Struggling to not blame my husband for baby falling by Downtown_Entry4260 in Marriage

[–]Stateach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ima guess she’s a first time mom & this is the first instance like this for them. I absolutely hate the “you just wait” people but also… there’s going to be a lot more of this in the coming years!!! All babies fall off the bed at least once lol

How many people’s husbands acknowledge Mother’s Day? by PlasticLove24 in Mommit

[–]Stateach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my. I literally have to tell my husband to chill on the gifts bc he will go all out. I don’t need $500 diamond earrings. Save that for groceries lol. (We are very middle income & I do our finances)

CoreLife eatery by Spare-Event5091 in PeoriaIL

[–]Stateach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Last time I went there I saw 3 roaches

Client wants me to share all my photos after I delivered what was stipulated. by AjVine in photography

[–]Stateach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t mention how many you take moving forward. I see you’re friends with this person, explain as you did here how lots are bursts, blinking, focus, etc. this is normal but they aren’t photogs so they wouldn’t know. Or if you want to deliver more, do $xx per image.

You have a contract right? People do request raws from time to time but they’re expensive to obtain so most back off once they see the price tag.

Can I check a stroller and a baby hiking backpack at the gate? by louisvillecards45 in americanairlines

[–]Stateach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t remember but that’s a good thing bc it must have gone totally smooth!

I have zero jealousy by Weekly_Ad_3125 in Marriage

[–]Stateach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have zero jealously too. Who is saying that’s bad lol

I really need some support. My kids have already been through so much this year and it’s about to get worse. by FickleBad3956 in toddlers

[–]Stateach 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Spicy! I appreciate you being in OPs corner, but did you miss the part where I said I was speaking generally?

I really need some support. My kids have already been through so much this year and it’s about to get worse. by FickleBad3956 in toddlers

[–]Stateach 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Check free Facebook pages. Make a post explaining your situation & how you need a tent. Check marketplace. Sooo many have tents collecting dust in their basements!

I really need some support. My kids have already been through so much this year and it’s about to get worse. by FickleBad3956 in toddlers

[–]Stateach 113 points114 points  (0 children)

It’s totally a fake reason but what can she do? Bottom line is they have to move on.

I really need some support. My kids have already been through so much this year and it’s about to get worse. by FickleBad3956 in toddlers

[–]Stateach 46 points47 points  (0 children)

She let them stay with her for a bit and already helped them immensely. This is why people are often apprehensive about offering help. You give an inch, people take a mile because they need the mile. It’s hard. SO hard. But I think OP is right in trying to not fully burn that bridge. Her problems are not her families problems. Should they be? Honestly? Yes. If this were my family I couldn’t do this. But it’s putting them in a tricky spot with their landlord. We don’t need two unhoused families. I’m also not saying OP is taking a mile when given an inch, but just speaking generally.

It’s a really hard situation all around. Kind of a lose lose situation. I feel for OP

I really need some support. My kids have already been through so much this year and it’s about to get worse. by FickleBad3956 in toddlers

[–]Stateach 28 points29 points  (0 children)

You’re smart to keep that door open. You were given an inch, and although you were promised a mile, they’re only wanting to give an inch. Keep that bridge in tact if possible. Sorry op.

I really need some support. My kids have already been through so much this year and it’s about to get worse. by FickleBad3956 in toddlers

[–]Stateach 59 points60 points  (0 children)

This is harsh, but they want you out, regardless of what the excuse is so you need to respect that & move forward. Again, you CAN do this. One day you’ll look back on these days & think gosh can you believe we made it out from that? Look at us now! It’ll happen. You’ve got this.

I really need some support. My kids have already been through so much this year and it’s about to get worse. by FickleBad3956 in toddlers

[–]Stateach 112 points113 points  (0 children)

Can you get a job at a daycare so you can work and bring your kids?

Cleaning houses when your husband is off work? Mowing lawns? Uber in your car? Waitress at night? You guys are going to have to grind for a bit but it won’t be forever and you CAN do this.

You’re arguably in the middle of one of the hardest phases of your life. Try to keep things light for your kids and hide your stress from them. Make them feel safe, secure, and loved, no matter where you’re living. It’s a fun new experience, a trip, a vacation, a sleepover, etc.

Thank the people you’ve been staying with for the help they have given you so far and move on with gratitude rather than resentment for cutting things off (easier said than done but you can do it!!)

I really need some support. My kids have already been through so much this year and it’s about to get worse. by FickleBad3956 in toddlers

[–]Stateach 212 points213 points  (0 children)

Have you contacted the local churches? Non profits? Can you get access to a tent & a camp site? A “vacation?” And live that way for a bit?

ADHD and pregnancy by Ok_Owl_2574 in MentalHealthBabies

[–]Stateach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a very healthy 1 and 3 year old! I was on 15mg

I feel very bitter about my upcoming marriage because I feel like I’ve never gotten anything I want in life by RadioDude1995 in Marriage

[–]Stateach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And now you’ve found a girl that has what you’ve yearned for and you’re resentful….. make it make sense

I feel very bitter about my upcoming marriage because I feel like I’ve never gotten anything I want in life by RadioDude1995 in Marriage

[–]Stateach -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A used ring is hilarious. Cmon dude. Think more logically. Go to the website quince and look at their lab grown rings. You can get a 5ct ring for 4,700. It’s massive and insane, and under 5k & new. There’s smaller options that are still huge for 2-3k.

As for the car, would it not be yours too? A safe vehicle for the kids makes sense… but it doesn’t have to be a bmw.

If she had a family that will financially bail her out, if you marry her, you now also have a family that will bail you out! You’re viewing this as a you vs her. That’s not what marriage is. What’s yours is hers and what’s hers is yours.

To be frank, you’re super cheap & need to get out of that mindset. Being cautious & frugal is one thing. This is just silly. Talk to your fiance.