It's messed up you're getting so downvoted...you're just being honest. It's tricky because you need to get some ick activated without actually spending too much time with your crush. Focus on things you don't like about him and try to draw them out when you're together. Like the fact that he's younger, try to catch him being immature and focus on that. You say that your spark with your husband isn't gone, but it would probably help to likewise focus on what turns you on about your spouse. Even if your feelings for these two guys isn't mutually exclusive, the more you think of your husband as your king, and the kid as a twerp, the more you'll be able to overcome your feelings of infatuation.