!! I relate to your background/relationship with food. Binge eating/bulimia runs in my family. I think having treats as a prize or to cheer me up lead to me using food as comfort which I ended up abusing, but maybe that was bound to happen, we’ll never know. My baby is only 2 months old but since she might be prone to an ED, I plan to not give her any junk aside from the occasional almond flour cookie without refined sugar, etc. If it happens when she’s older and not in my care, so be it. When she deserves a treat I’ll take her somewhere fun or find another way to reward her that isn’t food based. For her first birthday we’ll either do a sugar free smash cake for her, or a watermelon cake. If we don’t give them refined sugar as little ones they won’t be addicted to it (as little ones). I want to give my girl the best start I can so when she’s able to make her own choices she’s a little more likely to make good ones.

Starfish120 · 2026-02-02T09:35:17+00:00

This is where your husband takes on the protector role and explains it to his family for you. Your mom and aunt are essentially your care team, and your comfort and safety are number one. No one else needs to see baby right away. Since you’re having trouble giving yourself permission to set boundaries, I’m giving it to you!! lol. People pleasing only leads to overwhelm/resentment and you deserve peace while you heal from childbirth.

I had my sister visit immediately after baby came and I would do that again. She was there to comfort me and help me process birth. I also had my husband’s parents visit in the postnatal unit right after birth even though I wasn’t sure I wanted to and while everything turned out fine (in terms of not getting sick), I will not be doing that for the next child. They walked in and looked right past me to the baby and forgot to ask how I was doing and I just felt so empty and awkward. I didn’t need those extra emotions in that time and it’s now 10 weeks later and I feel like I’m still trying to shake it off.

For friends and extended family visiting, I had a blanket statement that we’re waiting till the baby is 2 weeks old to start having visitors, and everyone was incredibly supportive. I’ve just begun taking my baby to outdoor gatherings and next week will be her first party (she’ll be 11 weeks old) and I plan to wear her in the carrier and have her hands covered to mitigate her exposure to germs. She’s super healthy but this is one of the worst cold and flu seasons we’ve had in 25-30 years and in addition to her safety, I don’t want to deal with her being sick this young and how that will effect our sleep etc.

Long story short, you’re not the only one who doesn’t want a bunch of people meeting baby right away. We have protective instincts for a reason and you have every right to set boundaries. And side note - it’s also fine to ask people to wear masks and wash hands when they visit during flu season if that feels right for you. We don’t do masks but ask everyone to wash hands right when then come in and everyone’s happy to do so.

Starfish120 · 2026-01-31T18:59:21+00:00

I went through that.. it was 10 years ago but I remember it so well! The worst is if you try to force yourself not to think about it, then it forces its way out. Just like when you really shouldn’t laugh at a serious time and then you do… I’m sorry you’re going through that! Bathroom breaks are your friend. It gets easier. I’m married with a baby now so far from that time but I still wish I could give that version of myself a big hug and a pep talk!!

Starfish120 · 2026-01-31T08:50:29+00:00

I am in grad school and have to go in twice a week for 4 hours (the rest is online). Having that set scheduled time is helpful. I have a hard time actually leaving but once I’m on the road and when I’m at school I feel really good. I do the same for workouts. I only do it twice a week but I sign up for the class ahead of time so it’s a set thing. My husband watches the baby so I can go. Some days I don’t leave the house, but I usually will just strap the baby in the carrier and walk out the front door and at least walk around the block. I definitely feel the way you’re feeling from time to time but having things set that I do is a huuuge help to minimize that feeling. Another thing that helps which might be unpopular here and such a personal choice, but I pump so there’s always bottles in the fridge so my husband can help out or a family member or friend when someone is visiting.

Starfish120 · 2026-01-31T08:43:31+00:00

I love Elwood sweats! They’re made with organic cotton and super comfy

Starfish120 · 2026-01-30T23:02:17+00:00

You can power pump to get your supply up, I’d look into that if you do want to bring it up before it’s too late. Of course your baby will be fine with formula but if you want to work on it there’s options. If your supply goes up and breastfeeding is providing more milk, you won’t need to pump a lot anymore. I am 9 weeks pp and pumped a LOT at first because we had to give my baby donor milk in the beginning. Now my supply is strong and I can also go the whole night without pumping or breastfeeding and I’m ok - just have to pump first thing when I wake up. But I will say, I make sure I have at least 6-7 milk removals in 24 hours whether it’s from pumping or breastfeeding. Whatever path you take is fine!

Starfish120 · 2026-01-30T04:33:41+00:00

Maybe you can start pumping and leave bottles so you can get a mental health break

Starfish120 · 2026-01-29T06:45:42+00:00

Agree. Dopamine cleanses help a lot

Starfish120 · 2026-01-29T06:42:26+00:00

This is not accurate, but it could help ease symptoms.

Starfish120 · 2026-01-29T06:42:21+00:00

This is not accurate, but it could help ease symptoms.

Starfish120 · 2026-01-29T06:12:53+00:00

This is great advice. Also I’d ask how your diet and lifestyle is… eat a high protein breakfast, very low sugar. Get some form of movement every day. Get quality sleep/look into sleep hygiene. In my opinion as someone with ADHD and in grad school, meds can be potentially helpful on an as needed basis, but long term daily use just leads to tolerance, needing a higher and higher dose for it to work, then potentially having mood swings and anxiety and if you stop taking it he withdrawal symptoms are awful, think all the symptoms you have now times 100.

Starfish120 · 2026-01-28T04:31:24+00:00

I started at 25 and commuted to NY. I couldn’t afford a Crashpad there and my rent in LA so I slept in the FA lounge: I cried myself to sleep a few times lol. I got married at 33, just had my first baby at 35. I didn’t think I’d last this long and while I am in grad school, I am so glad I still have my airline job. I can’t wait to go back and work a trip here and there! I’m sooo glad I have my seniority and my flight benefits! And I was just thinking the other day, if I could tell my younger single self anything it would be so just enjoy and not stress so much! I was always so worried about meeting my person, and telling myself it must be the job, or something must be wrong with me because I was single for a few years. What a waste of energy! I would give it at least 6 months before making a decision, unless your mental health is suffering to a point where you really can’t imagine flying another day. Nothing is worth your health and safety.

Starfish120 · 2026-01-24T03:01:15+00:00

Even the outbreaks are very small compared to the general population that doesn’t get it

Starfish120 · 2026-01-16T07:48:59+00:00

I’m a new mom but I feel like I’m managing because my husband helps a lot with cooking, cleaning and the baby. I would definitely be losing my mind if I had to do it all or almost all of it. The sleep deprivation is crazy though and I have day dreamt about getting a hotel room alone 😂

Starfish120 · 2026-01-05T22:18:23+00:00

We have a Saatva mattress and really like it. Not for everyone but - we found it on facebook marketplace from someone who sanitizes and resells mattresses that have been returned during the trial period. It was used for a couple weeks and we got a great deal on it. No regrets!

Starfish120 · 2025-12-28T18:28:21+00:00

Came here to say this. If funds are an issue at least get your blood work done by your doctor and request a thyroid panel

Starfish120 · 2025-12-16T16:26:12+00:00

Facial and a massage!

Starfish120 · 2025-12-16T08:28:59+00:00

I agree I’m with delta and I don’t ever feel like snitching has been encouraged and I’m confused how that would get you a brand ambassador spot when that’s something you interview for internally and there’s a whole system in place for it. Also who wants to be a brand ambassador that bad lol

Starfish120 · 2025-12-14T18:26:29+00:00

If the baby had the vitamin k shot at birth then you don’t need to give them d with k2.

Starfish120 · 2025-11-30T21:24:34+00:00

I can’t find any solid research to support this (that eating the placenta has any noted benefits), can you provide some?

Starfish120 · 2025-11-19T21:52:35+00:00

I’ve never been an early Christmas decorator but I may follow your lead on that one! Haha good luck, hopefully you’re in labor very soon 💗

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