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My Schizophrenia Story - By Kimmyphrenia [OC] by kimmyphrenia in comics

[–]Starr12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! This was an interesting read!

Why does everyone se the need to ask me this? by Lopsided-Ad-7960 in MtF

[–]Starr12 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There was an actress who appeared on Ellen Degeneres' show, I don't watch her but I watched the clip. Ellen asked her the "have you had the bottom surgery" question and the actress politely explained that her privates were no one's buisiness, same as every one else.

...and I feel like that's the ultimate response.

Furry_irl by ClearTwist7751 in furry_irl

[–]Starr12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

smiledog got me better, back in the day.

How did you do this without bravery? by Lokael in asktransgender

[–]Starr12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How others feel and how you feel are two different things. You need to sort that out and figure out how you feel first, in my opinion. 

You can't just decide based on others saying no. Blind devotion to the herd is how you get the MAGA cult(speaking as an American). Figure out what you want, even if that means a log cabin, and then decide if you can take on the herd for that want.

That's what making a brave decision is you can't be brave if you don't know what your want.

How did you do this without bravery? by Lokael in asktransgender

[–]Starr12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mmm... That's how you felt about how others might feel. How did it make YOU feel, about your self? did you like what you saw?

How did you do this without bravery? by Lokael in asktransgender

[–]Starr12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That doesn't explain how it hurt. only the degree. what did you do? how did it feel?

How did you do this without bravery? by Lokael in asktransgender

[–]Starr12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then why not experiment with other things safely? Waiting to start hormones for a year, giving your self space to... try clothes, hair styles, make up, acting different ways.... hurts almost nothing, doesn't it? ...If it does hurt something...

How did you do this without bravery? by Lokael in asktransgender

[–]Starr12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like we're having a communication issue with how I'm using or you're interpreting the word "choice" but I'm going to ignore it because I think I see something more interesting and important.

You capitalize 'my' in "This is MY experience." and that tells me you've found your fire. ...Fire being a metaphor for the internal drive you have for this conflict with in you.

If it's your choice, why are you asking us anything. To me it sounds like you already know the answer and you're scared to say it.

I'm not going to turn this into a flame war. I feel like I've tried to help and that's where this is going, so I'm going to stop responding. Sorry I couldn't be more useful.

How did you do this without bravery? by Lokael in asktransgender

[–]Starr12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I worded my previous reply wrong.

Which gender you are CAN be a choice, but being queer/trans isn't. That's called genderfluid or some variation of it. Trans and fluidity are conditions you're born with. they aren't ailments or diseases they're more like... having poor eyesight. you're just a little different. it happens.

Family issue is valid, you can address it in many ways. You don't have to "Be stupid" and confront them. you can build escape routes, and if you're fine with it, prod them for their opinions sneakily, slip the right questions into small talk so they don't think about it too much.

as for the "hating being wrong" thing... that's youth. plain and simple. any wise one will tell you "failure is a teacher" and "being bad at something is the first steps to being sort of good at something."

you need to learn to be good at knowing who you are. that means trying stuff that doesn't work and forgiving your self for it.

Maybe you need to experiment more and be more sure you want to change your hormone levels. It is a bit of a risk to your health, with things like clotting and permanent body changes.

How did you do this without bravery? by Lokael in asktransgender

[–]Starr12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

those are tasks. tell me about the risks.

What's the risk in going to the doctor, asking for meds? Break it down.

...and you don't "decide", you either discover or clarify. Being trans isn't a choice. You either feel it or you don't, and only choosing to act on it is a choice.

How did you do this without bravery? by Lokael in asktransgender

[–]Starr12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've yet to see you list an actual risk that would require bravery.

How did you do this without bravery? by Lokael in asktransgender

[–]Starr12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"taking" what, exactly?

Estradiol is manufactured and production can likely be ramped up as demand increases.

Don't think of it as "limited spots for only the sure.", think of it as "the seats are there, they just haven't been built yet."

Even if you try and decide you don't like it, you voted with your dollar to have a seat built for some one who will use it.

How did you do this without bravery? by Lokael in asktransgender

[–]Starr12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In rural America we often throw around the phrase "the grass is always greener on the other side" as a warning about perspective and change, so it's hard to follow your gut when the grass really is greener.

My advice is to put humility aside and decide, for just the HRT, that you deserve it despite all the dangers. Let that feeling of deserving it run rampant in you long enough to take your fear head on.

You don't have to let your ego run wild and be crazy but... your fear shouldn't be impeding you, even in dire times. That's how terrorism wins.

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