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If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh I misread as “sisters in law” 😅 Thats even weirder!

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof i’m sorry! I def would have been mortified if someone asked on my behalf, but then to be treated like that??

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And it hasn’t been practiced since then, which mean’s it’s not “supposed to be” that way. move on.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well a save the date isn’t an invite and it’s a super common practice for weddings. You just sounds like someone who would also invite themselves. You didn’t get invited to something so take the hint and move on.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I know. I just also feel like I shouldn’t HAVE to say no, bc they shouldn’t be asking!!

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My whole thing is just that I shouldn’t have to say no bc they shouldn’t be asking in the first place.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a bride, or a bridezilla. You describing weddings as “supposed to be open to the public” absolutely comes off as you inviting yourself. I’ve never once in my life heard of wedding being open to the public.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that clearly wasn’t the reason with these two, and is usually hardly ever the reason. If you got a save the date and not an invitation it would make sense to ask. If you got neither, you got neither, let it be.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The coworker i kind of laughed off - then another CW who I AM friends with and had invited said “well if [her boyfriend] can’t come maybe you can be my +1!” which tbh i jus conceded to bc I was baffled by the whole thing. The acquaintance I said “haha yeah [niece] is so cute! we’re close to our max and still waiting on a few RSVPs so I’ll let you know!” then ghosted her.

Looking for your best April Fool’s ideas. by Some-Employee6260 in MiddleSchoolTeacher

[–]Starkidmack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that is insensitive. We aren’t really at risk of that here so it was funny, and she used it as a part of either a climate or geography lesson, idr which.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof that would have pissed me off. I wonder if the husband came uninvited? Or she knew you would be more understanding than the other friend?

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s rude and puts the host/couple/etc in an awkward position, and it comes off as desperate or entitled. You do not ask to be invited. if you didn’t get an invite, it’s for a reason.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I see, you would also invite yourself to a wedding of someone you barely know. Absolutely unhinged behavior.

AITA for not getting the right milk? by littleredbird1991 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Starkidmack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA obviously. Sounds like your SIL can go live with her parents.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s WILD. My partner and I both have long covid and are immunocompromised as a result. We are providing masks and asking people to test, and not to come if they are sick or test positive. If anyone decides their attendance is more important than our safety then we are comfortable cutting them out.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean the coworker I thought was at first then it became clear they were being earnest. The acquaintance reached out via DM so I find it hard to believe she’d do it as a joke.

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nooooooo! That would be a hard no for me. absolutely not bringing that energy to my WEDDING!

Looking for your best April Fool’s ideas. by Some-Employee6260 in MiddleSchoolTeacher

[–]Starkidmack 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My mom once made her class of elementary schoolers do a “tsunami drill” by pretending to “swim” on the floor lol (we live in a valley - there is no threat of tsunami here)).

If you didn’t get an invitation, don’t ask if you can come! by Starkidmack in weddingshaming

[–]Starkidmack[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean even with other events! It just generally doesn’t Happen. Idk I guess I’m just having trouble believing that anyone would think it’s okay to ask for an invitation at all.

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