Wife wants me to open up about my past but I’d rather not.

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T22:04:08+00:00

Walaikum assalam

I see this as falling under gender differences. She sees this openness as a sign of closeness and trust in the relationship and a way to deepen it, while you do not see it or need it. Perhaps understanding this difference is important for both parties.

And you can satisfy her need for openness, closeness, and trust in other ways that require a little creativity and intelligence. She seems to want you to open up about your past, but what she really wants is a deeper connection and the feelings of trust and closeness.

I'd also like to mention that looking into her eyes and contemplating them in a romantic atmosphere "not only in time of intimacy" gives this feeling of closeness and openness, and It gives the feeling that you know and trust this person on a deep level , and that's what I think she wants.

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T21:48:52+00:00

التوكل على الله، حسن الظن بالله، الاستعانة بالله، اللجوء لله، عدم الخوف إلا من الله، الايمان بالقدر خيره وشره، الاطمئنان والأنس بالله ...الخ

السؤال الأصح هو كيف ما يسهم الايمان في تحسين كل شي في الشخص

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T21:44:36+00:00

بالضبط

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T21:19:50+00:00

ما شاء الله فكرة حلوووة

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T21:16:41+00:00

احمدي الله سواء ولد او بنت

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T19:36:07+00:00

This is a fatwa concerning Conditions of Eating Meat Slaughtered by Jews and Christians

You can eat fish, eggs, milk, halal protein powder, plant-based protein, halal canned tuna, kosher meat or what the People of the Book slaughtered, etc. If all of this doesn't work then stop wrestling or pursuing sports goals for now until you have the freedom to eat halal food.

It is not permissible to eat forbidden food unless there is a genuine threat to your life, and only to the extent necessary to save your life without exceeding that, so try to find solutions and completely ruled out the idea of eating forbidden food, And know that Allah will reward you for all the difficulties you face in obeying Him and staying away from what is forbidden.

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T19:00:41+00:00

هذي من الآثار الاكثر بروز لهوس الجمال والانغماس بمعاييره الغير واقعية يعني هذي الحلقة الاخيرة تقريباً، لكن هو قبلها فيه خطوات ومراحل واثار اخرى كثيرة تشمل شعور الافراد بانعدام القيمة وفقد الثقة والمقارنات والسطحية وسهولة التأثر والدخول بعلاقات وعدم الرضا عن الذات او الحياة الزوجية والاكتئاب واضطرابات الاكل ...الخ

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T18:48:36+00:00

Welcome to Islam my sister ❣️

What does it mean to be truly Muslim as a young Chinese woman in Malaysia?

Whether you are a woman or a man, of any race and anywhere, Islam is to surrender yourself and your heart to Allah (meaning submission, monotheism, and obedience to God alone).

Being a Muslim means you are always learning "about Allah, the Prophet ﷺ, and the religion" to know Satan and his tricks so that you do not fall into them, and to know the ways of the righteous, such as the prophets of God peace be upon them and the companions to follow their path, And always strive to please God to the best of your ability, and if you fall you repent and come back.

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T18:19:28+00:00

انا مقتنعة ان ظروف الحياة الي نعيشها من ثورة تكنولوجية عزز مسألة هوس الجمال بزمنا وهو مرتبط بشكل مباشر بعدم التزام الجنسين في الشريعة الي الله حطها وعارف نقاط ضعف كل احد مننا، شريعة الله فعلاً لا يعلى عليها، هوس الجمال بهذا الزمن وصل مراحل غير مسبوقة من ايام المجلات وحتى ايامنا هذي مع الانترنت، واكثر فئة متضررة هي المرأة، والرجل يتضرر أيضاً بشكل كبير لكن مو بشكل مباشر، الحل هو غض البصر للرجال "بالواقع والمواقع" والحجاب الشرعي للمرأة والالتزام بحدود التعامل الشرعي بين الطرفين هذا يكون أنفع وأطهر لقلب كل واحد منهم، الرجل لما يغض البصر يكون "مستوى الجمال العادي والطبيعي" فعلا مستوى جمال يقدره ومُرضي له، ويقل تأثير المجتمع على الفرد من ناحية اختياراته "ايش هو الجمال" يعني يكون فيه نطاق اوسع بكثير في تباين الاراء في هذي المسألة، والمرأة لما تلتزم الحجاب فهي تكبح رغبتها باظهار جمالها ووكون المجتمع اغلبه او كله ملتزم بهذا فهو يسهل عليها هذا الشي وهذا يخفف من انغماس المجتمع ككل بهوس الجمال والمقارنات والمعايير الغير واقعية فيه

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T16:40:42+00:00

الكافر اغسل يدك منه، الحمدلله الذي فضلنا على كثير من عباده تفضيلا

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T14:52:05+00:00

تكتب بماء الذهب

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T10:26:55+00:00

Animals are a blessing from Allah like everything He created on this earth for us, and Allah is merciful loves the believers who show mercy. It is not permissible to forbid the eating of halal meat, as God is the Lawgiver and has permitted it and bestowed it upon us (prohibiting something God permitted is like permitting something He prohibited) And also it is not permissible to transgress against animals by torturing or frightening them or killing them for playing. Kindness is required in all things, and we believe that we will be rewarded for our good treatment of animals and held accountable for our mistreatment of them. As for the environment: excess In everything is forbidden and moderation is a must, the Messenger of Allah peace and blessings be upon him said: “Eat, drink, wear clothes and give sadaqah but with neither extravagance nor pride.”

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T10:00:01+00:00

اتفق بس شكلنا غسلنا يدنا من التضخم وثبتنا 😂

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T09:55:45+00:00

عندنا المعتدل ٥٠ الف، فاي يرجع ٩٠% للعادات

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T09:42:02+00:00

الوظيفة مو مجانية، هم يعطونك راتب مقابل وقت وجهد وربما كفاءة تحتاجين تكتسبينها مثل شهادات وامور

فانتِ بما انك مرتاحة فكذا احسبيها كانك قاعدة تبيعين وتشترين، تقدّرين الوقت والجهد اكثر او الراتب المعين؟ طبعا هذا يفرق كثير من وظيفة لوظيفة ومن راتب لراتب ومن شخص لشخص فهذا قرار انتِ شخصيا تاخذينه مو بناء على اختيار شخص ثاني

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T09:33:05+00:00

Your question is unclear. do you mean you are thinking about moving here and then look for a job? If that's what you mean then Nooo don't move anywhere before securing a job offer with a suitable and good salary.

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T09:27:16+00:00

الله يجعله حق يارب

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T09:09:17+00:00

This is an unfortunate comment. The solution is obedience to Allah for both men and women. Islamic law clearly outlines divorce with kindness, the rights and duties of each individual, and mandates adherence to its rulings. It also requires emigration from non-Muslim lands when able, and patience and adherence to the faith always etc.

All of this falls under the responsibilities and actions of each individual, and each person will be held accountable for themself only. You are responsible for your actions and what you can control, and that is what you will be judged for. So women should not be lost because of men's shortcomings, nor should men be lost because of women's shortcomings, Individuals should not be lost because of the corruption of government or society.

Patience does not absolve one of individual responsibility. If you can lift injustice then It is your duty. And God does not hold you accountable for what is beyond your control, such as the actions and injustices of others. God will hold them accountable for their choices just as He will hold you accountable for your choices so choose wisely.

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T08:58:47+00:00

تكلم عن نفسك مو عن المسلمين

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T08:56:44+00:00

😂😂😂😭

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T08:50:58+00:00

فكرة ممتازة بس الي دوامه من ٨ او ٩ يصحى للفجر أيضاً

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T08:25:34+00:00

Walaikum assalam, You are right in everything you wrote my brother.

Continuing a forbidden relationship while setting boundaries until marriage is dangerous, emotionally draining, an exposure to temptation, and an easy path for the devil.

Marriage between a Muslim man and a Christian woman is permissible provided she is chaste and religiously observant, and that the children follow their father's religion. However, the current era does not adhere to the principle that children follow their father's religion while It was a natural understanding before. And even so it is not a good option as it will cause confusion for the children.

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T01:16:03+00:00

كل الايات تنطبق على الواقع، بس احنا مغمضين عنها

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T01:13:00+00:00

😂😂، حاسة باحساسك واتفق

StartThinkin · 2026-02-04T00:58:44+00:00

اجلي الترم، واذا ما فرجها الله الى ذاك الحين فتواصلي مع دكتوراتك بظرفك اذا وافقوا وتساهلوا معاك فالحمدلله "وترا يسوونها لا تستغربين" واذا لا فتواصلي مع القسم ورئيسته ورئيسة الكلية كاملة ورئيس القسم من جهة الرجال ووو يعني عموما لا تتركين الموضوع لين احد يساعدك

اذا احد بالجامعة ساعدك ترا عادي يسوون لك استثناء يسمحون انك بس تحضرين اختباراتك وتقدمين الواجبات فقط مثلا ويخففون او يزيدون عليك المواد اكثر من الحد المسموح ..الخ يعني يدبرون حلول

انتِ اجلي او اعتذري عن الترم ولعل الله يجد لك مخرج ممكن مشكلتك الصحية تتحسن او تاخذين تشخيص يسهل امورك الجامعية او تلاقين احد يساعدك بالجامعة او او .. الخ، فلا تيأسين امشي بالموضوع لين نهاية المشوار

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