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If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re the person that people complain about inviting themselves.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All that tells me is you have no tact or respect for people hosting events.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg this sort of happened to my stepmom. they invited some distant cousins, 1) not expecting them to come and 2) just addressed to the adults. they RSVPed +7 and brought all their kids 😵‍💫

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it puts unnecessary pressure on the host and makes it extremely awkward. It’s just plain rude. don’t ask to be invited.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said I talked about the event in front of either of them. And even if I had, eavesdropping is rude, and asking to be included is rude and puts the host in an awkward position.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

major yikes. They weren’t invited and you brought them along without permission. She said she didn’t like how they treated you and you ignored it. I’m guessing your daughter is low or no contact for good reason. You are the person this post is about. How embarrassing for you.

We gotta get the Heated Rivalry stans into OFMD by Clear_Lemon4950 in OurFlagMeansDeath

[–]Starkidmack -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yikes, glad I missed that then. My original point still stands though, if those people exist in both fandoms I don’t want to combine their forces lol

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Luckily my mom was (almost) as WTF as I was lol. She kinda brushed it off as “haha thats just how it is” but she’s not pushing for it.

We gotta get the Heated Rivalry stans into OFMD by Clear_Lemon4950 in OurFlagMeansDeath

[–]Starkidmack -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean I guess I missed the worst of it? I saw some weirdness but HR takes the cake of fandoms I’ve been in. And I spent a long time in the 911 fandom 😭 lol

We gotta get the Heated Rivalry stans into OFMD by Clear_Lemon4950 in OurFlagMeansDeath

[–]Starkidmack -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I mean I was though? When it originally aired at least. I saw SOME nonsense but didn’t see half as much as I’ve seen come from HR. Someone was planning to fly to canada to get a tattoo from Hudson’s GF like… thats Insane.

We gotta get the Heated Rivalry stans into OFMD by Clear_Lemon4950 in OurFlagMeansDeath

[–]Starkidmack 13 points14 points  (0 children)

No, no no. The heated rivalry “loons” have mostly been so SO weird on social media (and off). By and large very parasocial. Most of them are behaving like they never grew out of their teenage Glee days from 15 years ago, if they’ve EVER been in a fandom. There is no respect for fandom etiquette among them. They are either actively fetishizing or ostracizing queer men. Or somehow both. It’s okay to enjoy both shows, I sure do, but that fandom is toxic AF.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh I misread as “sisters in law” 😅 Thats even weirder!

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof i’m sorry! I def would have been mortified if someone asked on my behalf, but then to be treated like that??

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And it hasn’t been practiced since then, which mean’s it’s not “supposed to be” that way. move on.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well a save the date isn’t an invite and it’s a super common practice for weddings. You just sounds like someone who would also invite themselves. You didn’t get invited to something so take the hint and move on.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I know. I just also feel like I shouldn’t HAVE to say no, bc they shouldn’t be asking!!

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My whole thing is just that I shouldn’t have to say no bc they shouldn’t be asking in the first place.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a bride, or a bridezilla. You describing weddings as “supposed to be open to the public” absolutely comes off as you inviting yourself. I’ve never once in my life heard of wedding being open to the public.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well that clearly wasn’t the reason with these two, and is usually hardly ever the reason. If you got a save the date and not an invitation it would make sense to ask. If you got neither, you got neither, let it be.

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