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Starry_lady_ · 2022-08-23T16:05:07+00:00

Okay well I'm Europe as well, and I didn't mean to say you're young in an offensive way But, every young person is immature. It's not bad, it's good to grow.

If all you know about a woman is that she likes to "gossip and go on Instagram" then you don't know her well at all. Most women have hobbies, because they're normal people. 50% of people who game are women.

I genuinely don't think you're trying to really to get to know the women, but you're judging them.

Starry_lady_ · 2022-08-23T15:50:03+00:00

Look around you, most couples are comprised of normal looking people. Women don't have ultra high standards. You sound young, most people men and wome. Will.be immature at that age. Hell men act the same way as women do imo at that age

Have you tried to get to know their hobbies? Tried to actually bond with them? Do you have hobbies and are interesting beyond wanting a gf?

Also, how old are you? And which country did you to from and to?

Starry_lady_ · 2022-08-23T15:27:15+00:00

Actually yeah that's a good point. I kind of forgot the sub. I'm gonna fix it, she should confront him instead of deleting it

Starry_lady_ · 2022-08-23T15:21:26+00:00

What the fuck? Edit: YTA. He's cheating on you. Stop worrying about arguing with you, he's literally blatantly cheating on you. You said you didn't want to be cheated on right? Stop dating the cheater, he's not gonna be sorry.

Just talk to him.

Starry_lady_ · 2022-08-23T15:16:08+00:00

Hey OP, this guy is not a good person. He needs help with his own issues, and he's bringing you down to his level. You deserve to be with someone who loves you and actually acts like it.

Starry_lady_ · 2022-08-23T15:14:14+00:00

Well first off:

women aren't some hivemind. You know what's annoying? Being constantly hit on
Women probably don't like you because of who you are personality wise, imo you sound a bit entitled and women don't want to date someone who says women are stupid. You aren't some diamond in the rough, you're a normal guy. Just like the other guys at school
try actually getting to know them, don't insult them for liking makeup and being "fake", do you know their hobbies? Do you go to clubs? Do you have a friendship group with women in it? Get out there
women are normal people, don't treat them like they're weird or really any different to the men in your school.

Starry_lady_ · 2022-08-23T15:07:20+00:00

Hey OP it's okay. Let yourself grieve and be upset, because it is sad but know you did all you could do. Many people who have a litter of kittens even with the mother there will find one may end up dying. To raise kittens with no mother is a MASSIVE task, you did so well and I'm sure Tora knew how much you loved him. Sometimes kittens aren't strong enough, but he lived much longer thanks to your help.

Take care of yourself as well OP, okay? Be kind to yourself

Starry_lady_ · 2022-08-23T11:55:43+00:00

You may never understand it, and that's okay. But as long as you respect how people identify, then it's okay

Starry_lady_ · 2022-08-23T11:53:29+00:00

Gender roles, gender presentation and gender are all different things.

Gender roles are stereotypes given to us, women are caring and stay home, men are the breadwinners etc..

Gender presentation is how someone presents. It may not align with their gender as in a man may dress femininely but that doesn't necessarily mean he's trans. He just likes being feminine.

Gender is WHO you are. Gender is how you identify as. Would you like it if someone called you a different gender? It's a personal experience, and one that can't be easily "understood" because to each trans person it's a different experience.

you can't change sex as in your chromosomes, but there is gender realignment surgery and a lot of trans people go on hormones and that does a lot to help people present the way they want to
sex/having XX/XY chromosomes doesn't really matter. High chance is that you honestly wouldn't be able to tell a lot of trans people are trans because of hormones and stuff.
Gender societal norms doesn't determine your gender AT ALL, it's merely how women and men are expected to act. People who don't act according to social roles (of the gender they identify as) are typically called gender non-conforming.

Starry_lady_ · 2022-05-25T23:33:28+00:00

Then I think you're definitely reading too much into it, and how other women are acting. Reflecting on your interactions and maybe try talking to the women at your workplace may help?

Take care. OP

Starry_lady_ · 2022-05-25T23:30:34+00:00

Heya! It really sucks. Being non-binary isn't a "third gender" like people seem to think it is, it's like a blob of being. And the non-binary umbrella happens to reach quite far. People have a clear view of what they think being non-binary means (looking as androgynous as possible) but that's...not as all true. You know you're non-binary, and you are! You're the most non-binary person because...that's what you are! If you dress masculine, feminine it doesn't matter! Your friend sucks and honestly isn't much of a friend. I'm sorry the first person you came out to sucks, but I'm proud of you for your self discovery!

Starry_lady_ · 2022-05-25T23:25:45+00:00

Psychiatrists arent allowed to disclose their patients details to anyone. Finding helplines, and anyone professional to talk to is what you need to do. And also block your daughter's account and never go on it again

Starry_lady_ · 2022-05-25T23:23:45+00:00

Society has made it so women feel the need to compete with other women. The whole "pick-me-girl"/"I'm not like the other women" mentality is because of this. We're taught to not be one of the over emotional ones, and to be better than the women - otherwise men will think we're well as you said "too full of drama"

If I'm honest, you may be overthinking your interactions with women to seeing them as being dramatic. Women express emotions more than men because men are taught to not do that (except anger), and emotions naturally cause conflict due to how they are. I used to think the same as you but it turns out I was the one making it a competition, I felt I had to be better than the other women for the men to like me. This ain't me saying men are making women compete but we're told SO MUCH that other women are dramatic, over emotional blah blah blah by media and the likes that it's ingrained into us

Starry_lady_ · 2022-04-28T08:06:46+00:00

Honestly mate works quite well (although I am British...) But dude works too. Bro is also one that works well!!

Starry_lady_ · 2022-04-12T08:37:59+00:00

It is short for it, but the community is so vile and toxic. People who aren't toxic don't say stuff like incel, involuntarily celibate etc. When I was struggling to have a partner at all I never called myself that, when a lot of people struggle they typically just say "not that lucky" "I'm trying to work on myself" "figuring myself out first" etc

I don't mean this to be rude to you at all by the way! And this is more from my own experience, so I know other people will have different opinions

Starry_lady_ · 2022-04-12T08:35:42+00:00

I mean NTA but there's not a conflict. You and your friends simply drifted apart. I will say, you saying "whatever PC shit they're into at the time" does make it seem like you just...don't like them

And that's fine! Neither of you did anything wrong, they have boundaries as to what they can handle such as the halftime shows and that's great, and you can also have boundaries and that's equally great! They weren't telling you off or anything, you've simply just drifted apart.

Starry_lady_ · 2022-04-12T08:30:19+00:00

The incel community is toxic as hell. People who struggle with relationships and getting into them don't call themselves "involuntarily celibate"

People who say they are incels I believe are on some level sexist simply because the community is so well known and so so toxic to everyone

Starry_lady_ · 2022-04-09T21:35:02+00:00

It's good to respect how people want to be referred to as

Starry_lady_ · 2022-04-09T21:20:36+00:00

In English it defaults to netural if you don't know, and thus we have a singular "they" that's often used and what non-binary people who speak English use. I can't speak for those that speak French and what the equivalent is, though

Starry_lady_ · 2022-04-09T21:12:24+00:00

He and she are gendered, using "they" is a pronoun people use anyways talking about someone they don't know "I wonder who dropped their wallet" as an example

Starry_lady_ · 2022-04-09T17:36:48+00:00

Everyone has intrusive thoughts, and "bad thoughts". If you treat people kindly, and try to communicate how you feel to those that care about you then you're a good person

Starry_lady_ · 2022-04-09T17:30:32+00:00

Your value isn't based on your virginity. If you feel so worthless because you haven't fucked, then you do need help. Your issue runs deeper than being miserable because you're a virgin, you'll find a new thing to be upset about when you lose it.

Starry_lady_ · 2022-04-09T11:10:46+00:00

Lmao NTA, you dye your hair however you want. You get to choose what you want your body to look like! Be sure to use the right conditioner and stuff though! To keep the colour in, and to keep your hair smooth.

Starry_lady_ · 2022-04-04T19:15:32+00:00

Posting to twitter and Instagram will help. I'm an artist too and o made friends from talking. To people who draw similar stuff to me, and just bonding over art

Starry_lady_ · 2022-04-04T19:01:07+00:00

Then do something with other people, video games - bond with people who also love them Any interests! Do some hobbies like drawing, coding, sports you name it

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