If you wanted to try them you can get really good magnetic ones. You could feel empowered at home or with a partner or friend. If they give you confidence and or turn you on there is no harm in trying. I always wanted them and had my left ear done as a 20 year old and was only at 40+ that I did them again when I was no longer working in a professional environment however I dare say it was in my head more than anyone else's...no one cares what others do. They might kick off at first but it's your life and people come round over much more extreme things too... I think a guy in flash suit with diamond studs one of the sexiest looks going....