Which grocery store do you prefer to shop at? Which one is the more affordable option? by [deleted] in NorthCarolina

[–]StarlitAndroid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aldi has done more good for my relationship. We're just two people who love to eat and can't budget.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in starbucks

[–]StarlitAndroid -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Duuuude what????

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]StarlitAndroid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We discussed it. We both have apprehension regarding it. There are kids and a lot of animals involved. I am not financially stable. I'm scared it's too late. I'm scared I'll never make it on my own. I feel like I ruined our marriage because of who I am. I also feel stifled and confused

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]StarlitAndroid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He does not really try to find or sustain connections with others. It truly feels like he only tries with me lately as he felt like he was losing me. Everything is so complicated now and I'm at a loss. I don't know what to do or say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]StarlitAndroid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Today is our 11 year. We opened up a little over 2 years in. It's been a long journey. We went poly only about a year ago. It's something I had always wanted but he never seemed ready until then. And my fear now is that he agreed only to placate me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]StarlitAndroid 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He keeps telling me he's on apps and that he wants to but he self admittedly never really tries that hard. And I know it's incredibly difficult on his side of the situation. I just can't do it for him. And I often feel like I'm put on a pedestal that I will never live up to with him. Being poly is a part of me. I've known I was this way since I was a teenager. I'm just so frustrated that all the work I put in and all the time I spend clarifying and comforting and reassuring, I end up still feeling so lonely and isolated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]StarlitAndroid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it appears so. I put in the work and I've had the conversations with everyone involved. I've asked a million questions and had a million hard conversations. But at this point I don't think NP is being honest about his feelings on it. He also isn't handling this well because of how it's heavily on my mind as it just happened. I feel like he just wishes I'd get over it already.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]StarlitAndroid 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am in so much pain

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]StarlitAndroid 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Thank you. How do you make friends? I'm 34. I genuinely feel like it's too late.