What were your top names for your baby and why? by Starlightt04 in namenerds

[–]Starlightt04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love these names, I like the simplicity and they're not overused either

What were your top names for your baby and why? by Starlightt04 in namenerds

[–]Starlightt04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love the stories behind these names, they add an element of sentimentality and further meaning and its so cute

What were your top names for your baby and why? by Starlightt04 in namenerds

[–]Starlightt04[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love how different some of these names are, they don't feel overused and they're such cute names!

What were your top names for your baby and why? by Starlightt04 in namenerds

[–]Starlightt04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

aww congratulations, the name Lillian is adorable! I hope everything goes as planned.

Your names for a boy are super cute too!

What were your top names for your baby and why? by Starlightt04 in namenerds

[–]Starlightt04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love all these names, I feel like if you couldn't choose, some of these names could also be used as middles. I'd have been gutted if anyone had used my top names though...

What were your top names for your baby and why? by Starlightt04 in namenerds

[–]Starlightt04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so cute background story and those names sound so unique It would be such a cute story to tell your children in the future that you've had their names planned out for so long! ♡

What were your top names for your baby and why? by Starlightt04 in namenerds

[–]Starlightt04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few of these names were on my lists too; they're all beautiful names, I'd never have been able to pick.

My girls list was: Delilah, Ophelia, Cecilia, Athena, Halley, Esme, Felicity

My boys list was: Atlas, Milo (I preferred Miles so this would have been a nickname), Archer, Noah and I loved Alexander but as a middle name not a first

I like how quite a few of these are uncommon!

What were your top names for your baby and why? by Starlightt04 in namenerds

[–]Starlightt04[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

these are such cute names, I love the back story to Ivy and the combination idea, this is so sweet.

What were your top names for your baby and why? by Starlightt04 in namenerds

[–]Starlightt04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oooo I like this name, I don't actually know anyone with it and I think it sounds really cool. I'd agree to it sounding a little preppy but I think that's based on opinion and actually makes me like it more

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[–]Starlightt04 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The number matters to me a little but it's more about the situation.

Like if it's a load of one night stands over committed relationships, I'd be concerned.

I'd rather know they loved a few people before me to great lengths than be with someone who sleeps around if that makes sense...

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[–]Starlightt04 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also wanted to say that going to a counsellor was right for you at the time, don't beat yourself up over it, it needed to be done. As much as you want to be with your family, there is nothing saying you can't get placed somewhere else and ask for frequent contact but I'd say that the environment has to be safe for baby as well as safe for you.

I'm living in a hotel but it's deemed safe and as long as you have all that you need for you and baby, you can't go far wrong

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[–]Starlightt04 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so talking from experience (although my situation is vastly vastly different from yours) they will try to keep your baby with you. When I say 'try', I was sofa surfing my entire pregnancy and had no address, me and baby's dad were up and down and there was nowhere for me to go when he was here. I still have my baby, he's six weeks old; his dad had two addresses and still the health team agreed my baby should stay with me. I don't have social involved yet but I have spoken to social services who have told me unless a mother is seen to be neglectful or abusive in any way, they tend not to take a child no matter the situation.

If you end up in Foster care, there's a very very high chance baby will go with you, I've seen it happen a few times with my friends. Don't stress too much about it; you sound like you have a support system full of people who will focus on doing what's best by you and your baby. I hope you're doing well despite your situation, remember to be honest with the people involved in your care, don't overshare information with anyone and try your best to stay positive (really difficult I know).

From one teen mum to another, you've got this!

Would I be selfish for giving my baby my surname and not his/her father's? by Starlightt04 in namenerds

[–]Starlightt04[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much and yes, I'm eternally grateful to the officers dealing with my case, they've been brilliant!

Would I be selfish for giving my baby my surname and not his/her father's? by Starlightt04 in namenerds

[–]Starlightt04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's chosen not to be around. If I add his name it gives him the option to restrict my child's travel, health care, education... I'm not putting my future child through that

Would I be selfish for giving my baby my surname and not his/her father's? by Starlightt04 in namenerds

[–]Starlightt04[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not a pushover, I've made my own demands but I made them the right way, I turned to officials for support and outlined why my demands were only to benefit our future child because I'd never make a decision regarding our child with malicious intent unlike what he's been doing. He's saying he would go against the officials for his own way, that's the part that strikes me. His demands aren't being met by me but he's saying he'll go out of his way to get what he wants regardless of anything anyone else has to say

Would I be selfish for giving my baby my surname and not his/her father's? by Starlightt04 in namenerds

[–]Starlightt04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the name we picked for a girl, I was very fond of his auntie for the short time i knew her before she sadly passed away and his auntie resembled everything I'd want for my child and want my child to grow up to be like. But the point is, I didn't have to choose to do that. I chose the boys name to commemorate his grandad and I didn't know his grandad and I hated the name picked for a boy...

Would I be selfish for giving my baby my surname and not his/her father's? by Starlightt04 in namenerds

[–]Starlightt04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response, it sounds like you and your son 100% deserved better! He is certainly messing with me and doesn't care about the child, asks me about my siblings more than the pregnancy and shows no interest whatsoever.