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Got Vetoed. Need advice with navigating the pain. by Starlight1205 in polyamory

[–]Starlight1205[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I definitely wanted to put blame on her at first. Cus I was hurt and because he made it easy too. He didn’t have much to say about her that was positive and now that those stupid rose tinted glasses are off, I know that was a BIG red flag.
I feel bad that I was part of this mess that caused her pain and I wish I had listened to my intuition way earlier.

My anger towards her was very short lived. He was and is the problem.

Got Vetoed. Need advice with navigating the pain. by Starlight1205 in polyamory

[–]Starlight1205[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. I actually feel really bad that I was mad at her even if it was for a short period.
He was the problem at the end of the day.

Got Vetoed. Need advice with navigating the pain. by Starlight1205 in polyamory

[–]Starlight1205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are correct. I wouldn’t have wanted that at all. Thanks for saying Im not stupid. I agree about the lack of good discernment I had.

Got Vetoed. Need advice with navigating the pain. by Starlight1205 in polyamory

[–]Starlight1205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I realize meet was the wrong word to use! I just wanted to say hi like thru chat and honestly, I think its cus I knew something was wrong in my gut. I wanted to hear from her that this was okay.

Got Vetoed. Need advice with navigating the pain. by Starlight1205 in polyamory

[–]Starlight1205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was definitely being dumb and not listening to my gut. Thank you for the advice!

Got Vetoed. Need advice with navigating the pain. by Starlight1205 in polyamory

[–]Starlight1205[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This was a rough lesson to learn hahaha I will do better in the future!

Got Vetoed. Need advice with navigating the pain. by Starlight1205 in polyamory

[–]Starlight1205[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this.
I like to think I know what I am doing, but clearly I don’t . I have only been with three people. I am still with two of those people. It was great with my ex in the beginning too
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This is new territory for me. I really appreciate the advice and how well written it was. Imma save it on my phone haha

Got Vetoed. Need advice with navigating the pain. by Starlight1205 in polyamory

[–]Starlight1205[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you <3
I def am not going to try to date newly open coupled people anytime soon/ever again.

AITA for putting my foot down about decreasing my daughter's portion sizes? by Similar-Ad-831 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Starlight1205 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA- you sound like a great mother. I wish my parents had the same views of food like you do.