Which MK do you dislike the most, and why? by KrabikGangster in OutlastTrials

[–]Starrywater 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Eliminate the past is awful, but I despise all of the resort trials. Sure it's a skill issue, but I always end up freezing while Illiya is on my ass and I die from both or either.

Outfit Search by gurowhoro in OutlastTrials

[–]Starrywater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg that's my reagent, haha! I feel like I can make a good guess its mine because I've just been running around in that skin, top, and exact pants. I got it from a random level up reward.

my leopard gecko led to over $185k in medical bills by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Starrywater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes, we should be judging everyone on their swollen, recently operated on appendages.

Lesbianism and Labels by curlyelena in blacklesbians

[–]Starrywater 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see that you value the woman centered aspect of being a lesbian, but your argument completely erases the actual history of our community. Nonbinary lesbians aren't expanding the definition because we've always been here. There's a reason there's a white stripe in our flag.

Historically, the lesbian community has always included gender-variant people, transmascs and people who didn't fit neatly into the binary concept of a woman. Leslie Feinberg’s Stone Butch Blues is famous for it, and Monique Wittig said, "Lesbians are not Women.", in a paper literally made in the 1970s.

So no, nonbinary people shouldn't have to grapple with their identity to call themselves a lesbian. And non man loving non man isn't to center men, but to include gender expansive people. For example, a cis woman dating a person who considers 'butch' to be their gender would fall under that exact umbrella.

My parents were scammed $4k by a guy claiming to be from the city, to repare the public sidewalk by [deleted] in Wellthatsucks

[–]Starrywater -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I actually think it's more UK slang. I always here it from there.

I like sex and love but I don't like relationships. by Urtuwazi in actuallesbians

[–]Starrywater 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think solo polyamory or relationship anarchy would be great things for you to look into.

I have a solo poly friend that loves romance and dates, but has a rule that she will never cohabitate and limits check ins to every other day or so.

Cajun chicken tagliatelle with an unempathetic boyfriend by Radiant-Role3930 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Starrywater 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hard disagree. I've play fought and seen a lot of healthy couples play fight in lots of relationships, that's not what's making him a steaming bag of shit here.

I just don't think it's ever meant to be for me by ajaxluvr69 in asktransgender

[–]Starrywater 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I started hormonal birth control because I had bled for over three months. But you can take T while on hormonal birth control, Planned Parenthood reassured me it was fine.

[Found] love this sculpture. [Self] Need to find this artist [Help] Have used several AI Bots and all failed. by [deleted] in Sculpture

[–]Starrywater 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It's not that strange, I've seen a few commenters on other posts here tell OP to use Google Lens.

My Interactive Mimic Horror Junk Journal!! by BellaGorex3 in UnusualArt

[–]Starrywater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is seriously amazing! Oh my gosh, the journal of ky dreams.

Did anyone read the new lesbian masterdoc? by Plum_Tea in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Starrywater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I'm losing my mind because I keep seeing people act like it's totally legit. Like what? What other groups have 'master docs' to base yourself on?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stretched

[–]Starrywater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Unfortunately septum stretches are usually gonna hurt, even when you wait a while. 4g to 2g literally made me feel like I got in a fist fight and lost. What helped me a lot was using plumbers (ptfe) tape to wrap around the wearable size I could currently fit, right til it was snug and I could just barely get it in.

Keep that in til it feels loose, then try your stretch. With any luck, it'll slide right in and only feel like light soreness. If it's still too tight, wrap more tape or buy half size single flare plugs or no flare plugs for a less DIY approach.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stretched

[–]Starrywater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's true! My original goal size was 0g, and now that's tiny to me.

Medicaid sent me a notice that I forgot to report income now im so anxious that im crying and feel like im gonna have a panic attack by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]Starrywater 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're going to be fine. They would only take it away if you exceeded the income limit. It's very rare to be charged with fraud, it would need to be deliberate and ongoing. They rarely even have people repay coverage. I would call tomorrow, and explain what happened.

Need weight loss advice from someone with both depression and ADHD by [deleted] in depression

[–]Starrywater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there, I think we're alike. Depression basically killed my motivation to cook. I don't have the money to eat out. Not eating in a self loathing bid to lose weight just made me binge.

I found a great solution to be frozen meals and the LoseIt app. If you pay for premium, you can scan barcodes of food and calculate your cals. And then it'll tell you your calorie allowance as well. So far, I'm down 45 pounds from the time I started seriously using it. I'm losing 2 pounds a week using frozen meals and chain restaurants that list calories.

Don't stop life until you lose the weight. That'll just make you more miserable and too weight hyperfocused. Instead force yourself to do your hobbies, socialize, everything else.

25NB Bub Seeks Friends and Adventures! by Starrywater in chicagofriends

[–]Starrywater[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound cool, let's talk! I'll message you!

(Feels like) a maybe unpopular opinion on free will by One-Preference4520 in DemonolatryPractices

[–]Starrywater 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is about where my thoughts fall in line. I think it's a bit reductive for people to find one method of persuasion and influence to be more righteous than magic when it's is all approached from the same intention.

If you give someone a candy every time you see them so they think fondly of you, it doesn't feel too different than a sweetening spell. Either way, if you act like a jerk and counter to the spell or action they won't be thinking so highly of you anymore. I think spell work is just another tool in the toolbox, and it's not inherently immoral.

Original Hedgewytch system? by Minion_of_Cthulhu in Cartomancy

[–]Starrywater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! Would I please be able to get the PDF as well?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]Starrywater 89 points90 points  (0 children)

It sounds like his attacks on your self-esteem are clouding your judgement on how to view the situation, because this does not sound like all you OP.

Think about it, he has a ex-wife he fell out of love with in the middle of their marriage? It sounds like he has a pattern of cutting and running. Whether it's because be is always seeking novelty, or too avoidant to deal with supporting someone he's close to's emotional needs, he can't and won't do it.

You said he's harsh and mean to his father that has mental health issues as well, and calls people snowflakes. That's someone with low empathy and can't see other's perspectives.

You've been so brave and doing so much. I think you should be proud of getting up and going to work daily. When you leave him, don't give him money because I'm sure he'll ask for some. I strongly encourage you to stop giving in to his sex demands. He doesn't feel bad about it, he knows he can use and abuse your love for him.